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About me
I watched my gentle son get convinced online that he was a girl, and a clinic gave him hormones after just one visit. They fast-tracked him for irreversible surgery, and now he's depressed, isolated, and cut off from our family. I believe he was sold a lie that he couldn't just be a kind, effeminate man. I regret that society allowed this to happen and that he never got proper therapy for his unhappiness. I will never give up on him, and I pray he sees the truth one day so we can help him heal.
My detransition story
My journey with this started because of my son. I never transitioned myself, but I watched my son go through it, and it has been the most painful experience of my life. I’m writing this to share what happened, in the hope that it might help someone else.
It all began when my son, who was a gentle and effeminate boy, started to believe he was a girl. He was deeply unhappy and I believe he was influenced heavily by his friends online and in person who were all identifying as trans. It was like a contagion. He went to a transgender clinic and after just one visit, they gave him cross-sex hormones. They didn’t ask for any clinical history or refer him to a psychologist. They just affirmed him and gave him the drugs. It was shocking how fast it happened. They even fast-tracked him for surgery.
I believe he was sold a lie. Society convinced him that there was something wrong with being an effeminate male. Instead of being encouraged to work through his problems and become a self-sufficient adult, he was offered a quick fix for what I see as first-world problems. The hormones put him into a deep depression. He cut off all communication with our family and his old friends. He only associates with people who are trans-identified now. Our hearts ache for him every single day. We wait for his return, but he is lost in what I can only describe as cult think.
He had surgery, and now he is stuck with it. It’s something he can’t reverse. The doctor pushed him into it. I see it as being butchered. He lives his life in what I imagine is solitude and regret. I’ve seen the effects in our family circle; a life shortened, with weak bones, a greater risk of cancer, and a body that has to deal with the side effects of antidepressants on top of the synthetic hormones. These hormones are toxic. They are at war with your DNA. Every cell in your body knows what sex you are, and fighting that is damaging.
My thoughts on gender are simple: you cannot change your sex. It’s a biological fact. Men cannot become women and women cannot become men. It’s a performance based on stereotypes. When a man says he has "lived as a woman," it's based on a performance of what society says a woman is—like being treated with chivalry, which is actually rooted in seeing women as the weaker sex. Why can't a man just be a decent man, a kind and gentle man, without having to pretend to be something he’s not? Enjoying things that are labelled feminine is about personality, not biological sex.
I have immense regret about my son's transition. I regret that we, as a society, allowed this to happen to him. I regret that he wasn't given proper therapy to find out why he was unhappy with himself before he started transitioning. Cognitive therapy doesn't damage the body or mind. I feel he was poisoned and mutilated for profit, and if you speak out against it, you are called a transphobe.
I don't regret my own actions, because I tried to warn him. I only regret that I couldn't stop it. I will never give up on him. I have to believe that one day he will see the truth and we can help him heal from the trauma that caused all of this in the first place.
Here is a timeline of what happened from my perspective:
| My Age | My Son's Approx. Age | Event |
|---|---|---|
| (Not specified) | Teenager | Son became involved with friends who identified as trans and was influenced online. |
| (Not specified) | Late Teens | Son went to a transgender clinic and was prescribed cross-sex hormones after a single visit. |
| (Not specified) | Late Teens/Early 20s | Son was fast-tracked for and underwent irreversible surgery. |
| (Not specified) | Early 20s | Son cut off all contact with our family. He lives in depression and isolation. |
Top Comments by /u/Criticalmode3:
None of this is surprising. She is brave for telling the truth. Our son received hormones after once visit to a trans clinic. No clinical history requested, no psyche referral, just affirmation and cross sex hormones. Even worse he was fast tracked for surgery. Clinics are profiting off of this contagion. Our young people are being poisoned and mutilated, and if you speak out against it, you are labelled a transphobe.
Im sorry you were tricked into thinking trans'ing was the solution to your problems. No one can change sex, it's simply a performance. I hope you can learn from this and heal from the trauma that caused your insecurity in the first place. As a mom who's child is lost in cult think, my heart is happy for you. It gives me hope for young people who are being damaged by this unhealthy social contagion.
Yes, but it requires a great deal more work to detransition when they realize they've made a mistake. Cognitive therapy doesn't damage the body or mind. Young people are being offered a quick fix for their first world problems, instead they should be encouraged to become independent thinkers and self sufficient adults. We don't need a generation of self entitled narcissists.
Thank you for your kindness. I will never give up on my son. Unfortunately he has cut off communication with his entire family. Our hearts ache for him everyday. He only associates with trans identified people. We wait for his return. I am happy for you and your mom, I am sure you are cherished.
It's not a negative judgement. It's the truth. Men can not attempt to usurp womanhood then expect actual biological women to hold their opinions. I have a post op TIM in my family circle. He has been poisoned and butchered, he lives his life in solace and regret. He was sold a lie.
You are genetically male, therefore you are not and can never be a lesbian. Cut off your testicles and invert your penis but it will never be a vagina. All you'll be left with is a wound, one that will need to be dilated for life because wounds want to close up and heal. Synthetic hormones will war with your DNA thereby shortening your life. Embrace the truth, look outside yourself and be the best person you can be and learn to love the skin you're in.
Synthetic hormones are toxic to the human body. They war with your DNA. Every cell of a persons body contains chromosomes congruent with their natural sex. His bones are now weak, he has a greater risk of cancer and the antidepressants have unhealthy side effects. I grieve for every person trying to transition to the opposite sex. It isn't even possible. It's all a charade. Lives are being destroyed by TRA'S selling a lie.
The drugs put him into a depression. He is now stuck with a surgery he can't reverse, ( his TRA doctor pushed him into it). He no longer associates with family or friends. His life is shortened, all because society convinced him that there was something wrong with being an effeminite male.
How exactly do girls receive attention? As a biological female and my long experience as one, the attention we receive is primarily sexual in nature. Our bodies are commodified, we are always aware of possible sexual assault. Women, unless groomed to think their value only lies in their sexuality and it's performance do not welcome uncalled for attention.
Time to reclaim yourself. You've learned from your experience, put it behind you and begin afresh. If this is difficult, you may have to identify why you chose trans in the first place, self imposed misogyny is my guess. I wish you the best. Start loving the skin you were born in, a body without synthetic hormones.