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About me
I wanted to be a girl from a very young age because I had feelings for men but grew up in a place where being gay was seen as horrible. I finally learned what it meant to be a gay man in high school, and my desire to be female completely faded away. I realized my early confusion was due to internalized homophobia and not a true identity issue. I am now completely comfortable and happy living as a gay man. I am grateful I never made permanent changes to my body for what was, in my case, a misunderstanding.
My detransition story
My journey with gender started when I was very young, around first grade. I remember wanting to be a girl. Looking back, a big part of that was growing up in an environment where being gay was seen as something horrible. I didn't even really understand what it meant, I just knew "f*gs are horrible people" was a concept that was pushed. At the same time, I started having feelings for guys, like being really interested in the muscular men in Bowflex commercials. But because I had no concept of homosexuality, my young brain figured that to be with a guy, I must need to be a girl. I never acted on it outwardly because I knew I'd get bullied or worse, but that feeling was always there.
It wasn't until middle school or high school that I actually learned what homosexuality was. I realized I was just gay. That wanting to be a girl faded away once I understood that a man could love another man. I grew up just as gay rights were starting to come around, but there was still a lot of anti-gay propaganda from religious groups. I'm glad I figured that out before I did anything permanent.
I see now that my early feelings were a mix of internalized homophobia and confusion. I also think the online environment and the friends you have play a huge role. When I was questioning, I saw a lot of stuff online that really turned me off. People were saying things like "girl penis" in a way that felt really fetishistic and creepy, especially when it involved drawings of kids. I wanted to be a woman, not a "trans woman" in that kind of community. It all felt very performative and toxic. I'm lucky that it repulsed me so much, because it made me step back and really think.
I strongly believe that for a lot of people, feelings of gender dysphoria are actually symptoms of other mental health issues. Things like body dysmorphia, depression, anxiety, bipolar disorder, or being on the autism spectrum. I've seen that autistic kids might look at other kids of their own sex and not see themselves acting the same way, so they conclude they must be the other gender. It's a social confusion, not always a true identity issue.
That's why I'm so against rushing into hormones or surgery, especially for young people. Your brain isn't developed enough to make that kind of permanent decision. You can't drink until you're 21, but they'll let you lop off body parts? It makes no sense. The medical system used to vet people for other mental illnesses before allowing transition, but that's all gone now because it was seen as offensive. Now it's just "informed consent" without any real questioning. I think that's why the post-transition and detransitioner suicide rates are so high. They go through with these huge changes, and then they realize it didn't fix the underlying problem. They still feel the same emptiness or dysphoria, but now their body is permanently altered.
I don't regret not transitioning. I came to a place of comfort with being a gay man. I think if I had medically transitioned when I was younger, I would have deeply regretted it. For me, it was a journey of understanding my sexuality and overcoming internalized shame, not about changing my body.
I don't think being trans isn't real for anyone, but I do think it's incredibly rare for someone to need surgery. It should be an absolute last resort, and only after extensive therapy to rule out other issues. The push for immediate affirmation is dangerous.
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| ~6 (First Grade) | Started wanting to be a girl. Felt this was the only way to be with a man, due to no understanding of homosexuality and internalized homophobia. |
| Middle/High School | Learned what homosexuality was. Realized I was gay and the desire to be a girl faded. Understood my feelings were about sexuality, not gender. |
| Young Adulthood | Researched transition online but was repulsed by the toxic and fetishistic communities I found. Solidified my comfort with being a gay man and decided against any medical transition. |
Top Comments by /u/Cookiedoughjunkie:
Sophie LaVelle is legitimately a pedophile, but she gets a pass just like a 'former reddit admin' and a lot of other people so long as they put their virtue signalling 'trans far left status' ahead of it.
she took pictures of babies and redrew them in diaper fetish furry shit.
they don't consider detrans people in any of these statistics.
take the post transition suicide rate, they don't put the fact that most of them were detrans that regret the transition. Nope, that doesn't exist. Must just pretend that detrans doesn't exist
and morons like the 'artist' above lie all the time for their agenda.
A few problems I see is how you phrased certain things. "Transition is right for most people" Even to people who are lifelong transgenders, surgery isn't right for most of them. The dysphoria didn't require surgery. It's why a lot of post op Transgenders (not including detrans) are very suicidal. They think that it fixed their feelings and it didn't.
You are also worried about losing your friends. If you have to pretend to be trans to be friends with them, they're not your friends.
"it sucks but whatever" No, this is a huge problem that they let you get this surgery so young. You can't smoke or drink until 21 but lopping off body parts is Aokay because your brain totally is developed enough for that but not alcohol??
I'm glad that you're handling it well for now, but most people who go through with it do not handle it well at all. So, you got that going for you.
good luck
edit: quick fyi, you're not a desisted female, you're detrans. Desisted are the people who didn't chemically or surgically transition.
narcissists. There are people who are identifying as trans who are clearly not. Just like there are 'heterosexuals' who are identifying as queer just to join the train.
Literally seen born females identifying as trans women because they identify with feeling like a woman born into a man's body, even if they have a female body.
It's just become too powerful and useful and without challenge to NOT invent a way to claim you're trans and it has hurt actual transgenders who aren't these ideologues.
Take a lot of the trans subs who have banned talks about dysphoria. Why? because "Dysphoria is not a requirement to be trans, and that offends us" removing the fact that there are trans people who are struggling with crippling dysphoria and you've just hijacked another method in which they should have been able to use for support.
Mine is probably a lot different than some of the other desistors here.
So... when I was a small kid I wanted to be a girl, I think like first grade. and part of it is really messed up I guess. I grew up knowing 'f*gs are horrible people' even though I had no idea what it was, it was just a concept said. However, towards that time I also started liking...well, bowflex commercials a lot without really understanding that I just have a big muscle guy interest. To me though, in order to love/be with a guy since I had no concept of what homosexuality is, I just wanted to be a girl so that I could be with them.Of course, I never ACTED like a girl because like, I'd have gotten killed, but it was always that want.
and it wasn't until like middle school or high school that what homosexuality actually was set in. I grew up at a time where gay rights were pretty much starting to come around, but you still had massive Christian antihomophobia propaganda being pushed and that was what I was exposed to. But I grew out of my wanting to be a girl and just going "ah, I'm just gay"
(an aside, I also started noticing for a period of time more people were finally coming out as gay. Then in recent years younger people just started out as trans and kept at it because it's I guess more trendy or they're being told to in order to be good. Like all the weird "egg" talk TRAs do. Like we only had a few years where coming out as gay was okay, now it's gotta come out as trans first)
this actually isn't true. and I don't know why people keep saying it
Misgendering cisgenders has been a thing for centuries. Calling a guy a nancy or with female pronouns, or a girl who's not a size 0 barbie by masculine names and pronouns..
You have heard it, the problem is you don't register it as the same thing.
there is a video on youtube by Cluniac (detrans) confronting their former gender therapist.
They're allowed to call themselves that without any training and that's a big problem, cluniac got it all caught on audio her admitting she didn't have a degree nor did she read a lot of articles on it, just AN article that told her what to say to someone questioning and then "I'm sorry you're not happy with -your choice-" Fucking disgusting.
Be respectful to people worth respecting.
Why is misgendering off the table? Honestly curious. I don't make it a habit to do it, but we can insult looks, intelligence, etc. Why is gender and pronouns (things that should be close to meaningless) to be the sacred hill?
I'm simply using statistics. For a lot of people with dysphoria, they found they also had other mental illnesses like BPD, bipolar, schizophrenia, etc. and once that was treated the feelings of gender dysphoria went away. Other people had body dysmorphia which is just other issues to work over. The problem with how they prescribe surgery and body altering chemicals first leads to them realizing that wasn't the problem when they still feel the same. For those in the past who had their other issues solved, usually the dysphoria went away if not completely, to a manageable level.
you may not have looked into it being with a group of 'trans friends who laugh at the cissies' but you know why the transgender suicide rate is so high? It's not the pre-transition ones. The suicide rate for post transition and detrans are higher than pre-op transgenders by a high amount. They say the rates are high because society doesn't accept them. Well, acceptance was at an all time high a few years ago (until TRAs started ruining it) and the suicide rates skyrocketed. So what was different? The increased rate of surgeries without any vetting process.
Transgenders used to be vetted for having other mental illnesses before getting HRT or SRS. Howver, they removed that because it became offensive to do so to the narrative so it was give HRT and SRS without question.
those who need surgeries are going to be very very rare, and yes, should be able to get it much later when they're old enough to know what they're doing.
banning gender transition for adults is asinine. Though I do believe we need to be more proactive in encouraging mental health awareness and go back to where if someone has bipolar, schizophrenia, BPD, etc that they get treated for that first as in a lot of cases once THAT was treated, the gender dysphoria went away.