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Based on the provided comments, this account appears to be authentic.
There are no serious red flags suggesting it is a bot or an inauthentic actor. The user's comments are highly personal, emotionally nuanced, and consistent with the experiences of a detransitioned butch woman. Key indicators of authenticity include:
- Personal Narrative: Shares specific, detailed experiences with taking testosterone, social transition, and the social difficulties of detransitioning.
- Emotional Complexity: Expresses nuanced feelings about gender presentation, dysphoria, and social acceptance, not just scripted talking points.
- Consistency: The perspective is consistent across comments, detailing a journey from identifying as a trans man to detransitioning and grappling with being a masculine woman.
- Community Engagement: Actively seeks connection with other detransitioners and shares personal content (YouTube videos) related to their experience.
About me
I was born female and always felt uncomfortable with the expectations for girls, which got much worse during puberty. I transitioned to male for several years, thinking it was the only solution to my unhappiness. I eventually realized I was just a masculine woman trying to escape from internal struggles, not a man. I stopped testosterone and am now living as a woman again, though the permanent changes make it difficult. I'm learning to accept that I can be a woman who dresses and acts in a masculine way.
My detransition story
My whole journey with transition and detransition was long and complicated. I was born female and from a young age, I never felt comfortable with the expectations placed on girls. I always dressed in a masculine way because that’s what felt right to me; it wasn't about anyone else, it was just how I was. This discomfort got worse during puberty when my body started to change in ways I really hated, especially developing breasts. I think a lot of my feelings were tied up in what I now understand was body dysmorphia and a deep discomfort with female puberty.
I started to believe that I was actually a man, and that transitioning was the only way to fix the unhappiness I felt. I began taking testosterone and eventually lived completely as a man, "stealth," meaning no one knew I was female. For a while, it felt like it worked. I had a lot of friends, all men, and we were just "bros." It felt easier to socialize and fit in. Looking back, I think a big part of my transition was an attempt to escape from the difficulties I had being a masculine woman. I am homosexual, meaning I am a woman who is attracted to other women, and I think I had some internalized homophobia. I didn't know how to be a masculine woman in the world, and becoming a man felt like a simpler solution.
But living as a man wasn't truly me. I started to realize that even though I passed as male 100% of the time, I was still a woman. I didn't need to change my body to be valid. I stopped taking testosterone. Detransitioning has been its own difficult journey. I’ve found it much harder to make friends as a woman, especially since my social skills were built around being "one of the guys." I know my old friends wouldn't see me the same way if they knew I was female, and that's a lonely feeling. I still dress in a masculine way because that’s what makes me comfortable—women’s clothing makes me uncomfortable—but now I do it understanding that I am a woman. I don't need to prove my womanhood to anyone by dressing a certain way.
I don't regret my entire transition because I learned a lot about myself through the process, but I do regret not understanding my own motivations better at the time. I regret the permanent changes from testosterone, like my voice and facial hair, because they now make it harder for me to move through the world as the woman I am. My thoughts on gender now are that it's a social concept, and your sex is your biological reality. For me, my discomfort was never about truly being a man; it was about struggling to accept myself as a masculine woman in a world that often doesn't make space for that.
Here is a timeline of my journey based on what I remember:
Age | Event |
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Early Teens | Always dressed in a masculine way. Experienced significant discomfort with female puberty and developing breasts. |
19 | Began taking testosterone. |
20 | Was living full-time as a stealth trans man, passing 100% of the time. Had a large social circle of male friends. |
23 | Stopped taking testosterone and began the process of detransitioning. |
24 (Present) | Living as a detransitioned female. Navigating the social difficulties of being a masculine woman and trying to connect with other detrans women for support. |
Top Comments by /u/DaemonRise23:
I also dress masc and get read as male 100% of the time because of this. I did take T however, which probably contributes to why I am read as male. I also felt the pressure to dress more feminine so I could be read as female, but I feel it is more important for me to be comfortable with myself (women's clothing makes me uncomfortable) then it is for other's to see me/accept me as a woman. I am a woman, so why do I need to prove it to others by dressing a certain way?
My advice is do what makes YOU happy. If that is dressing masc then do that! Yes it might make life more difficult in areas concerning how people see you but it is worth it in the end. If you are genuinely interested in a more feminine presentation then go for it! Just be sure you are doing it for you and not because of external pressure. That's my advice as a fellow detrans butch/masc woman.
If I'm being honest. You look like a woman on T. The face is feminine despite the facial hair and the clothes/body type also give a slightly feminine appearance. So I'd say a masculine female or super feminine man. But definitely leaning feminine because of face.
>Why is it considered hate to know that trans people have genders that are different than their biological sex? What makes a trans woman trans if not for the male sex and the transition to a feminine presentation?
It's not really that it's considered hateful to *know* that transgender people identify with a gender that is different from their sex, I think though that a lot of transgender people feel that people aren't seeing them as their identified gender and more as a "girl who identifies as a boy" instead of "a boy who happens to be trans". That's just my take on it. They don't want their sex to be seen in any significant meaningful way because then they probably feel that their gender isn't being acknowledged as their "true" gender (the whole, man stuck in a woman's body idea".
I may be totally wrong, but that was the feeling I got from why they hate being reminded of their sex so much.
I decided to try and make YouTube videos talking about my personal experience with detransition. This is the first video, and depending on what kind of response this video gets - I may or may not continue with them. I do have the channel for other stuff like gameplay I do with various games and such. I used just my phone to record the video so apologies for the bad quality video.
>-have a fixation on teenage/age gap gay relationships in fiction
Nope, had a fixation on heterosexual relationships because back then I saw myself as a man that likes women.
>-daddy issues/fatherlessness
Sounds like your projecting here.
>-date other women/ftms
I do notice there are a group of ftm that will only date other ftm folks or "afab" people. I suspect they are subconsciously homosexual and in denial?
>-don't feel desired by men, so either become butch or a "femboy"
I don't know where you got this idea. I won't speak for everyone but I certainly did NOT "become butch" because I didn't feel desired by men? LOL? Being homosexual, I don't care what men think of me in an attraction sense because I am not attracted to them and I don't dress butch because of them. I dress butch because of gender dysphoria and that's how I always dressed before I even became aware of romantic feelings for anyone.
>it all feels like it all stems from being rejected as women and trying to cope with society not wanting masculine women.
For some maybe.
I have a hard time making friends as a woman vs having tons of friends when I was a stealth trans man. All my friends were male then (except a few) and we were "bros" but I know they wouldn't see me the same if they knew I was female and I don't know how to navigate friendships and socializations with others as a woman..
Good to hear that I'm not the only detrans women in the area, although I imagine there are others besides us too. From what I know there aren't any pre-existing support groups in the Chicago area? It would also just be nice to know other women like me (detrans) even as just friends. What are your thoughts on this? My dms are open.