100% agree with you. It’s pretty harmful to label any opinion in opposition of transition as hating trans people. There’s so many reasons to oppose medical transition, and very few come from real hatred of trans people. Someone can disagree with others life choices and still love and support them.

In some cases, yes.

But let’s not ignore people transing their children, the complete acceptance and encouragement of being trans, the misinformation around transition and biological sex, plus the many other reasons that directly or indirectly influence people to transition.

At the end of the day, a doctor had to approve everything involved in a medical transition, which means that no one can truly do this to themselves.

Self accountability should be encouraged, but there’s a reason there’s so many of us, and it’s not because we all socially or medically transitioned as rational adults with no outside encouragement.

So this is essentially saying the needs of the few don’t outweigh the needs of the many which is ironic because trans people are a tiny percentage of the population. So by that logic, society shouldn’t care about or cater to trans people, right? Nope, then the needs of the few matter. Sure seems like trying to manipulate people into having it both ways.

Faulty logic aside, what a horrible representation of detransitioners. It doesn’t even make sense. I don’t think most detrans people sought out transition with no outside influence. We don’t even have the ability to get any gender related treatments done without approval from a doctor. No one can walk right into it like they’re saying.

Glad they’re starting to admit that it fucks people up, yet their solution is to continue experimenting to hurt kids less rather than stop hurting kids period. No child can consent to that.

Also “a penis is just a big clitoris.” Um no, it’s not. The fact that she seriously believes that and everyone else didn’t object to this nonsense is appalling. They’re really trying to muddle basic knowledge about biology to fit their agenda. A penis and clit are not the same and each are specific to one sex. So sick of them trying to erase biological reality.

Not original commenter, but regular anxiety over surgery is usually about what if something goes wrong, pain, recovery, etc., not if surgery is what’s best for you. If you have serious doubts about if it’s in your best interest, I would recommend postponing it so you have more time to figure it out. You can’t undo the surgery, but you can always reschedule if that’s what you want.

I’m a little confused on people feeling like what Colin did was wrong. I agree that permission to use other peoples stories is ideal, but everyone here should know that this subreddit is public. Anyone can take a screenshot and use it for whatever, and we can’t control that. Of course there’s also nothing wrong with asking them to take it down.

To me sharing stories like this is one of the most effective ways to make people understand that transitioning can have irreversible effects and can be so damaging. I know some people on here seem to think that everyone who shares screenshots like this either hates trans people or think detransitioners were larping as trans, but there’s a lot of people out there who see the harm trans ideology has done and are trying to raise awareness. To show that this is real and it’s happening to so many people. It sucks, but people don’t usually care without real stories.

I do understand your feelings about the screenshot, and you’re 100% entitled to that and to having it taken down. Please remember that you can still have a fulfilling life regardless of how far you went with transition. You don’t need a conventional “normal” life to be happy.

That’s definitely frustrating, though your mom’s concerns are valid. I haven’t read that book yet myself so I can’t speak on the accuracy of its content, but maybe you’d be able to have a more productive conversation with her after you’ve read it and understand where she’s coming from? She loves you and wants to make sure you don’t do anything that could permanently hurt you or end your life early. I think a lot of what you’re feeling could be effectively dealt with in therapy, and hormones should definitely be held off at least until you’re 18, if not later. I’d also add that most women feel uncomfortable with their bodies especially around and after puberty.

I always wished I was born a boy for as long as I can remember. I had no idea what trans was, but I knew that I didn’t get to do the things my brothers did as a little kid, and that just grew as I got older. I hated my body after puberty, hated how men looked at me, hated how society treated me, hated that I’d always be in infinitely more danger. Overall, I thought that men just had a way better deal, which I still mostly stand by. If I could change to being born a guy now, I probably would. The reason I didn’t medically transition, despite hating my body, was because I didn’t want to be female cosplaying as male. I wanted to be male. No matter how early I medically transitioned or how many surgeries I got I would never be the same, and most of my underlying issues wouldn’t have been addressed. I still aim to look pretty masculine because that’s what I like, but I also have accepted that, despite the fact that I want to be male, it’s not possible and that’s something I’ve learned to deal with.

You’re still very young and your thoughts and feelings are going to change a lot as you grow up. Hating your body, while not uncommon, needs to be addressed with a therapist who isn’t just going to insist you need to change it and actually look at why you feel that way. True self acceptance doesn’t involve changing your body.

Have you talked to a therapist about how you’re feeling and why? Most people, especially girls, feel distress about their bodies in the years after puberty. You’re also still very young, and you don’t need to have everything figured out. Going to a therapist and working through the root issues could be very beneficial to you. A lot of people transition without addressing why and then continue to have the same issues afterward because they addressed the symptom, not the root cause.

Going against the grain I guess, but I don’t think they should be normalized, especially “gender nullification” surgeries. They are irreversible, run the risk of serious side effects and being a lifelong patient, can damage or just straight up ruin any chance of having fulfilling sexual relationships, and they serve no possible health benefit. These surgeries are nothing like getting a piercing or tattoo, or even getting your tongue forked. Sure, some regular body mods are irreversible, but none of them affect your body, health, and relationships to that extent.

People don’t feel suicidal over a regretted tattoo, but lots of people on this sub have expressed how gender transition surgeries have made them feel suicidal, disgusted/detached from their bodies, and lost identity wise. I imagine gender nullification surgeries would have the same effect, or worse.

I don’t see why anyone would want to get gender nullification surgeries except to try and detach themselves from their own sex, whether that be from trauma, self hatred, or whatever other reason. Wanting these surgeries for anything other than medical purposes is not normal, and it’s clear since you self harm that you are not in a healthy mindset to be making these decisions.

Body modification should be for fun and purely because you want to, not as a method of treating self harm or discomfort in your own body. You need therapy, not surgeries to erase all obvious biological signs that you are female. What happens when you get the surgeries and then two years down the line feel the same way? There wouldn’t be anything left to get rid of. Your body is not the problem.

Which is completely understandable. I’m sure when you posted you weren’t expecting it to go twitter viral, let alone get so much attention from outside the detrans community. If it were me, while I’d be happy to some extent that it was helping educate others, idk if I’d want it to stay up. I’m not trying to blame you or convince you to have it stay up or anything, so I’m sorry if it came off that way. Most of my comment was directed at our community as a whole because I feel like when this comes up there’s very much a “everyone’s using us for their agenda” type narrative, which I think mostly just serves to further isolate us