This story is from the comments by /u/Dissposabletag that are listed below, summarised with AI.
User Authenticity Assessment: Not Suspicious
Based on the provided comments, the account "Dissposabletag" appears authentic. There is no strong evidence suggesting it is a bot or an inauthentic actor.
The user demonstrates:
- Personal, nuanced experience: They describe their own detransition, ongoing dysphoria, and complex social fallout in a way that reads as genuine.
- Consistent, complex viewpoints: Their stance is critical of both trans activism AND the "transition bad, detransition good" narrative common in detrans spaces. They consistently argue for individual assessment and better mental health screening.
- Engagement in debate: They engage in lengthy, detailed arguments with other users, showing an ability to process and respond to complex ideas in real-time, which is atypical for bots.
- Self-awareness: They acknowledge their own biases and the pain that fuels the community's rhetoric, aligning with the warning that detransitioners can be "passionate and pissed off."
While the account could be a very sophisticated troll, the depth, consistency, and emotional resonance of the comments point toward an authentic individual who is a detransitioner or desister.
About me
I was born male and felt a deep discomfort with it from a very young age, so I transitioned at seventeen, which finally made me comfortable in my own body. I detransitioned a few years later for reasons I now see as foolish, and it was a huge mistake that caused my dysphoria to come back worse than ever. My body had masculinized further, leaving me with permanent changes that make me miserable every day. I now believe my need to transition was valid and that detransitioning left me in a much worse place both physically and mentally. I'm trying to build a new life now, but I'm stuck with severe regret over losing so much time and the irreversible changes.
My detransition story
My whole journey with transition and detransition has been long and complicated, and it’s left me with a lot of mixed feelings. I was born male and from a very young age, I felt a deep discomfort with being male. I hated how men looked, sounded, acted, and even smelled. The idea of turning into one of them caused me extreme distress. I didn’t know why I felt this way, and no matter how much I tried to figure it out, I never got a solid answer. It wasn't about just being gender non-conforming; wearing makeup or acting feminine wouldn't have fixed the core issue for me because I’d still be male.
I started transitioning when I was seventeen. For a while, it felt like it was working. Transitioning gave me a new lease on life. I was finally comfortable in my body and my social life improved. I felt like I could actually live without that constant, grinding dysphoria. I took hormones and lived as a woman for a few years. During that time, I faced a lot of discrimination—I was fired from jobs, refused employment, and even assaulted, and each time I was told it was my own fault for being trans.
But eventually, for a mix of reasons I now see as foolish, I decided to detransition. I thought it might solve other problems in my life, but it turned out to be a huge mistake for me. Detransitioning was incredibly difficult. My social circle evaporated almost overnight; my trans friends mostly ghosted me. My dysphoria came back worse than ever, and my body had further masculinized in a way that felt irreversible. My shoulders and ribcage got bigger, and I was left with what I call a "gorilla torso." Even years later, it makes me miserable every single day. I lost my path forward and felt like I was back at square one, but with even less hope.
I don’t think transition is a scam or inherently bad. For me, it was a positive thing that improved my life for a time, and I know it helps many people. The problem was that I detransitioned for the wrong reasons. I now believe that my need to transition was driven by a deep-seated dysphoria that I still don’t fully understand. It wasn’t caused by internalized homophobia or trauma; it was just there, a constant in my life since childhood.
I have serious regrets about detransitioning. It left me in a worse place physically and mentally. I feel like I missed out on my teenage years and my young adulthood. All my friendships felt superficial during that time because I was so uncomfortable in my own skin, and now I look back and see a lot of emptiness. I’m trying to build a new life now, but it’s hard when you feel like you’ve lost so much time.
My thoughts on gender are that dysphoria is a real mental illness, a feeling of discomfort that exists like depression or anxiety. It’s not a deception. I think transition can be a valid treatment for that, but it needs to be approached carefully. The standards for who transitions should be higher, and there should be better mental health screening to help people figure out if transition is right for them or if their feelings are coming from something else, like trauma, internalized homophobia, or a fetish.
I also think the conversation around this stuff is too black and white. In trans spaces, it often feels like you can’t question anything, and in detrans spaces, it often feels like everyone thinks transition is pure evil. I’m stuck in the middle. I think transition helped me, but detransition hurt me. I don’t fit neatly into either narrative, and that’s a lonely place to be.
Here’s a timeline of my journey:
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| Very young | First feelings of discomfort with being male. |
| 17 | Started transitioning (hormones and social transition). |
| 20-21 | Detransitioned. Dysphoria returned severely. Body masculinized further. |
| 23 | Reflecting on lost time and the permanence of changes from detransition. |
| Now (29) | Still dealing with severe dysphoria and regret over detransitioning. |
Top Reddit Comments by /u/Dissposabletag:
Agp, if nothing else, really needs more people to call it out and rule it out. It seems reasonable that we should all at least be able to agree that transitioning in pursuit of a fetish is a really terrible idea and something no doctor should condone.
Another great example of why thorough mental health screening is necessary.
Glad he realized transition wasn't right for him and was able to do what he felt he needed to, though I do wish he wouldn't take the Heyer route and project his issues on others. It's troublesome enough sorting out the various causes of dysphoria without blanchard's unfalsifiable assumptions being thrown at people at step one.
A sub for supporting detransitioners is a far cry from a sub that focuses on posting pictures of people's genitals and mocking and degrading them.
As far as subs needing to worry about getting the ax for trans-related crimes, this one is pretty far down the list.
The context of what the sub is makes a huge difference, not every sub that doesn't perfectly tow trans talking points is equal or has an equal claim to violating Reddit's rules.
The posts were pretty bad and tended to see more people being cruel or condescending than anything actually constructive. Particularly once more groups started finding it.
In the first place, there's only so much actual useful discussion to be had on poor SRS results. An entire sub about neovagina "disasters" specifically, was probably never going to escape being a point-and-laugh exhibit.
I mean, even as a detransitioner, I feel like a grain of salt is a good thing to keep in hand when looking at discussions about regret or detransition, especially when it is something being directed at you in particular.
There's a lot of exaggerated, misleading, or inaccurate information out there.
I wouldn't know why your dysphoria disappeared, but it does happen. Particularly when it is latched onto some other issue that gets worked out. That doesn't mean your dysphoria was fake or less or anything, just that this is how things worked out for you in particular.
People who are unsure about their own situation or who are dependent on others sharing their narrative to feel okay are an unfortunate reality, but it doesn't mean anything negative about you yourself.
For me dysphoria was a constant in my life from when I was very young and the best I could ever do was to obscure it by overworking to the point that I hospitalized myself and then transition made it manageable for a few years and then when I detransitioned it came back with a vengeance.
Like you, I find a very small number of people who actually have anything constructive to say about my experiences. Trans people think I'm an idiot for detransitioning, conservatives are conservatives, and a lot of detransitioner criticize me for still thinking transition was a positive in my life and may not be pure evil. That doesn't make my experience invalid or imply that I'm taking anything. It just means that I am an individual who has his own life experiences and is just trying to figure out why I'm going to do with the rest of my life and how I got here in the first place.
You are you. Your experiences are all apart of what brought you to this point. And the only one who can figure out what your past means or what you should do in the future is you.
If people are going to dismiss your experiences then all you can do is move on from them and find someone who will listen, you aren't alone, it's just a matter of finding the people willing to listen.
So, just for fun, I've been starting a spreadsheet looking at the threads over the past week (oldest to newest) and so far trans people have been in the minority compared to all other groups based on each user's history.
Edit: I'm currently taking a break about half way through and so far the numbers are
Detrans male: 5 posts 146 comments
Detrans female: 17 posts 147 comments
All forms of trans people and people still medically transitioning: 4 post 95 comments +4 deleted comments I'll attribute to them just because
GC crowd: 7 posts 180 comments
Conservatives: 2 posts 77 comments
Unsure about what they are or I can't tell if they are conservative or GC crowd: 5 posts 58 comments.
Edit2: actually, I'm just going to make a separate post for the final numbers.
For some people who either win the genetic lottery or start early enough, yes.
If you are post-pubescent, it's usually better to just give up and detransition or get used to being seen as either trans or gay. That's basically the whole reason the whole "trans women are women" thing exists in the first place, after all. If more people could pass we would all just move on with our lives with no fuss and able to just go where we fit in.
Sorry things went so badly for you. Hope you find a good way forward.
Dysphoria is a feeling of discomfort. It exists in the same capacity as depression or anxiety, and it doesn't necessarily come from other people suggesting that you should be the other sex anymore than the massive amount of people saying transition is bad or wrong are to blame for detransition.
Dysphoria is a mental illness which is as real as any other. That, at least, is not a deception.
Yeah. I myself got the other extreme for a while. It's unfortunate that right now things are one extreme or the other with no actual attention given to the needs of most people.
Hopefully as things calm down people will be able to look at things with more reasonable eyes.