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Reddit user /u/Crocheted-tiger's Detransition Story

female
low self-esteem
hated breasts
took hormones
regrets transitioning
escapism
trauma
puberty discomfort
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About me

From a young age, I saw myself as a boy and felt miserable being a girl, which I now understand was a form of escapism from trauma. I was put on testosterone by a major clinic after identifying as trans, but years later, I realized it all felt like an elaborate game of pretend. When I told my therapist I regretted it and was just a woman, I was immediately dropped from treatment and the study. I deeply regret taking hormones and wish I had been encouraged to deal with my underlying trauma instead. Now, I am living as a woman, understanding that my feelings were not about my true identity.

My detransition story

My whole journey with this started when I was a kid. I saw myself as a boy from a young age. Every character I created to represent myself was a boy. I was miserable whenever anyone referred to me as a girl or a woman. I just couldn't imagine a future where I grew up to be a woman. Looking back, I think a lot of this was tied to childhood trauma and some really unhealthy family dynamics. I was resenting and denying my sex instead of dealing with the real reasons I felt that way. It was a form of escapism.

When I got older, these feelings got stronger, especially during puberty. I hated the changes. Like a lot of girls, I hated my developing breasts. I now think the "euphoria" I felt when people mistook me for a boy was less about being seen correctly and more about what I'd call a duper's delight—a thrill from successfully fooling people.

I ended up identifying as trans and started seeing a gender therapist. This therapist was the head of the biggest transgender clinic in my country. I was put on testosterone and was part of a Europe-wide study they were running. I was on those hormones for years. But after a while, I started to have serious doubts. I began to think that being trans felt like an elaborate game of pretend. I realised I might just be a woman and that I shouldn't have been put on hormones.

When I finally worked up the courage to tell my therapist this, the "treatment" stopped immediately. I was dropped from the study and was never contacted for the follow-up. When I tried to get an explanation, they called security on me. It felt like they had no interest in hearing from someone who regretted it. Their entire career is built on this, so why would they want to report on regret?

I don't believe gender is a feeling. I think the fundamental difference is biological sex—your reproductive parts. Animals know the difference between male and female instinctively. I believe humans have started to pretend not to know what sex is anymore. For me, identifying as a man was a way to avoid dealing with my underlying issues, like low self-esteem and the effects of trauma.

I definitely have regrets about transitioning. I regret taking testosterone for years. I regret being part of a system that seems to encourage people to play pretend instead of asking the hard questions about why they feel the way they do. I think if I had been encouraged to explore my trauma and family issues instead of being fast-tracked onto hormones, my life would be very different now.

Here is a timeline of the main events:

My Age Event
Early Childhood Started to "see myself as a boy." Felt misery at being called a girl.
Puberty Felt intense discomfort and hated my developing body.
Young Adulthood (exact age not specified) Began identifying as transgender. Started seeing a gender therapist and was prescribed testosterone. Enrolled in a medical study.
After several years of hormones Began to realise it felt like "playing pretend." Told my therapist I believed I was just a woman and regretted hormones.
Shortly after Was immediately dropped from therapy and the study. Never contacted for follow-up.
Present Day Living as a detransitioned woman, understanding that my feelings were related to trauma and escapism, not an innate identity.

Top Comments by /u/Crocheted-tiger:

17 comments • Posting since March 4, 2024
Reddit user Crocheted-tiger (detrans female) explains that non-binary identity often boils down to a rejection of female stereotypes like long hair and fitted clothing.
80 pointsMay 25, 2024
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Non-binary people don‘t even create their own stereotypes, their identity just boils down to the rejection of (in most cases female) sterotypes.

You have gasp short hair and like to wear baggy clothes? You are not a woman anymore, you are ✨nonbinary✨.

Reddit user Crocheted-tiger (detrans female) comments on a post about swimsuit anxiety, reassuring OP that their crotch is not noticeable and that anyone staring long enough to see a difference has an unhealthy lack of shame.
72 pointsMar 4, 2024
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First off I don’t think it’s noticable, and second, even if it was (and I can’t Imagine how that would be the case), people with a healthy sense of shame will think to themselves that they shouldn‘t stare at other peoples‘ crotches so long that they would notice anything like that in the first place, lol.

Reddit user Crocheted-tiger (detrans female) comments on the fundamental difference between genders being reproductive parts, arguing self-identification is as meaningless as identifying as a cat. They also dispute the claim that most FTMs were feminine and MTFs were masculine as kids.
27 pointsMay 25, 2024
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You left out one very important part of what OP said though.

The fundamental difference between genders is their reproductive part.

And that’s where „self-identification“ has no meaning at all. I can identify as a cat when I like to sleep 18 hours a day all I want, but I will most definitely never be the mother of a bunch of kittens, lol.

And I‘d disagree that most ftms were conventionally feminine as kids (the Tomboy to ftm pipeline is real) and I really doubt most mtfs were conventionally masculine as kids. Why else would they not want to

be men as they get older. That’s kind of the problem with the trans movement; just because you are „feminine“ this or „masculine“ that, doesn’t change the fact that you are either a girl or a boy.

Reddit user Crocheted-tiger (detrans female) explains how a leading European gender clinic dropped her from a study and called security when she expressed doubts about her transition, suggesting it's a method to artificially lower regret rates.
27 pointsJul 7, 2024
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It’s not only that the trans people lie; in my case I was part of an europe-wide study, when I told my gender „therapist“, (who is also the head of the biggest transgender clinic in my country and calls himself a scientist and researcher) that trans feels like playing pretend, that I might just be a woman and maybe shouldn‘t have been put on hormones, they dropped me immediately. When I wanted an explanation for this sudden end of supposed trustworthy medical care, they called security on me. lol

And of course they simply never contacted me for the follow up of the study I was in.

That’s one way to get a low regret rate for the treatment you built your whole career on I guess!

Reddit user Crocheted-tiger (detrans female) comments on a post about questioning gender, sarcastically pointing out that a trans woman and a man could not repopulate the earth and arguing that animals instinctively differentiate sex, unlike humans who now claim it is a social construct.
25 pointsMar 29, 2024
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Right, that’s why if you had to repopulate earth after the acopalypse, you would use a man and a transwoman for that. Oh wait…

Animals differentiate males from females instinctively, only humans started to pretend to not know what sex is anymore and that it was „a social construct“ as per the last decade.

Reddit user Crocheted-tiger (detrans female) explains the common script of denial, blame, and patronizing pity used to dismiss detransitioners' experiences.
21 pointsMar 30, 2024
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So first they claim „it’s illegal and no one is doing it to youths!“, then someone who was a youth speaks up, directly proving them wrong, so they say „it was yOuR cHoIcE, tough luck lol“, and after that, all they can come up with in response to their hypocrisy is „Sorry it didn’t work out for you 🥺“, performing some kind of pretentious and patronizing pity.

It always goes like that, like they are reading from some ideological script.

Reddit user Crocheted-tiger (detrans female) explains that feeling like a boy is an abstract concept, and as a 24-year-old born female, the simplest answer to "how to become a girl" is to accept being born with a vagina.
19 pointsApr 13, 2024
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Some things:

i am a boy

What is „a boy“ to you?

i still feel like a boy

How would you know what it „feels like“ to be a boy if you were born a girl? (Also, you are 24 years old…)

how do i become a girl?

Be born with a vagina, BOOM done.

Reddit user Crocheted-tiger (detrans female) explains how ego and self-narrative can create false trans identities, suggests "duper's delight" as a reason for gender euphoria, and points to the OP's own annoyance at being mistaken for a boy as key evidence.
19 pointsMay 18, 2024
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You became aware of yourself there at 5. As we get older though, we develop egos, and with that, create narratives about ourselves that are often not true.

Every girl hates puberty by the way.

The euphoria you feel when people mistake you for a man could just be called duper’s delight.

I‘m sure I‘m a boy

considering my annoyance at being mistaken for a boy

mistaken for a boy

I mean, there you have it.

Reddit user Crocheted-tiger (detrans female) comments on the lack of long-term safety studies for FTM procedures, sharing an anecdote about a death from metoidioplasty complications.
12 pointsMay 25, 2024
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First off I don’t have any studies! 🙂

I‘ve heard from another detrans woman that she knew a woman who died from complications with a metoidioplasty. Anecdotal of course.

Just want to say I think any studies like that will not be published (or be done, really) in the next 5-10 years. I told my „gender therapist“ that I‘m not trans, they never contacted me for the follow up for the study I was in.

And that’s just the „people feel better when they do this“ narrative, I can’t imagine what it would take for doctors to do a „this might kill people in the long run“ study. lol

Either way, would you think it’s healthy, when a female is given male hormones?

Reddit user Crocheted-tiger (detrans female) explains how childhood trauma and unhealthy family dynamics can cause a person to resent their sex, arguing that self-inquiry into the "why" is more important than denying biological reality.
12 pointsApr 13, 2024
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I was the same and said exactly those things. Turns out childhood trauma and/or unhealthy family dynamics can lead to children resenting and denying their sex. (The same thing can also lead to grown adults imagining themselves being „a boy“ or „a girl“ at 24+ years old, funnily enough.)

A girl thinking she is a boy has reasons, her actually not being a girl is not one of them though.

every character i made to represent myself was a boy

What do you mean with that? How was a character a boy while representing you, a girl? Chances are you drew a figure with short hair and cool clothes.

i was miserable every time i was referred to as a girl or a woman

When you don‘t like to be referred to as what you are, the solution is to ask yourself why you have this reaction, not denying reality.

i can‘t imagine a world in which i grow to be a woman.

Why not?