This story is from the comments by /u/ComparisonSoft2847 that are listed below, summarised with AI.
User Authenticity Assessment: Not Suspicious
Based on the extensive comment history provided, there are no serious red flags indicating that "ComparisonSoft2847" is an inauthentic account, a bot, or not a genuine desister.
The account exhibits strong signs of authenticity:
- Consistent, Detailed Personal Narrative: The user repeatedly shares a coherent and deeply personal story of being a gender-nonconforming lesbian who nearly transitioned (a desister) but ultimately did not. They consistently reference their age (30s), their past struggles starting in their teens, and their specific reasons for considering transition (e.g., internalized homophobia, discomfort with female social and physical realities).
- Emotional Authenticity: The comments display a wide and believable range of emotions—passion, anger, frustration, empathy, and compassion—which align with the stated experiences of someone who has grappled with gender identity and witnessed harm.
- Substantive Engagement: The user engages thoughtfully with a vast array of complex topics related to detransition, offering nuanced advice, asking probing questions, and sharing opinions that have evolved over time, as seen in their reflection on their own past left-leaning political views.
- No Scripted or Inconsistent Details: The personal history remains consistent across hundreds of comments made over many months. There is no evidence of the copy-pasted language or logical inconsistencies typical of troll or bot accounts.
The account represents a highly active and opinionated desister, which is entirely plausible within the /r/detrans community. Their perspective is critical of transgender ideology and medical transition, especially for minors, but this is a common and passionately held view among many detransitioners and desisters.
About me
I started as a teenager who was deeply uncomfortable with my developing female body and jealous of the freedom boys had. I thought becoming a man was the only way to be a valid, masculine person attracted to women. After being approved for testosterone, I got scared of the health risks and the performative role I felt I'd have to play. I fell into a long depression, but through therapy, I realized my struggle was with internalized homophobia and misogyny, not my sex. Now, I'm a happily married lesbian, finally comfortable as a masculine woman, and I regret the years I lost to that confusion.
My detransition story
My journey with gender started when I was a teenager. I hated my developing female body during puberty. I felt out of place with other girls and was more comfortable doing things that were considered "for boys," like playing soccer. I thought they had it easier and I was jealous of the freedom and respect they seemed to get. I was also a lesbian, and I felt a lot of shame and internalized homophobia about it. I thought if I were a man, my attraction to women would be seen as normal and straight.
Around 2011, when I was in my late teens, I discovered online trans communities. I started to believe that transitioning was the answer to all my discomfort. The communities I was in felt like a cult; everyone was focused on one thing: getting a doctor's referral for hormones. They even shared scripts on exactly what to say to therapists to get approved, like claiming you felt "like a man trapped in a woman's body." I never felt that specific way; I just felt like me, stuck in a body that felt wrong for the life I wanted. A male body seemed like it would fit better, even though I had no idea what it was actually like to live in one.
I went to a therapist to get that referral. I was diagnosed with gender dysphoria and approved for testosterone. But when I actually got the approval, I didn't feel the excitement I expected. Instead, I got scared. I was worried about the health side effects I'd heard about: heart problems, liver damage, and the idea that I'd have to become a lifelong patient dependent on synthetic hormones. I also didn't like the performative aspect of it all, like having to choose a new "male" name. It felt like I'd be playing a role rather than being myself.
So, I decided against medically transitioning. This decision threw me into a deep depression that lasted for most of my twenties. I quit my job, isolated myself, and spent years online living a fake life, pretending to be a guy in chatrooms and virtual worlds like Second Life. I wasted a whole decade of my youth obsessed with gender, too scared to transition but unable to live comfortably as myself. I didn't even start dating until my late twenties because I was so confused about who I was.
My turning point came through a lot of therapy and intense self-reflection. I slowly began to unpack the real reasons behind my feelings. A huge part of it was internalized misogyny and homophobia. I wanted to escape the vulnerabilities and sexualization that came with being a woman. I realized that transitioning would have just been me reinforcing harmful stereotypes—that masculine women should just become men. I started to accept that I could be a masculine, gay woman and that was perfectly valid. The word "woman" didn't have to mean something specific; it just meant I was an adult human female. Everything else was just society's noise.
I still have some body dysphoria, especially about my chest, but it's manageable now. I focus on all the good things in life and all the things my body can do, rather than what it can't. I'm in my mid-thirties now, happily married to a woman, and finally comfortable in my own skin. I don't identify as trans anymore. Looking back, I see the trans community I was in had cult-like behaviors, and I'm grateful I avoided making permanent changes to my body that I would have regretted.
I don't think being trans is the right answer for most people who are struggling. I believe many are dealing with other issues like neurodivergence, trauma, internalized homophobia, or the natural discomfort of puberty, and they're using a trans identity as a band-aid. I have regrets about the years I lost to depression and confusion, but I don't regret deciding not to transition.
Timeline of Events:
| Age | Year | Event |
|---|---|---|
| 13 | ~2001 | Puberty begins; intense discomfort with developing female body, jealousy towards boys. |
| 17 | ~2005 | Spent time online, began exploring identity in chatrooms. |
| 19 | ~2007 | Discovered online trans communities and began seriously considering transition. |
| 21 | ~2009 | Started therapy with the goal of getting a referral for testosterone. |
| 22 | ~2010 | Officially diagnosed with gender dysphoria and approved for testosterone. |
| 22 | ~2010 | Decided against medically transitioning due to fear of health side effects. |
| 22-32 | 2010-2020 | Period of depression and social isolation; lived a double life online pretending to be male. |
| 28 | ~2016 | Began dating for the first time. |
| 30s | 2020s | Through continued therapy and self-reflection, came to accept myself as a masculine, gay woman. Stopped identifying as trans. |
| 36 | Present | Happily married; comfortable in my identity, though some body dysphoria remains. |
Top Reddit Comments by /u/ComparisonSoft2847:
Medically transitioning and performing a masectomy on a 14 year old is incredibly disturbing even in today’s warped transitioning standards.
My heart genuininely goes out to you because that is just criminal levels of abuse to me.
I’m sure you will find advice and support from the detransitioners in this subreddit so please don’t give up.
😂 hears you’re gay and instantly responds with ‘did you ever try men’ in classic straight male behaviour, then self projects and gets mad at you for no reason over their opinion of whether or not you’d date a transwoman.
They’re so predictable man it’s kind of sad.
Every time I looked on a transwoman’s account in these kinds of spaces it had pervy NSFW stuff. Every single time.
It’s not the desire to give birth to their own child that is the issue here for me, it’s the fact that they are looking into ways to actually do it, knowing what a frankenstein experiment that would actually be for the poor baby.
Very disturbing levels of selfish and egotistical behaviour that some of these people exhibit.
Notice how it’s trans girls’ too..
It just proves that their ‘friendship’ was just based on the fact that you identified the same as them, and not on any genuine reason of what true friendship is.
I’m glad you’re free of that shitty situation now and have found some real friends instead.
Your experience is not something you should feel the need to sanitize or apologise for.
Your pain and regret shouldn’t be diminished or ignored just because it goes against what the majority of society/the trans movement is pushing at the moment.
If trans identifying people are upset by the painful truth of what you are going through, then either they are blind to the warning, or frightened by the fact you are being honest of how damaging this transition path can be.
Intersectionality and identity politics is wild, it’s kind of funny seeing people play checkers with it, jumping over each other with their victimhood.
Straight white guys go from being (wrongly) blamed for everything bad in the world, to being the ultimate victim by identifying as a transwoman.
Women who when younger used to bully anyone who was different like gay people, call people ugly, overweight, etc. suddenly have a self diagnosed mental illness, like OCD or ADHD, which not only gives them an excuse for any shitty behaviour but also lets them be ‘different’ at the same time.
Never heard someone identify as trans when they’re not, but nothing surprises me anymore with the nonsense that has been unleashed into society in the past decade.
It’s always strange to me that we need to bring in laws or rules for things that shouldn’t be happening anyway.
Like as a society we’ve got to the point where we have to be prevented from performing completely unsubstantiated yet life-altering medical experiments on under 18’s?
This is definitely a preventative, but my worry is that the ‘movement’ behind this has gone too deep into society, and not only will DIY transitioning of kids still happen, but exploitative medical organizations will just find a loophole to continue?
I don’t think women are actually aroused by themselves the way the transwomen seem to be though.
‘Transphobia’ has just become one of those buzzwords now that is vomited out every time someone wants to have a genuine discussion about transition and maybe put the brakes a little on this avalanche of a movement.
Nobody on here wants to exterminate trans identifying people, or make their lives terrible.
It’s just so telling of the cult behaviour that they are doing this, they don’t want us to talk about it, they want instant compliance and silence on the issue.
Their little cult minions are coming on here like christian missionaries trying to convert the poor detrans heathens into accepting their ideology like we’re living in sin and need to repent.
It’s kind of laughable if it wasn’t so harmful.