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Based on this limited comment history, the account appears authentic.
There are no serious red flags for being a bot or a bad-faith actor. The comments show a consistent, personal narrative of someone cautiously questioning their gender identity, engaging with therapy, and seeking advice from both supportive and critical perspectives. The language is natural, with personal reflections and emotional nuances (gratitude, fear, uncertainty) that are difficult to fake convincingly. The user's expressed desire to avoid a "huge mistake" and their description of being at a "crossroad" are consistent with a genuine desister's perspective.
About me
I'm a teenager who always felt different from other boys, and now I'm dealing with intense dysphoria. I started therapy to carefully explore these feelings because I see medical transition as a permanent, one-way street. My dad's advice about learning to play the cards you're dealt has me thinking about acceptance instead of change. I'm questioning if being trans is a response to deeper issues, and listening to detrans voices has been crucial for balance. Right now, I'm being very cautious, focusing on understanding who I am before I make any decisions.
My detransition story
Of course. Here is a summary of my experiences based on my comments.
My journey with gender has been confusing and I'm currently in a place where I'm trying to figure everything out carefully. I'm talking to a therapist now because I don't want to make a huge mistake. I know it's going to take many months and many sessions to really understand what's going on with me.
Right now, the feeling of dysphoria is really strong. It feels like a pain that just builds and builds. My dad shared some wisdom with me that really stuck. He said that a lot of trans people might regret their choices later because sexuality and even gender identity can change throughout your life. He understands why people pursue hormones and surgery, but he feels it's better to play the cards life dealt you in the best way possible, instead of trying to change them. His view is that life doesn't give out new cards; all you have is what you were born with, and you have to learn to work with that. I'm trying to embrace that idea of forgiveness as a path to acceptance.
I'm trying to look at this from every angle. I've been thinking a lot about whether being "trans" is actually a mental response or a coping mechanism. Maybe it's a way for the brain to avoid confronting a deeper trauma that's actually causing the dysphoria. I've also heard that a lot of trans people are autistic, and I wonder if that's a factor—if the autism creates a longing to be different from everyone else. My gears are definitely turning as I try to understand the root cause.
I'm being very cautious because I see hormones and surgery as a one-way street that's hard to back out from. Hearing from people who have detransitioned has been an incredible help. It's helping me try to find out who I am, not just who I want to be. My parents always knew I was different from other boys, but they wanted me to discover myself on my own.
I also have some thoughts about the communities involved. The LGBT community is very loving, but that can become a problem because it creates almost an echo chamber effect. It's so supportive that it can feel like there's only one right path. That's why talking to people in this detrans community has been so valuable. I get to hear views from both sides, which helps me make a more balanced decision. I don't understand the "transphobia" claims against spaces like this. From my experience, if you look past your assumptions, you can have a nice, mature conversation. After all, assumption is the mother of all mistakes.
I'm standing at a real crossroads in my life, and I know I need to tread carefully. I don't want to end up on a road to misery and self-destruction. If I do get diagnosed with gender dysphoria and decide to transition, I find myself hoping that medical technology advances quickly, imagining a future where transition could be done "100%," but I know that's not the reality right now.
Ultimately, I don't have any regrets about transitioning because I haven't medically transitioned yet. My journey so far has been entirely social and internal. My main feeling right now is one of caution and a need to understand myself deeply before taking any permanent steps.
Here is a timeline of my journey so far:
| My Age | Event |
|---|---|
| Childhood | Felt different from other boys, according to my parents. |
| Currently (Teenager) | Experiencing intense build-up of dysphoria. Actively questioning my gender identity. |
| Currently (Teenager) | Started therapy to explore my feelings and avoid making a rash decision. |
| Currently (Teenager) | Engaging with both trans and detrans communities online to hear different perspectives. |
Top Comments by /u/Cooasters:
Thank you. Ill try my best to understand but correct me if im wrong. So can being "trans" be seen as a mental response/coping mechanisim that the brain uses in order to avoid confronting the very trauma causing that feeling of dysphoria? If its a mental ilness what causes someone or makes someone more prone to identifying as "trans"? Ive heard that a lot of trans people are slightly autistic. Would it then be the autism that causes this longing to be different from everyone else. I dont know if I understand all of it but the gears in my head are turning.
Thank you for your insights ❤️
Exactly. Thats what I also think.
They are very wise and said that even though they understand why trans people get hormones and surgery its just best to play the cards that life dealt in the best way instead of trying to change them. Life dosent give out new cards. All you got is all you will ever have.
Thank you ❤️
This is exactly what I needed to hear. Right now im talking to a therapist and its going to be many months and MANY sessions to figure this out because I dont want to make a huge mistake. Its going to take several months.
My dad also said to me that a lot of trans people mught regret their choices in the future because sexuality may change throughout your life and so could your gender identity.
When did you transition and detransition? Like how old were you? Im asking because I need to know if im just in a weird phase.
Thank you so much ☺️ I dont take it in a condecending way. It feels more like a compliment. Dysphoria is a pain and it feels like it just builds and builds right now. Forgiveness is the path to acceptance in my mind. I wish more people have that mindset.
If im diagnosed and do decide to transition i just pray that the biotech revolution comes sooner rather than later. So many technologies that would revolutionize the field and make it possible to do it 100% not taking ethics of such practices into consideration.
All in all im just being very carefull. Standing at a bit of a crossroad in my life so its best to tread carefully and get advice from those with more experience around me. Dont want to end up taking the road to misery and self
Talking to you people is so nice. I really dont get the "transphobia" claim by other subreddits. Its just that you need to look past your assumptions and you can have a nice mature conversation. After all, assumption is the mother of all mistakes.
Again, thank you so much ❤️
Thank you so much for sharing.
Hormones and surgery are a one way street and its hard to back out from that. Your experience and others are an incredible help for someone like me who is trying to find out who I am not who I want to be. My parents always knew i was different from normal boys but they wanted me to find it out for myself.
The lgbt comunity is so loving that it becomes a problem especially for things like this. They are very sweet people but it makes an almost ecochamber effect so asking you amzing people here at detrans is so nice because I get views from both sides! 😊
My descision will not be an easy one and it will be taken after i have considered it from every angle.
Again. Thank you for sharing your experience.