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Authenticity Assessment: Not Suspicious
Based on the provided comments, the account appears inauthentic. The primary red flag is a major inconsistency in the user's claimed identity.
Red Flag: The user's stated identity is contradictory. In the first comment (2021-05-30), they identify as "a trans woman." However, they are posting in r/detrans, a subreddit primarily for people who have stopped or reversed a gender transition. While a questioning trans person might visit, the user's subsequent comments are overwhelmingly from the perspective of a detransitioner or desister, criticizing the trans community. The account never explicitly states a detransition, creating a significant disconnect between the claimed identity and the consistent narrative of someone who has rejected or is highly critical of transition. This inconsistency is a strong indicator of a persona being adopted for rhetorical purposes.
About me
I was born male and transitioned because I felt like a feminine man who didn't fit in. I started to feel out of place in the trans community because my reasons, based on deep discomfort, seemed so different from others. I began to see my true self as simply a feminine, homosexual male who had medicalized my natural traits. I have since detransitioned and stopped hormones to accept my biological body. I now believe I am a man, and my femininity doesn't change that.
My detransition story
My journey with gender has been long, complicated, and full of a lot of rethinking. I was born male, and from a young age, I felt different. I was a feminine boy, and I was always more attracted to other boys. I never felt like I fit in with the other guys. This feeling grew into a deep discomfort, a dysphoria, with my male body and the way I was seen in the world. I believed I was a woman trapped in a man's body. That was the only framework I had to understand my feelings.
I transitioned, and for a while, it did help. The hormones and the social changes alleviated some of that intense pain. I identified as a trans woman and was part of the community. But even then, I always held a firm belief in biological reality. I knew I would never be a cis woman, and I thought it was dangerous for trans people to deny that. I saw a lot of people in the community who seemed to be transitioning for reasons that were completely foreign to me. They talked about getting aroused by the idea of being a woman or wearing women's clothes—something they called "euphoria boners." As someone who experienced deep-seated dysphoria, not a fetish, I found this confusing and disturbing. I felt like my own identity was being conflated with a sexual fetish, which I believe is a real thing, often called autogynephilia (AGP).
I started to feel like a black sheep in my own community. I was called names like "TERF" and "truscum" for saying that maybe dysphoria is a necessary part of being trans and that not everyone who questions their gender is truly trans. I saw so many people, especially young girls, being influenced online or by friends to believe that hating their bodies or feeling uncomfortable with puberty meant they were trans. I began to believe that a lot of this was a social trend, and that the lack of any gatekeeping was causing real harm. People were getting life-altering medical treatments for what might actually be trauma, internalized homophobia, or body image issues.
This led me to a point of questioning everything. I realized that my own identity as a trans woman felt less and less right. I started to see that maybe my true self was simply a feminine, homosexual male. The idea of detransitioning, which once gave me panic, started to sound like a path to peace. I saw others doing it and finding happiness in accepting their biological bodies, and I began to envy that. I never had bottom surgery, but I was on hormones. I started to feel that I had medicalized my natural femininity and my homosexuality. I don't think I was ever a woman; I was a gay man who couldn't accept that because of the stereotypes and pressures placed on men.
I don't regret my transition entirely because it was a necessary step for me to eventually understand who I really am. It helped me escape the pain I was in, even if the solution wasn't permanent. But I do have regrets about getting caught up in an ideology that, I believe, often ignores science and biology. I regret not exploring other ways to cope with my discomfort before medically transitioning. I now believe that for many people, non-affirming therapy to work through trauma, self-esteem issues, or internalized homophobia is a better path than immediate transition.
My thoughts on gender now are that while gender norms are a social construct, biological sex is real. The current movement that says anyone can be trans for any reason is, in my opinion, harmful. It hurts people who are truly dysphoric and need help, and it hurts the many who are confused and will later regret irreversible changes. I have come to accept that I am a male, and that's okay. My femininity and my attraction to men don't make me less of a man. They just make me me.
| Age | Year | Event |
|---|---|---|
| (Age not specified in comments) | (Started before 2021) | Began social and medical transition (hormones) as a trans woman. |
| (Age not specified) | 2021 | Identified as a questioning trans woman, supportive of detransitioners. |
| (Age not specified) | 2022 | Began heavily criticizing the trans community online, expressing belief in AGP and the need for gatekeeping. |
| (Age not specified) | 2022 | Started to fundamentally question my own trans identity, relating more to being a feminine homosexual male. |
| (Present Day) | Now | Detransitioned. I now identify as a male and accept my biological sex. |
Top Comments by /u/DIYBON:
As a trans woman, I hate when other ”trans women” pretend it’s normal getting aroused putting on skirts, womens underwear & all that. They call it ”euphoria boners”. I don’t see my female friends getting wet wearing skirts or applying make up. I just can’t relate at all getting turned on by any of that, or femininity at all. They are often the type of ”trans women” to call themselves transbians aswell, hitting on other trans women. Their whole vibe is just so MANish and creepy. I hate that people associate all trans women with these people. We’re nothing like them. And as soon as I call it out, I get called a transphobe, TERF, truscum and all that, as If I’m the ”bad” trans person attacking my own community. It’s just so obvious AGP is real, in like every space for trans women. Autogynephiles, autoandrophiles + trenders run the whole community today, unfortunately.
”The thought of womanly curves and being a woman, their clothing, just turns me on”.
As a very dysphoric transsexual woman, I can’t relate at all. Nothing about femininity or myself being a woman turns me on. It sounds to me that you’re mixing up being trans with an attraction to femininity or the thoughts of yourself as feminine, aka autogynephilia. Most women don’t get turned on by themselves or womens clothing. Feeling sexy is one thing, but getting turned on by it and even nutting to the thought of it/related porn sounds more like a fetish or autogynephilia to me. You even say being male is not a problem to you and that you’re not dysphoric. A trans woman would not say that. I’d say you’re not trans. I don’t know any trans women who could relate to that, expect for the femininity loving autogynephilic men/”trans women” who are straight males to begin with. These people are usually the ones who end up detransitioning or taking their own lives when they realize they mixed up their fetish with being trans. You’re not dysphoric. Stay away from HRT, the effects are permanent.
This is why the trend of ”denying biology” needs to stop. ”Gender is a social construct”: NO, gender norms are. Why has it become a bad thing to say that trans women are biologically male and always will be, and that trans men are biologically female and always will be? I as a trans woman have to accept my biological reality that I will NEVER be a cis woman, or else I’ll just end up disappointed in the end. So many trans people transition in the hope to become ”cis” somehow. The whole trans trend needs to stop, it’s not about cute pronouns, clothes, being masculine or feminine. It’s dysphoria that makes one trans and medical transition CAN help but not always, especially not if you transition for the wrong reasons.
And if they didn’t allow this you would probably at that time threaten to kill yourself or start a war. What could they have done? Don’t you think you would’ve hated them and yourself at that time, if they didn’t help you?
Do you think you would’ve accepted a ”no” and just therapy as a solution to your problems? Even if they are wrong, you can’t just blame them, blame the trans trenders too that are telling people that dysphoria is not required to be trans. You wouldn’t give penicillin to people without infections, you wouldn’t give chemo to someone without cancer. Why are the ”woke LGBTQIA+” social justice warriors trying to normalize giving HRT to people without dysphoria? It’s madness.
This is why gatekeeping is needed. To differentiate people with trauma induced dysphoria and people who are truly sex dysphoric etc. What if someone, especially a biological male, really is trans and have to wait until they are 18-20+. Then they’ll have to live with permanent testosterone characteristics and be non passing, when they could’ve gotten help sooner. What’s going on right now is sad for those who mistake themselves for being trans and sad for those who really are trans.
Congratulations! I’m a ”questioning” trans woman, I will not detransition because it’s truly helping me, even though it’s hard and making life harder in many aspects. But I get so happy for people when they decide to stop their transition & HRT to try to live happily with their biological bodies. Transitioning is tough and It must feel so good to be able to accept your body. Good luck with everything! ❤️
100%. The woke ideology of 1000 genders ain’t helping binary trans women and trans men who are trying to function as anyone else in society. The trans community is going backwards now that anyone can identify as trans without dysphoria. LGB, especially T, is the new emo. People are using HRT as fashion, unfortunately. Many girls today suffer from trauma, or get taught and pushed to hate their female identity, making them think that they have dysphoria.
I hear you and I agree, 100%.
I relate to you more than I relate to an AGP trans woman. Is it maybe because I’m a feminine ”homosexual male” biologically, while AGPs are heterosexual males biologically? I wouldn’t be surprised if my brain actually is ”female”, while my body and DNA is male. There are some studies on this and I wish there would be more. The difference between naturally feminine ”homosexal transsexuals” and ”autogynephilic transsexuals” and their forced femininity/fetish is extreme. How can anyone deny this?
This whole thing is just so weird and I think AGPs should stop fetishizing women, trans women and femininity. They should stick to crossdressing in their bed room. I absolutely hate being categorized with these people and I’m sorry for all women and actual trans women who have to deal with their bullshit. I’m pretty sure all trans women in sports who so badly wants to compete against women are of course AGPs.. Ugh.
I feel stuck in this community and what it has become. It sucks. AGPs and the extreme trenders are far more than us who refuse to ignore facts. I’m the evil black sheep in my own community.
Aaaah, the thought of doing that myself is giving me panic. But it sounds like a good plan and I really hope you do it!! Life is definitely more than a hairline and body hair. You’re so strong and it sounds like a wonderful plan, your body will thank you! Now go live life!! 😊