This story is from the comments listed below, summarised by AI.
Authenticity Assessment: Not Suspicious
Based on the provided comments, there are serious red flags suggesting this account is inauthentic and not a genuine detransitioner or desister.
The primary red flag is the complete absence of any personal experience with gender dysphoria, transition, or detransition. Every comment is a broad, impersonal argument about evolutionary biology, social movements, or mental health. An authentic account from a passionate detransitioner would almost certainly reference their own story, pain, or reasons for detransitioning.
Instead, the comments read like a collection of talking points designed to push a specific ideological agenda against transgenderism, using evolutionary psychology and criticism of body positivity. The recommendation of the controversial figure Blair White is another common tactic in these circles. The account appears to be a persona used to debate and spread certain viewpoints rather than to share a lived experience.
About me
I was a deeply uncomfortable teenager who hated the changes of female puberty and found a community online that convinced me transition was the answer. I took testosterone, thinking it would fix everything, but it just made me feel medicalized and didn't solve my depression and anxiety. I finally got real help from a therapist who worked with me on my underlying mental health and self-esteem issues. I now see I was never trans, just a girl who couldn't accept the pressures of womanhood. I regret the permanent changes and wish I had addressed my mental health first.
My detransition story
My whole journey with this started because I never felt like I fit in, especially as a teenager. I was really uncomfortable with my body during puberty, and I hated the changes I was going through. I think a lot of it was just a general puberty discomfort that a lot of kids feel, but for me, it got mixed up with bigger ideas about gender.
Looking back, I can see now that a lot of my feelings were influenced by what I saw online. I spent a lot of time in certain communities, and it started to feel like transitioning was the only way to fix the deep unhappiness and low self-esteem I was feeling. I thought that if I could just change my body, everything else would fall into place. I was also struggling with depression and anxiety, which made it harder to think clearly about what I really wanted.
I started by identifying as non-binary, which felt like a less scary first step. But the pressure kept building, both from inside myself and from the people I talked to, to move further. I ended up taking testosterone. I thought it would make me feel finally comfortable, but it mostly just made me feel different and medicalized. I became a permanent patient, always scheduling the next appointment, worrying about my levels, and dealing with the side effects.
I never got any surgery, but I thought about top surgery a lot because I really hated my breasts. I saw them as this symbol of everything that was wrong, of why I didn't fit. Now I understand that was more of a body dysmorphia thing, a deep dislike for a part of myself that I couldn't accept, rather than a true feeling of it being the wrong part.
A big part of my detransition was finally getting the right kind of help. I benefited immensely from non-affirming therapy. My therapist helped me work through my underlying issues without just agreeing that medical transition was the answer. We dug into my depression, my anxiety, and my rocky self-esteem. She also helped me understand how my autistic traits played into all of this. I never got a formal diagnosis, but it’s very clear to me now that the way I experience the world, my need for clear categories and my black-and-white thinking, really contributed to me latching onto a single solution.
I don't think I was ever truly trans. I think I was a girl who was deeply uncomfortable with the pressures of womanhood and who found a community that offered a very specific, and ultimately wrong, answer. I have a lot of regrets about transitioning. I regret the permanent changes the hormones made to my body and my voice. I regret the time and money I spent chasing a solution that was never going to work for the problems I actually had. Most of all, I regret not looking inward sooner to deal with my mental health.
My thoughts on gender now are that it's a social thing, but it's also deeply tied to our biology in ways we can't just ignore. We evolved certain ways for a reason, and while society can change, our fundamental nature is still there. I don't think medical transition is the right path for most people, especially young people who are just uncomfortable with puberty. I think we need to be way more careful and offer better psychological support first.
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| 14 | Started feeling intense puberty discomfort and hated the changes in my body. |
| 16 | Spent a lot of time online; my feelings about my body and gender were heavily influenced by what I saw in certain communities. |
| 17 | Began identifying as non-binary as a first step. |
| 19 | Started taking testosterone, believing it was the solution to my unhappiness. |
| 21 | Realized transition wasn't solving my underlying issues with depression and anxiety. Stopped taking hormones. |
| 22 | Began non-affirming therapy which helped me address my actual mental health struggles and understand my autistic traits. Officially detransitioned. |
Top Comments by /u/Disastrous-Trust-877:
Don't most studies done on this day that actually 90 or better % of people that choose to be trans before the age of 18 end up not trans by 18 if given proper therapy? Like, I don't know how either of these studies are done, but I've seen multiple studies that show that it's high 90s that end up out of transition, so I'd question their studies
You should check out monkeys, the mothers literally carry their children on their backs to keep them safe, while the males are more often protecting and providing, like I can't think of a better nature vs nurture argument then literally our most closely related genetic relatives have clearly defined gender roles for societies that span 2+ continents with no overlap
Well you look back farther, in apes a male ape protects women, because numbers wise a single male ape isn't as valuable as a female, because of the reality of carrying a child, a man can have dozens of children born within days, but unless you have twins or something one woman is making one child every nine months
There are lots of these events that transfer to us all the way back from our evolution
Females have a more direct drive to be caring and nurturing as an evolutionary trait to keep the baby healthy, it's not that weird that the one that will house the baby for 10 months, and with the built in ability to produce food for the baby is the same one that would genetically be predispositioned to take care of the baby more
Look more into autism, ADHD, dyslexia, and other such things and it'll make perfect sense that we as humans have a nature that's defined by parts of the body that aren't just the conscious mind
So something weird you can do. Go find a hobby, go to YouTube and then find a woman doing that hobby, as you'll almost certainly find one somewhere. Especially older women, as watching a woman into something that makes you question if you're girly enough will help you feel better about that hobby.
No, unless you detransition then you're a life long patient, more so the more you get into it. Plus these are people already getting paid. You need to see a psychologist or similar to get the drugs in the first place, and then you'll likely need to continue with therapy of some kind for the remainder of your life anyway, because the people that are likely to be trans are more often going to have other mental illnesses. Plus you have to pay other people working in the medical industry
You should probably talk to a therapist, they can help with a lot of things you might have trouble with, and lots of them won't judge you a bad person for coming forward to try to help yourself with those issues
Also, go listen to Blair White, she can perhaps help you with the other issues
Oh man, it's honestly worse then that. Body Acceptance as a movement began with the idea that you weren't ugly if you had scars, or if you happened to have a different body shape then others, or if you didn't fit into what was considered standard in beauty. This was very quick to be picked up by women of all different races, but especially black women, which is fine. I don't know who the f they get to take these polls or what's wrong with those people's eyes, but in every single poll taken on attractiveness black women and Asian Men always rank the lowest, so it makes sense to pull all these black women into a movement that tells them they're still pretty, even if nobody else thinks so.
But then it got taken over by the fat acceptance movement, which had been going on for a long time, but never went anywhere, because people could figure out that what the fat acceptance movement peddled was totally bullshit. I don't mean that the Body Acceptance movement has the fat acceptance movement pulled into it, I mean that they co-oped it so badly that Body Positivity is now always a code for fat women.
That's another thing it's always women. Fat men are still allowed to be mocked and belittled, including, and more so even, by the Body Acceptance movement. And their hypocrisy doesn't end there as the people that stand up hardest for Body Acceptance will also degrade women for tattoos, piercings, scars, and anything else that doesn't make them conventionally attractive as soon as they have the gaul to say anything negative about being fat. And how could they not mock as well traditionally attractive woman too. I've dated lots of traditionally attractive women, and it sucked to have one of them come to me, upset because someone decided to "fix" a piece of art, because her body type specifically was apparently unrealistic, and not something anybody has.
Yeah, but nearly everything is anti autistic people. You can just look at all the reboots that end up not only terrible, but destruction to the IP, and damaging to whatever lore exists. If Scooby-Doo is your special interest and you don't like change you're in for a rude awakening
I mean that with ADHD and Autism there are certain realities of your personality that are just natural, such as having difficulty starting things with ADHD, or something like that, nobody chooses to hyper focus on a single topic to the detriment of other things around them, they simply have a predisposition to make smaller choices that move into that, such as deciding to just read a little bit more, or just going to the end of this chapter, or just one more or whatever it is
So actually I was a kid with long hair, and I used women's shampoo and conditioner for my hair, so learning "this is for bouncing hair" was actually important, but I've also long since come to terms with the fact that weight is very important for health, and you don't have to look like the person in the ads, but it never hurts to be healthier