It's all casual to start taking hormones, and then when you realize how it's hurting you, the lovebombing stops, your trans support network disappears, everyone shuts you down and gaslights you. It's hard to stop, even if you know it's not what you want just because of the social consequences alone. I'm tired of hearing how the LGBT community never shuts people out when I've been on the wrong side of so many judgmental cliques who freeze me out of any socialization because of fauxs-pas like detransitioning.

I don't really like the whole quasi-religious narrative of "second puberty" or "trans birthdays". To me, it always seemed so spooky and overly spiritual to bring in so much reincarnation imagery to a medical process. Even the term "deadname" has some really dark fucked up implications IMO. Especially when you introduce detransition to the conversation, the whole "death and rebirth" metaphor starts to look very sinister

I constantly felt this during my adolescent transition, and nobody really validated or helped me process those feelings because they didn't really have an answer themselves. At best, my feelings were called "internalized transphobia"

I just remember thinking the word "clown" every time I tried to do something "gender confirming". Now that I've arrived at GNC stuff from a more healthy angle, I can actually use stuff like lipstick without the constant crushing pressure that I felt when transitioning. Performative expression is so much easier when you're not carrying the burden of an entire gender, so in my case I think shoving off expectations helped me more than anything trans support scenes could give me.

I'm still for radical feminism as an ideology. I love dwarkin and all that, I just feel alienated by certain elements using reddit to endlessly bully the mentally ill and downtrodden. It's gotten so tiring to hear "haha this dude has a dick, penis boy" on any picture of a MtF trans. to me it just screams of a community that's run out of all reasonable argument and is now just hurling insults to get its way. Like I sort of implied in the post, I feel like the radical feminist discourse here on reddit used to be a lot better. There used to be legitimate gender skepticism, but I haven't been able to absorb any of that because it's all being drowned out by childish insults and ad hoc attacks. It's like GC circles have turned exactly into what contrapoints and that crowd want it to be.

As a defence of radical feminism tho, I feel like a lot of these agitator voices aren't even coming from people who would describe themselves as radfems. When you lurk around the dingier parts of right-wing subs, you hear people say stuff to the effect of "we all know feminists are b*tches, but these radfems could make good useful idiots for our culture war". Like most other stuff recently, I feel like these feminist circles have been colonized by outside forces.

If there were feminist circles that would take me in, I'd love to be part of a community, I've just never known myself to be that cohesive in any kind of group really, and I feel like an outsider no matter what, like I said in the post.

If your doctor gives you a hard time about your own decision, then they're not doing their job right. I wouldn't worry about what they might say or do, because they work for your health, mental and physical. You should definitely say how you actually feel and your plan in a direct way, cause it'll make it easy for everyone. If you're scared about making it real, then why not communicate that as well? More information is never a bad thing

"Instead of trying to be 'officially' trans, you must realize the truth"

"what truth?"

"There is no trans"

"Woah"

Seriously, this "truscum" vs "tucute" debate deflates my brain because they're all arguing as if there's some official card-carrying trans membership pass that you get if you qualify, but this stuff is all made up anyway.

I think gay communities need to distance themselves from the whole "ally supporter" concept. When they get their own "pride" flag, I think it's gone a little too far. It's straight appropriation of gay circles that are causing most of these problems in the first place

Whether or not medical transition works or not shouldn't be the hill we as detransers die on. It seems more like a twitter spat than anything that will positively affect trans, detrans, or cis people. I don't even care anymore either way, this all seems to be getting so childish and politicized.

I believe in AGP but this guy sounds like a quack. This is like the marijuana guy from Fear and Loathing trying to describe what AGP is. Reply lady sounds fake as shit too, and doesn't even cite a person she's quoting from. These are both people who've never been around an AGP guy in their lives

I dunno about any of this stuff. Even if it does work, it doesn't affect me or my detransition, so I guess I'm done with my edgy "fuck all transition" phase. Whether surgery affects people is kinda irrelevant, but it seems to be the thing that everyone focuses on. The best thing for people is just to lay all options out on the table and educate them as much as possible so they don't regret anything.