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Reddit user /u/DEPLATFORMED-'s Detransition Story

Transitioned: 16 -> Detransitioned: 19
female
internalised homophobia
hated breasts
took hormones
depression
influenced online
serious health complications
now infertile
body dysmorphia
retransition
became religious
homosexual
puberty discomfort
anxiety
autistic
had religious background
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User Authenticity Assessment: Not Suspicious

Based on the provided comments, this account appears to be authentic. The user demonstrates a consistent, deeply personal narrative of detransition, including specific medical details (e.g., being on testosterone for 3 years, voice surgery with Dr. Spiegel, pregnancy post-detransition) and a complex, evolving emotional and philosophical perspective.

There are no serious red flags suggesting it is a bot or a bad-faith actor. The passion, anger, and personal investment align with the experiences of many detransitioners. The account's long-term activity and the internal consistency of its story over time support its authenticity.

About me

I’m a female who began identifying as a trans man at 16 because I felt I didn't fit in as a woman and hated the pressure of being objectified. I was on testosterone for three years, which caused serious health problems and made me feel disconnected from myself. I realized I was altering my body to fit a stereotype, not becoming a man, and I stopped. My detransition was difficult, but I’ve come to accept my female body and no longer see the need to fit into a gender box. I’m now focused on my health and look forward to being a mother someday.

My detransition story

My whole journey with transition and detransition was messy and painful, and it took me a long time to understand why I did it. I’m a female, and I started identifying as a trans man when I was 16. A lot of it came from not feeling like I fit in as a woman. I felt like being a woman meant being a sex object, something for other people to stare at and judge. I hated my breasts and felt uncomfortable with my body, especially during puberty. I also have autism, and I think that made it harder for me to understand social norms and why I felt so different from everyone else.

Looking back, I realize a lot of my feelings were rooted in internalized misogyny. I saw women as lesser, as dumb and emotional, and I thought men had it easier. I was also influenced a lot by what I saw online, especially on sites like Tumblr and YouTube. I saw people like Stef Sanjati who seemed so happy after transitioning, and I wanted that transformation for myself. It felt like an escape from all the discomfort and anxiety I felt.

I was on testosterone for three years. At first, it felt amazing. People treated me differently—I was seen as funny and cool, and I wasn’t being objectified all the time. But it also came with serious health problems. I started balding and getting wrinkles even though I was still a teenager. I had heart palpitations, my emotions felt numb, and I couldn’t cry anymore. It made me feel powerful in a way, but also really disconnected from myself.

After a while, the negative effects became too much. I was vain, and the receding hairline was a huge wake-up call for me. I also started to realize that I was living a lie. I wasn’t actually becoming a man; I was just altering my body to fit a stereotype. The sense of gender identity I had started to fade away once I stopped caring so much about how others perceived me. I began to understand that my body is female, no matter what I do to it, and that’s okay.

Stopping testosterone was hard. I felt suicidal for a while as my hormones adjusted. But eventually, my body started to go back to how it was before. My voice was permanently deepened from the T, so I had to get voice feminization surgery, which was expensive but helped me sound female again. My breasts grew back larger than before, and my body fat redistributed to a more feminine pattern. I’m lucky that I didn’t have top surgery, so I didn’t have to deal with those complications.

I do have some permanent changes, like a larger clitoris and a chest deformity from binding for years. But overall, I’m healthy now. I even got pregnant not long after stopping T, though I chose to have an abortion because I was worried about the effects of the testosterone on a baby. I plan to have children someday when I’ve been off hormones longer.

I don’t regret transitioning because it led me to where I am now, but I am angry about how it happened. I was 16 when I started testosterone—way too young to make such a big decision. I was mentally ill and vulnerable, and the doctors and therapists who gave me hormones should have known better. I feel like I was manipulated by a cult-like ideology that preys on young, insecure people. I lost friends when I detransitioned because they were so invested in the trans community that they couldn’t accept my change.

Finding religion again, specifically Christianity, helped me a lot during my detransition. It gave me a sense of peace and self-acceptance that I never had before. My gender dysphoria basically vanished once I stopped fighting against my body and started accepting myself for who I am.

Now, I see gender as a useless concept. It’s just a set of stereotypes about how men and women should act. I’m just a female human, and that’s enough. I don’t need to fit into a box to be valid. My goal now is to live my life, be a mother someday, and protect my future children from going through what I did.

Here’s a timeline of my journey:

Age Event
16 Started identifying as a trans man and began testosterone
19 Stopped testosterone due to health issues and changing feelings
20 Had voice feminization surgery
20 Became pregnant and had an abortion
20 Fully embraced detransition and returned to living as female

Top Reddit Comments by /u/DEPLATFORMED-:

95 comments • Posting since August 19, 2021
Reddit user DEPLATFORMED- (detrans female) explains that opposition to detransitioners stems from cult-like shame tactics used to manipulate vulnerable, mentally ill females under 21.
74 pointsMar 27, 2022
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Cults use shame tactics to keep people in line. There's your answer. The members of this cult are mostly mentally ill females under the age of 21, who in the real world are universally considered the most vulnerable to manipulation. give them a few years and they will develop the mental capacity to discern between logical reasoning and emotional reasoning. I was very, very religiously faithful to this cult until I went to college and read a textbook about critical thinking. I said things similar to what these kids are saying before that, everything was religious fervor. These kids would be proud Scientologists if they grew up within that group rather than this online cult.

Reddit user DEPLATFORMED- (detrans female) explains how wanting to look like a "twink" stemmed from internalized misogyny, fetishizing gay relationships, and body dysmorphia.
73 pointsJun 22, 2022
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For me there was definitely an aspect of specifically wanting to look like a twink. I wanted to look like a cute, thin young man. That definitely can’t last, and it was coming from a place of internalized misogyny, fetishization of homosexual male relationships, and body dysmorphia/anorexia.

Reddit user DEPLATFORMED- (detrans female) comments on the lack of developed decision-making capacity in minors, arguing that doctors and therapists should have known better than to prescribe cross-sex hormones to children.
69 pointsJun 28, 2022
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no one wants to admit minors haven’t developed the capacity to think through their decisions and understand long term consequences, that part of the brain isn’t developed yet. neither is your personality until 25-30. sorry 16 year old me couldn’t look into the future like I thought I could. Does that make me retarded? Or should the doctors and therapists have known better than to give cross sex hormones to children

Reddit user DEPLATFORMED- (detrans female) advises a user only 3 months on testosterone to wait for their voice to potentially revert and warns of extreme, destabilizing emotions during hormone stabilization.
65 pointsMay 30, 2022
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Hey, I'm the girl who had voice surgery successfully. You've only been on t 3 months. You should really listen to the other commenters and give it time, yours could revert back almost entirely. Also your emotions are gonna be very extreme for a few months before your hormones have stabilized. Stay with someone you trust and keep them close during this time because your judgement will be negatively impacted by this process- I felt super suicidal for a couple months there.

Reddit user DEPLATFORMED- (detrans female) explains why a mentally ill person cannot give informed consent for gender transition procedures.
61 pointsJun 12, 2022
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It's easy to mislead people into thinking you consented to this. There's your answer. You and I know you didn't consent, you couldn't. Not only were you not fully informed of the consequences, but you are too mentally ill to consent to this procedure. Half of the people even here think that makes logical sense, that you are responsible for your decision. It's easy to believe that, but it isn't true.

Reddit user DEPLATFORMED- (detrans female) explains how the trans community exhibits cult-like behaviors, listing exclusivity, isolationism, opposition to independent thinking, fear of being "cancelled," and threats for leaving.
53 pointsFeb 2, 2022
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Exclusivity (only they have the truth) Isolationism (no different belief systems allowed, cut off your family) Opposition to independent thinking Fear of being disfellowshiped (cancelled) Threats or attacks for leaving or deviating from the belief system.

Reddit user DEPLATFORMED- (detrans female) comments that negative reactions to bottom growth are rare, often stemming from porn-influenced expectations rather than the anatomy itself.
51 pointsJun 8, 2022
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not gonna lie, I've never heard of any sexual partner of anyone with a big clit not liking it. either there's a neutral response or excitement, more often the latter If they didn't like it I'd assume they watch too much porn and would react negatively to most female genitalia. Most females think their genitalia looks strange and males can think that too if they've only seen the surgically altered vulvas in porn.

Reddit user DEPLATFORMED- (detrans female) explains why she believes real-world conversations are crucial, stating most people oppose child medical transition and that online platforms pander to a militant minority. She vows to reject pronoun requests, become a mother, and homeschool her children to teach critical thinking.
45 pointsFeb 6, 2022
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Remember to talk about your experience with people in real life situations whenever you can. The internet has become a bubble where only left of liberal can survive without being cancelled. But in the real world, most people don't want their children mutilated and they hate that this cult is pushing so hard in schools now. We have more of a voice on alternative platforms and IRL than we do on Facebook, Instagram, twitter. These companies pander to the trans rights activists because they're the most militant group at the moment, but just because they're militant doesn't mean they're the majority. They are not the majority. I do not have to abide by your pronoun prayers. If anyone asks me my pronouns, I will tell them I am FEMALE and they can refer to me in whatever way they refer to FEMALES. And I will become a mother. And I will homeschool my children. And I will teach them about critical thinking and the importance of objectivity and freedom of speech.

Reddit user DEPLATFORMED- (detrans female) explains that post-detransition clitoral changes can be normalized as a "big clit," discusses the temporary pain of shrinkage, and notes that some partners find the increased size a novelty.
40 pointsJun 5, 2022
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You don't have to call it "bottom growth" anymore, it's just a big clit, plenty of females have them anyway. That being said, mine hurt for a while because it was shrinking and moving to a lower position. And like the previous commenter said, there are a lot of people who have a preference for it or have no qualms with it. It's a novelty actually because usually males can't find it. So when they can find it it makes things a lot more simple and fun for everyone.

Reddit user DEPLATFORMED- (detrans female) comments on the long-term risks of medical transition, questioning if people truly consider the lifelong dependency on hormones and the dangers if supply is disrupted.
35 pointsFeb 2, 2022
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Just because it's online doesn't mean it doesn't hurt anyone. I don't believe that most of the people who've had their uterus removed or penis inverted came up with the idea themselves. They read about it somewhere else, it was a suggestion that they read or heard and decided was their best choice because they felt alienated from other members of their sex. Nobody just wakes up and realizes they need to be dependent on a third party to provide them necessary hormones for the rest of their life.... What if a war happens, and the insurance companies dip, and the testosterone manufacturers are gone? How long would your body survive without hormones if you can't produce them organically? Is anyone asking these questions?