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About me
I started identifying as trans at 18, heavily influenced by online communities without doing my own thinking. I had top surgery at 21, but by 24, I was devastated by the loss and the realization I could never breastfeed my future children. The cruelty I faced from my old communities when I expressed regret was a slap in the face that made me question everything. Now, nearly 30 and married, I’ve found healing through my husband’s love and by focusing on my body’s strength instead of its appearance. I’ve never been happier, and while I don’t regret the person it made me, I would never wish this path on anyone else.
My detransition story
My whole journey with transition and detransition is something I’m still making sense of. I started identifying as trans in my late teens, around 18 or 19. It was a time when I was really online, especially on Tumblr, and my opinions were just what I was told to have by that community and mainstream media. I didn't really do my own research or thinking. I think a lot of it was about escapism for me, a way to run from myself and my problems with low self-esteem.
I ended up getting top surgery when I was 21. At the time, I hated my breasts and thought it was the solution. I was so sure. But after I detransitioned, starting around age 24, I was immediately devastated by the loss. The biggest pain for me now is knowing I won't be able to breastfeed my future children. I'm sure I'm going to have a lot more rage about it when I become a mother. That loss is profound.
When I first realized I needed to detransition and said something about it online, I was immediately told to “kys terf” by people in those same communities. When I tried to open up to my trans friends about the pain of regret, I was told I was never really trans and to never speak about my experience again. That slap in the face was really what opened me up to questioning everything else I had believed. It made me start doing my own research for the first time.
Now that I'm almost 30, married, and looking to have kids soon, my perspective has completely changed. I used to roll my eyes when conservatives said "you’ll understand when you are older," but they were damn right. I find myself drawn to predominantly conservative values now that I've actually lived a little and built a life for myself.
My husband has been a huge part of my healing. He loves me so much and touches my body and looks at it as though nothing is missing. He very sweetly said “meh big boobs are…. Sloppy?” when I was crying that he would have loved my breasts. His love and acceptance have meant everything.
Learning to accept my body has been hard work. I started kickboxing and pilates, and focusing on what my body can do—how strong and capable it is—has helped me stop focusing so much on the parts I dislike. I’ve found looking at runway models and flat-chested actors like Keira Knightley has helped boost my confidence, too. I wear padded sports bras sometimes, and they look very real. But I firmly believe that more cosmetic surgery isn't the answer. The thing that got all of us into this was an inability to accept reality and ourselves. I don't think any doctors who profit off our insecurity deserve another penny.
I don't regret my journey because it made me who I am today, stronger and with a much clearer sense of myself. But I would never wish this path on anyone else, especially someone young. The most rage I feel about it now isn't about how I look, but about the utility my breasts would have served. I’ve never been happier in my life than I am now, doing the work to be as mentally and physically healthy as possible. None of it comes easy, but god, it’s so worth it.
Here is a timeline of my journey:
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| 18-19 | Started identifying as trans, heavily influenced by online communities. |
| 21 | Underwent top surgery. |
| 24 | Began the process of detransition. |
| 30 (now) | Almost 30, married, and focused on building a healthy life. |
Top Comments by /u/Conscious_Limit1493:
Absolutely, when I realized I detransed and said something on tumblr about it I was immediately told to “kms terf” and when I opened up to my trans friends about the pain of regret I was told I was never really trans and to never speak about my experience again lol so after that slap in the face definitely opened me up to all the other topics I was completely black and white about
Just looked at your account and saw some pics of you, you are stunning! You look like a high fashion model. I’m in the same boat, it has helped me to find some examples of women with flat chests and if you really want to have some shape there are tons of ways to make it look like you have small cups I wear sports bras with padding and they look very real. I know how painful it is but trust me you are beautiful and it’s really worth it to meditate on your body, exercise, feel healthy and powerful. I started kick boxing/pilates and I appreciate my body so much for being so strong and capable it stops me from focusing on the parts I “dislike” and makes me so thankful for the whole body
Absolutely! I’m devastated by the loss of my breasts and I’m sure I’m going to have a lot more rage about it when I become a mother but I met someone who loves me so much who touches my body and looks at it as though nothing is missing and I’ve been doing the work to be as mentally and physically healthy as possible, none of it comes easy but god it’s so worth it I’ve never been happier in my life
Oh okay I see why you are here I think discussion is vital but maybe a support group of people in pain isn’t the place for this kind of thing. If you really want to learn there are plenty of detrans interviews on YouTube I recommend checking those out and I’m sure there’s other places for “debate” but the people here need support not grilling from someone who idk.. maybe you read something on here that struck a nerve and now you feel the need to double down by lashing out at hurt people? I wish you the best I really do but uk maybe read the room
I get what you’re getting at but it’s a bit distasteful a lot of the people here are young and struggling with identity. I’m almost thirty and it’s been almost 6 years since I detransed so yeah I’ve come out better and stronger for what I’ve gone through and now can celebrate my strength but I wouldn’t wish for someone else especially someone way younger than I was to go through it. So I guess that’s why the most rage I feel about it now is the utility my breasts would have served
I see some people recommending more surgery (implants/fat transfer).. I feel like the most valuable thing you can do is to save your money and learn to love yourself. The thing that got all of us into this shit is the inability to accept reality and ourselves I don’t think more cosmetic surgery will save any of us from the core issues of why we are here. No hate to those saying it but none of these doctors who profit off of our insecurity deserve a penny imo.
also most of my opinions were ones I was told to have by tumblr and mainstream media, when I detransed I realized I didn’t believe in anything cause I had never done my own research but now that I have I find myself drawn to predominantly conservative values, i used to roll my eyes when conservatives would say you’ll understand when you are older but now that I’m married looking to have kids soon and almost in my 30’s they were damn right
confused about mods asking what this has to do with detrans, kind of everything right? If we can’t speak out about our experiences because we are at risk of losing our jobs that’s kind of a big deal specifically for us who have a personal stake in the conversation
They tell you exactly what to do and where to be I think in total from my name getting called to me standing up it took about a minute, they confirmed my name and what I was changing it to and that was it! You'll do great try not to overthink it, they see so many people nobody will give you a second thought! Good luck!
This is very sweet I definitely found that looking at runway models and very flat chested actors like Keira Knightly helped boost my confidence tons and of course my husband who very sweetly said “meh big boobs are…. Sloppy?” when I was crying that he would have loved my breasts lol so now that I’ve accepted the aesthetics for me the most painful part is that I won’t be able to breast feed our babies also I don’t think I would ever willingly go under the knife for any cosmetic reason so unless they figure a way to grow mammary glands in the next 2 years I’m living with what I got lol