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About me
I started transitioning because I was a man who never fit in and felt terrible during puberty, thinking becoming a woman would fix my low self-esteem. I took estrogen for years, but I was always scared about the health risks, even though I never had any serious problems. I eventually realized I wasn't actually a woman; I was just a feminine man who was unhappy and influenced by online communities. I stopped living as a woman but kept taking estrogen because I like the softer look it gives me, and I'm now a happy, engaged man. My journey showed me that my problem was social anxiety, not my sex, and I found peace by accepting myself as a gender-nonconforming man.
My detransition story
My journey with gender started because I never felt like I fit in, especially during puberty. I was born male, but I never felt like a "typical" guy. I was uncomfortable with the changes my body was going through and felt a lot of anxiety about my place in the world. I think a lot of my initial push to transition came from a place of low self-esteem and depression; I wasn't happy with who I was, and I thought becoming someone else was the answer.
I started identifying as transgender and began taking estrogen. For a while, it felt like I was finally fixing a problem. I was really scared about the health risks, though. I read online that estradiol could cause heart problems, and I spent over a year terrified and constantly going to the doctor, just worrying myself sick. I never had any serious health complications from the hormones, but the anxiety was real.
After being on hormones for a while, I started to realize that my reasons for transitioning weren't really about having a female brain in a male body. A lot of it was about not liking who I was and thinking that changing my gender would make me more attractive or fix my life. I also got really into the online trans community, and I think I was influenced by what I was reading and seeing there. It felt like the only way to explore not being a stereotypical man was to become a woman.
I eventually detransitioned. I stopped identifying as transgender and went back to living as a man, but I never stopped taking hormones. I continue to take estrogen because I genuinely like the way it makes me look. It softened my features, and I've had way more success dating as a feminine-looking guy than I ever did before. I met my now-fiancée, and we're really happy. It’s ironic—I transitioned to become a woman to be more accepted, but now I’m a feminine man and I’m finally comfortable.
I don’t really regret my transition because it led me to where I am now, and I’m happy with my life. But I do think I was confused. I believe that what I experienced was more about discomfort with puberty and societal expectations than actually being born the wrong sex. I think the current conversation around gender makes it harder for people to just be gender-nonconforming without having to medically transition. Back when I was growing up, you could just be a feminine boy or a tomboy without everyone insisting you were trans.
Now, I see myself as a heterosexual, cis man who just happens to be feminine. I’m very transmedicalist in my views—I think there is a biological basis for being trans, but it's rare, and I think hormones and surgery should be required for a legal gender change, with few exceptions. I'm critical of the idea that gender is just a social performance.
My main takeaway is that transition worked out for me in a roundabout way, but it wasn’t for the reasons I thought. It solved a social and self-esteem problem I had, not a deep identity one. I benefited from the physical changes, but I didn’t need to become a woman to get there.
Here is a timeline of my journey:
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| 14 | Started feeling intense discomfort with male puberty and developing body. |
| 19 | Began identifying as transgender and started taking estrogen. |
| 20 | Experienced severe health anxiety over potential side effects of hormones. |
| 22 | Realized my transition was influenced by low self-esteem and a desire to be more attractive. |
| 23 | Detransitioned socially (stopped identifying as a woman) but continued taking estrogen for its aesthetic effects. |
| 24 | Entered a happy, committed relationship with my fiancée. |
Top Comments by /u/DillingerFinancial:
I thought tomboy was more of Extremely feminine personalities that push against the norms for women, like Girls who just wanna weld, build engines, hunt and not wear makeup
Whereas the Trans men around here that are claiming to be femboys are basically just wanting to do the same things they did when they were being extremely feminine, but with short hair and a beard.
I don't know to be 100% I'm just a Hetero Cis Dude, so I'm not going to pretend like I understand it anywhere outside of just observing. I wasn't exactly ever part of the LGBT community so I don't have a ton of insight beyond what I see in this part of the US
I'd honestly say reconstruction would be the cheapest option. I've seen some done for around 5-6k. I'd just save up for a month or two or put it on a payment plan/credit card. As for laser, the at home lasers are not as permanent, but there are places you can go where you can get unlimited treatments for a set price. If you don't have a ton of hair i'd opt for electrolysis though.
Oh I'm always, where I never stopped taking hormones or did anything to change my appearance I always get weird looks in the men's bathroom. Mostly just men trying to correct me..... like always lol.
Like no you fought for this, here I am in your bathroom. I'm male, this is what you guys wanted so bad and fought for.
Same, I feel like the Antagonism of Trans people, creates more Trans people. Unfortunately since some of us were not given the ability to explore our identity because the same people who fought trans people fight us, and use us like pawns for their agenda. It ends up getting people who never were trans to use that as their means of exploring gender identity.
Back when I was growing up you could explore different gender roles outside of traditional ones without being trans. If you do that now, the people who target trans people throw you in the same box as they do because it's easier to destroy us all at once.
I'm not even part of the LGBT community and I still get targeted lol.
Oh absolutely, I mean I just was not attractive in general before. I still continue horemones because I like the way I look better. I have had a lot more success with women being a femboy than I ever did pre-transition. Hell I had a girl who I had a crush on in high school who was like 10/10 offer to drive a state away to take me out to fancy dinner & such.(I did take her up on that offer) It was a wild experience, and I'm kinda blown away every day by the amount of women(and men which was kinda funny at first but got old quickly) who hit on me, ask me out, etc. Not in the dating pool now, happily committed to my wifey.
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When tested what was your lung capacity before and after? Cause to my knowledge it only effects it during the binding process. Be careful with placebo effect, I read online that there's a chance that estradiol can cause heart problems and went to the doctor for 14 months over just scaring myself to death.
Yeah, Transitioning is not covered by most insurance, nor is detransitioning. Both are labeled as "Gender-Affirming Care" and the only part that is typically covered is HRT(Which is like $30 out of pocket) and it is typically covered if you've had surgeries.
e.g. if you're AFAB and have hysterectomy you can get insurance to cover estradiol
if you're AMAB and have Orchiectomy you can get insurance to cover testosterone.
What specific procedures are you talking about, and under what insurance?
Idk I must just not be active in super sjw communities cause I'm extremely transmedicalist and the worst I ever get is some YouTube comment like "nu uh"
And I mean I'm heavily transmed I think hormones should be required for anyone 18+ to be legally classified as transgender unless medical doctors can provide reason.
I'm also anti-identity in general, and have heavy critiques of Judith Butler's theory of gender performativism. I just haven't got my Ph.D. yet to put myself up there enough to critique her, I'm trying to find an M.D./Ph.D in Philosophy dual program right now to get credentialed.
Okay, I don't deny the existence of it. Don't put that on to all of us those. Many of us don't and have never experienced this. If this is a personal experience, that's great and sharing it might be a good thing?
Terrible source of information though. When doing research, always always always look for the quality of the work, moreso than your desire for confirmation. It's hard to not read something that confirms biases and want to believe that it is true, but always be critical, skeptical even in this age.
Because inherently transgenderism is a biological trait that manifests itself in the realm of Metaphysics. I honestly think Transexualism did a lot better and had a lot more success because people were much more worried about Pragmatic things.
Transgenderism is more Metaphysically centered, therefore everything is about "What is a real 'x'" "'What does it mean to be x'"
Transexualism was kinda based because it's like "What do we understand about cellular and molecular biology? Apparently not as much as we though."