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Authenticity Assessment: Not Suspicious
Based on the provided comments, there are no serious red flags indicating this account is inauthentic, a bot, or not a genuine desister.
The user's perspective is consistent and emotionally charged, reflecting the passion and anger mentioned as common among detransitioners/desisters. They repeatedly state they are "not a transgender," which aligns with being a desister—someone who considered transition but did not medically pursue it. The comments show a personal, nuanced understanding of trauma, body image, and gender roles over several months, which is not typical of bot behavior. The language is conversational, with natural variations and emotional depth.
About me
I was born female and my journey started because I never fit the stereotype of a woman and felt terrible due to family trauma and bullying. I thought transitioning was the answer, but the medical system felt like a conveyor belt that never asked why I was hurting. I realized my pain came from trauma and society's rigid rules, not from being born in the wrong body. I stopped testosterone and now I'm healing my mind through holistic health instead of changing my body. I've accepted that I am a woman and I'm finally learning to be at peace with that reality.
My detransition story
My journey with gender was a difficult one, but it wasn't what I thought it was. I was born female, but I never felt like I fit the stereotype of what a woman is supposed to be. I was aggressive, swore a lot, and always played with boys. I was raised in a very abusive, narcissistic family and was bullied a lot, which made me feel like complete shit about myself. I developed deep depression and anxiety, and I hated myself for a long time.
I came to believe that my discomfort was because I was in the wrong body. I thought that if I could just change my outside to match how I felt on the inside, all that pain would go away. I saw a lot of this idea online and among friends; it felt like the only answer everyone was offering. So, I socially transitioned. I think a lot of my feelings were actually rooted in trauma, low self-esteem, and a deep dissatisfaction with the rigid gender roles society forces on everyone. I hated the expectations placed on me as a woman, and I think I confused that with hating being a woman itself.
I took testosterone for a while. I was so deep in it that I was considering top surgery. But something didn't feel right. The medical system felt like a conveyor belt; they just wanted to prescribe hormones and schedule surgeries without ever asking why I felt the way I did. They never tried to help me dig into the deep-rooted issues of my past trauma or my depression. I started to realize the whole system is corrupted by profit, and we, the patients, are just a way for them to make money. They have a new group of vulnerable, confused people to make money from, and they don't have our best interests at heart.
I began to understand that my feelings weren't a sign that I was born in the wrong body. Feelings aren't reality; they change. A sensitive, feminine boy isn't a girl; he's just a boy who doesn't fit the macho stereotype, and that's perfectly okay. Femininity and masculinity are just sets of behaviors and preferences; they have nothing to do with whether you are male or female. Your body is not the problem. The problem is the stupid, rigid rules society has for how men and women are supposed to act.
I decided to detransition. I realized I am a woman. I made a mistake. I regret taking hormones and putting my body through that. I'm thankful I never got surgery. I've been working on healing my mind instead. I refused to take pharmaceutical drugs for my depression and anxiety. I focus on taking vitamins like B12, D, and magnesium, I use herbal supplements like valerian, I exercise, and I eat healthy. It's taken work, but from being suicidal, I am now calm. I haven't been hit by a major wave of depression or anxiety in a long time.
I now see that what I had wasn't gender dysphoria; it was a deep dissatisfaction and a negative self-image caused by trauma and a dysfunctional society, especially for women. We're told we're never enough. I benefited immensely from stepping away from affirming care and instead focusing on non-affirming therapy that helped me ask why I felt the way I did. My journey taught me that authenticity isn't about changing your body to match your feelings. It's about being aware of the social pressures and conditioning that make you feel you need to change in the first place. I am a female. That is my physical reality, and I am finally learning to be at peace with that.
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| 24 | Socially transitioned, began identifying as male. |
| 25 | Started taking testosterone. |
| 26 | Stopped testosterone, began the process of detransition. |
| 27 | Fully accepted my identity as a woman and began focusing on holistic healing for depression and anxiety. |
Top Comments by /u/Concernedmuch:
“I’m a woman. I made a mistake. I want to detrans”... that’s your wish right? So then why put so much importance on others. Are they going through your experience? Are they living your life? Hun, I’m not sure about you, but I don’t rely on peoples opinion of me. No matter what, they have something to say. People judge no matter what. They fucking do, all the time! That’s our nature. So don’t let others’ idea of you influence you. Be you and do what’s good for you. Eventually people come around and if they don’t, then be with people that love you for you, not an idea of you.
Maybe everyone should read this article before ruining themselves by listening to lies! This one:
And most definitely this one, which broke my heart. I’m so angry 😡😡 a young gay boy who was groomed and brainwashed to transition. I spit on these people who do this to anyone!
Hun, I think in your mental vulnerability, you’re putting too much pressure on yourself to figure out little things, and then you compare your finding to other stuff that aren’t facts.
It’s like when people feel a bit of pain in their leg, research, and because there is so much info out there, they begin to think it’s cancer or a deadly disease.
Don’t worry about what showing your neck means. Who cares! You like showing your neck, then show it, and don’t question why.
Just try to figure out yourself from inside. Heal your mind. Your body reacts to what your mind tells you; the constant stupid stories our mind plays for us “I’m too ugly, I’m too fat, no one will love me, is everyone judging me, why is he looking at me this way, she hates me, I’m a failure, etc etc etc”
So, don’t buy your mind’s stories.
For now just heal. Work on yourself. You don’t need to be someone else to be you.
Your confusion about your sexuality plus the diagnosis are creating chaos.
Just be.
Im not trans but if you don’t mind, I’m going to answer you; why do you feel the need to tell that friend, and why do you think it’s important that others should interfere with YOUR life decisions? Are they going to live your life for you?
Let me ask you this; does an atheist reach her decision by asking her religious friends about her doubts, or does she reach her decision by logic and critical thinking? What answer would an atheist receive from her religious friend? I’m sure the friend will do everything in their power to change her mind.
Belief is very different from logic and critical thinking. Transgenderism is a belief system. It’s what you think or feel about yourself. It’s not real. So, think and make decisions that are logical and good for you in the long run. You can’t get the answers or the support you need from a group that’s pushing everyone to become a transgender and attacks people like you who regret or detransition. It’s very cult like.
Lots of materials out there. Do what’s best for you, and if that friend doesn’t like it, it’s none of their business and they’re not a friend.
Thank you for sharing your story <3
I'm not a transgender but I was raised in a narcissistic family and they made me hate myself for who I am. Although Dysphoria seems to be a condition connected to Transgenders, but I don't think it's true. It's dissatisfaction and I think so many people are dissatisfied with their bodies because even if they're not raised in abusive families, the entire human society is dysfunctional and abusive, especially towards women. We're told that we're not enough; not pretty enough, young enough, smart enough, good enough so women, individually or as a class, are Dysphoric and suffer from a negative self-image, depression, anxiety, eating disorders and trauma. The evidence is all around us.
You were smart enough to understand the root of the issues. Keep raising awareness hun. Tell your story and don't let anyone silence you, shame you, bully you for telling your truth.
I go to doctors because I assume they know more than me. After all, they studied for many years to have the knowledge, right?
And now, thanks to trans lobbying, most of them are confirming hormone therapy rather than helping the patient to dig in deeper and heal whatever mental issues they’re facing. So, it IS the professionals fault, and not the patient. It is their responsibility to look after their patients in an ethical compassionate way. They have to be held responsible, and not the other way around.
What do you mean by “scare some kids out of transition”? How does one scare another out of transition by exposing logic and facts? Kids? Kids brains are NOT fully developed till the age of 24, so they can’t really make logical decisions, and that’s why pharma goes after vulnerable. In the past, many were transgenders too, and all lived without transitioning and hormones. However, just like everything else in this era, drugs are introduced to numb and destroy people. Suffering of any kind doesn’t make one a bigger victim anywhere. And suffering shouldn’t be the reason to jump into dangerous alterations. Easy way out is never the answer.
Don’t let your child be online. Talk to him about gender and gender roles. Tell him that it’s ok if he likes feminine stuff. All it means is that he is still a boy but a more feminine boy rather than macho masculine boy. That his body is perfect. I know that you think children don’t understand or ignore what parents tell them, but it’s not true. First of all they sense the anxiety around them, and second if you repeat the same things, you’ll plant the seed. The same goes for online communities who tell children that if they’re feeling a certain way, then they’re in the wrong body and should do something about it. They’re also planting seeds, but they’re toxic seeds, and that’s why I said to keep him offline.
Enforcing positive thoughts about his body is the best method. Explains to him that Gender only means masculinity or femininity, and it has nothing to do with his body. The way he likes to express that is ok. He can look at it like art.
Educate, educate, educate or others who benefit from brainwashing him will educate him.
I wholeheartedly empathize with all of you, and I’m soooo angry at many things, specifically at people, and more specifically at people we know who cause trauma in our lives. My heart goes out to all of you. Mental illness isn’t anything anyone should be ashamed of. The shame is on people who cause mental issues in others. Thank you all for coming forward. Much love to you ❤️
Are you diagnosed with BPD? I’m asking this because self harm and thoughts of suicide are the traits of BPD, and dissociation is another trait. This could be why you hate your body, etc. Everything about your emotions and how you feel triples with BPD.