I'm tired of the Policing of language and the Policing of my own feelings. Like if I say I made a mistake, I'm allowed to use the word mistake, every human makes mistakes. I don't feel stigma calling myself detransitioned, it is the people making flags like this and trying to reframe the narrative that want me to feel stigmatized about it. It's a method of keeping all of the discourse on the topic in the power of Trans people. Not allowing detransitioned people to have their own voice, their own story. I understand that it comes from a place of fear that their story will be taken less seriously. That doesn't give any group the right to silence another.

I noticed something somewhat similar towards the end of my transition where I didn't want to be stealth, I wanted people to understand I was biologically female because of how different the emotional/behavioral aspects are. Like I wanted people to know I wasn't actually a guy I remember getting offended when a suitor called me manly..LOL. like he thought that's what I wanted to hear but it actually hurt me. The psychology of this all is incredibly interesting

Like the rest of the field of psychiatry, there are no actual tests. You can't take a lab test for gender dysphoria, or depression or bipolar. There can only be educated guesses. Different psychiatrists can give you different diagnosis based on their own perception of you, bias, etc. If you see a gender therapist they will agree with anything you say and "diagnose you" but if you see a therapist who happens to be more conservative, they will have an entirely different diagnosis for you. Just like you could go to 3 different therapists and one might say you have bipolar, one says you have depression and ADHD, one says you just have ADHD. Psychiatry is really a guessing game in my opinion. It's very easy for someone with gender dysphoria to get the diagnosis and treatments they want by finding a provider who aligns with their views, Dr shopping.

Yes and it's interesting I've seen this brought up before regarding mushrooms and detransition. I had a mushroom trip in which I laid on my bed and listened to female musicians and had a very profound "body trip" where I basically reconnected with my femininity and everything was very crystal clear after that. It was like a coming back home to myself moment... a trip back home.

There really hasn't been enough scientific research to show what being "in between" hormonally would do to your body health wise in the long term. Our hormones are very important in regards to our overall health and should be in the healthy levels for men or women of one's age. Even a trans-positive physician I saw told me that "microdosing" T or otherwise not having your hormones at appropriate levels for either is very experimental still.

I really appreciate your response. I think we sometimes get caught up in critiquing stereotypes without acknowledgment that, like it or not, the stereotypes and expectations of men and women shape the world we live in and it's not always as easy as just not caring. It takes a lot of energy to pretend not to care.

However. I think it is sad if people are choosing to transition to blend in as the opposite sex on unrealistic expectations of what hormones and surgeries can actually accomplish. I think people see the few very well passing Trans people or mostly, are viewing content online that has all kind of filters to make someone look passing and expect that they will be able to be stealth and that their life will improve drastically. If you are trying to get out of the spotlight and not be noticed and questioned, this is not the route to take. The truth is that it is hard to pass in real life, humans pick up on very subtle things that can give someone away, and you will get more harassment, glares and hardship as a Trans person as opposed to an effeminate man/masculine woman. Hardships in retaining employment, relationships, medical care, pretty much every aspect of life is more stressful. I just feel bad for the people with unrealistic expectations and then find themselves in a scenario where they are still unhappy and now also massively oppressed.

Well. It's experimental. So who knows, it's only more recently been given as an option for people. Traditionally HRT has been given in specific dosages to try to mirror a natural hormone level of the other biological sex. So an ftm would have to have their hormone levels checked regularly to make sure they are in that safe, normal level. And vice versa. While microdosing T may cause slower changes in secondary sex characteristics, it would be a hormonal imbalance and outside of the normal thresholds. I know the Dr I saw had mentioned a risk of osteoporosis, and in general, hormonal imbalances can cause adrenal issues, thyroid issues, weight gain, mood issues, etc.

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I agree. I think that supporting trans people should also include a default support and acceptance of detrans people as well.. if we are supporting peoples right to explore their identities then it should never just be a one way street. Or it is hypocritical as hell.

So....why do you want to be a Trans man then? I'm sincerely asking, not trying to be rude. Why not a GNC woman? If you want to take hormones you may well lose the many feminine traits that you like about yourself. Or end up with medical issues, when it seems you are already content with your body