She sounds incredibly toxic, gaslighting, and abusive. Stay far away from her. It is a cult, listen to your gut. I am sorry you gave experienced such trauma.

I am a guy man and I question whether or not the original LGBT movement was good at all, for us, and society. It has fallen into a state of degeneracy and is infecting society with contagion and destruction.

I'm still gonna live my life, but my sex life is private and I stay away from any organization that has the stupid ever-evolving-rainbow flag that has been tarnished.

Just in my personal experience being a gay man, having came out in 2010 when being gay was still very much stigmatized: if she went up to a gay person in 2014 or earlier and said “Im a trans femboy”, they would laugh in her face.

This was not a thing 10 years ago. This is a very new phenomenon. Once gay marriage became federally legal, it’s like the flood gates opened and now it’s glamorized to be seen as part of a traditionally marginalized minority. So much so that it’s like.. become fetishized. It is so odd

I relate. I was around this trans woman for a bit, and immediately, they started telling me that I may be trans. I'm an effeminate homosexual, they are probably an AGP with borderline.

I was polite and used their preferred pronouns, because I'm not about to make a fuss in public.

I have met quite a few trans people the past few years. It used to be almost virtually zero that I'd come across them. I definitely think there's a social contagion phenomenon happening and it makes me sad, because at the end of the day the trans who medicalized themselves are victims. And they don't even know it. They have been lied to and guided down a path backed by doctors and activists.

This community is for you and you are welcome here. Keep venting if you have to.

Be honest with your parents and tell them you regret the surgery. I am sure your parents were coming from a good place and just didnt understand the reality of transition and these surgeries. There are many other MTFs that have shared their regret on YouTube and other places.

You should have been able to trust the medical system, I am so sorry. I hope you and others can sue the fuck out of whoever did this and put them out of business.

You're voice is needed and you are too precious as a human to leave. Hugs 🫂

Well, I actually used to believe what you are telling me. I bought into gender ideology for a very long time, until I allowed myself to have an open mind and listened to opposing opinions. Once I went down that rabbit hole, I realized gender ideology is actually not real. It is destroying an entire generation of people.

I am simply debating you in hopes that maybe you might be open to challenging your own beliefs. That's all.

I transitioned due to internalized homophonia and trauma. It took a lot of self reflection and researching on detransition (from independent sources) to reach that conclusion.

I was a very gender non conforming boy growing up. Played with barbies. Loved styling long hair. Preferred to befriend girls. Hated sports. Etc. I actually wished I was a girl when I was young. This was in the 2000s when no one was talking about trans.

When I hit puberty, those feelings almost completely went away.

Then around 2012 when I was a teenager, niche trans youtubers started popping up and then I started to become obsessed with the idea of being trans. I think this was due to internalized homophobia and insecurity being an effeminate gay male, as well as escapism from my turbulent home life. I would go back and forth with the idea of being trans for several years before I eventually just decided I'm a gay man.

When I was 21 I experienced a kind of sexual assault, and it left me with major PTSD that went undiagnosed and tucked away for several years. It majorly changed the way I viewed myself as a gay man, my body, my life in general. I began using substances to cope.

In 2022 I came to the conclusion I was trans. I was high on weed and opiates, and very loopy and mentally unwell. I was trying to disassociate from myself and become a whole new person to escape. I came out to everyone, changed my name and pronouns on my socials and started wearing makeup an a ratty part city wig. I was a mess.

I was about to start hormones, but knew they caused permanent changes so I researched heavily (thank god) and started coming across detransitioners on YouTube. Eventually I found some very radical gender criticals who really opened up my mind as to the many reasons why people transition.

I ended up desisting and haven't looked back sense.

I'm going to play devils advocate here and say that not all AGPs are horny perverts. Some of them deeply struggle with their identity and it causes them major distress, and not all of it is purely sexual.

I'm guessing a lot of them aren't even aware of the term AGP or understand that they have it. A lot of them have other mental health issues such as BPD and trauma that influences them down a path of medicalization. The ones who medicalize themselves are still victims of medical malpractice.

Doesn't make it right for them or any male identifying as trans to go into women's spaces though. Or guilt their heterosexual partner into staying with them and play along with their fantasy.

I'm a gay male and identified as trans to escape trauma and internalized homophobia.

Blaire is very hypocritical.

He still uses the women's restroom. Womens' right to female-only spaces shouldn't be taken away because someone like blaire, who willingly chose to have invasive surgeries to alter his appearance. That's his fault, and he has to live with the consequences of that.

He still has female on his I.D.

He believes that there are "true transsexuals", which I don't personally believe. All paths to transition are due to mental illness, internalized homophobia, trauma, borderline personality disorder, autism, autogynephilia, etc.

If you pay attention to the way he speaks, especially to other people in a social setting, he is still very socialized as male. Especially on that Jubilee youtube video where he's arguing with other trans. Very dominant, speaking over others, very sassy gay boy vibes.

He and Buck Angel are just trying to cover their tracks. They both have probably inspired a lot of people, especially young people to transition. They are still a problem.

I can just speak for myself: I don’t think there is such thing as non-binary. I also don’t believe that “trans” actually exists in the fact that someone is born with a female brain in a male body, and vice versa. I believe gender dysphoria exists, but that’s due to underlying mental health factors. AGP, internalized homophobia, trauma, BPD, autism, social contagion, etc. I believe there are people who are gender non conforming and have displayed that since childhood like myself, but being feminine doesn’t change the fact that Im still a biological man.

I sympathize with you.

It's taken me a long time to be comfortable living and aging as a man. Now that I'm 28 and my baby fat in my face is fading, enhancing my strong jawline and features. I no longer look like a twink, and I'd never pass as a woman.

What helped me is getting to the root of why I wanted to transition (for me it was internalized homophobia and trauma). People have different reasons why they go down this path.

With a lot of internal work and self reflection, I have come to accept being male AND also the fact that I am effeminate and gender non conforming. You can be both! And it really is a beautiful, unique experience that not everyone gets to have. That's what makes me, me. There are no boxes you have to fit in just because you're male.

I'm sorry you're struggling and I hope you find peace, this is a hard thing to deal with.