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Authenticity Assessment: Not Suspicious
Based on the provided comments, the DruidWonder account appears authentic. There are no serious red flags suggesting it is a bot or a bad-faith actor.
The comments show:
- Personal, multi-faceted history: The user shares specific, non-repetitive details about their life (running businesses, nursing school, detransition experience, travel to India).
- Consistent but evolving viewpoint: The perspective is strong and critical but shows internal development (e.g., moving from a trans identity to rejecting gender ideology, discussing spiritual insights).
- Emotional complexity: The user expresses a range of genuine emotions—anger, fatigue, curiosity, and personal resolution—that align with someone who has lived through a difficult experience.
The passion and criticism are consistent with a genuine detransitioner or desister who feels harmed by their experience.
About me
I was born female and my discomfort with my body started from a place of envy toward other women. I transitioned and took testosterone, believing my masculine traits meant I was in the wrong body. A spiritual trip to India completely changed my view, helping me see my true self is beyond my physical form. I no longer believe in gender and have fully detransitioned, finding peace in just being myself. While I don't regret my journey, I wish I had been helped to understand my feelings instead of medicalizing them.
My detransition story
My whole journey with transition and detransition is complicated and deeply personal. I was born female, and for a long time, I felt a lot of discomfort with my body and my role in the world. I think a lot of my initial feelings came from a place of envy toward other women. I envied the attention they got from men, especially the men I was attracted to but could never get. I also envied the huge variety of fashion they had access to and the social acceptability for women to be vain. I think I had a lot of internalized issues and low self-esteem that I didn't understand at the time.
I eventually came to believe I was transgender and started to transition. I took testosterone for a while. I noticed that when I was on it, my voice got deeper, and when I eventually stopped and my body's natural hormones came back, my voice went back up again. I never had any surgeries, but I thought about it a lot. Looking back, I see now that a big part of the trap of trans ideology for me was buying into gender stereotypes. I started to believe that if a female was masculine or hated things like having breasts, it must mean she was in the wrong body. I think most people wouldn't feel their bodies are wrong if they weren't taught that by certain ideologues.
My perspective completely changed after I had some spiritual experiences, especially when I traveled to India and saw religious iconography of deities that were neither male nor female. It made me understand that my consciousness, the real me, is so much more complex than my physical body. I transformed my dysphoria into curiosity about how people see me, without taking it personally. If someone calls me he or she, I take that as their experience of me, not my own. I don't believe in gender anymore. We are born the sex we are born, and the rest is like a performance or theatre. It doesn't change the spirit of who I am.
I have a lot of mixed feelings about my transition now. I think the trans movement has become too ideological and puts people into boxes. I don't subscribe to the cis/trans paradigm anymore. I am just me. I also think the movement's unwillingness to have open, uncomfortable conversations is doing a lot of harm. The vitriol, the doxxing, and the attempts to destroy people's lives for simply questioning things have made the world a more hostile place for everyone, including detransitioners like me.
I don't have regrets in the sense that my journey led me to where I am now, which is a place of much greater peace and self-understanding. But I do regret that I was led down a path that medicalized my discomfort instead of helping me understand its root causes. I benefited from stepping away from that affirming-only mindset and finding my own answers.
Here is a timeline of my journey:
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| 22 | First started experiencing significant discomfort with my body and social role as a woman. |
| 24 | Began identifying as transgender and started taking testosterone. |
| 26 | Stopped testosterone after realizing it wasn't addressing my core issues. |
| 28 | Took a transformative trip to India that changed my spiritual perspective on gender and identity. |
| 30 | Fully embraced a detransitioned life, no longer identifying with any gender label. |
Top Comments by /u/DruidWonder:
There's a simple reason that is actually sex-based in psychology research. Girls are more subject to social contagion than boys, especially when it comes to mental disease. For example, in anorexia wards they have to keep girls separated because if they are housed together they will worsen each other's anorexia.
Group conformity and group influence is much more prevalent among young girls particularly when it comes to body image.
Before 2014 MTF was more common than FTM, now it's the opposite. Girls already had to navigate a self-image minefield growing up in toxic misogyny culture, so now being able to allegedly escape being female altogether has gained appeal.
Detransitioners are the biggest threat to their ideology. You can't even call us fascists or bigots. We drank the kool aid and it didn't work. We were one of them.
They are frightened by what we represent. We are the biggest hole in their logic that they can't reconcile. So it's just easier to hate.
The reckoning is coming though.
Terf is just the gender deconstructivist equivalent of "conspiracy theory."
They have spent years destroying the meaning of words, which is why I will never try to heal my trauma in those fucked up communities. Everyone speaks passionately but the goalposts are constantly shifting.
Our bodies have become political minefields, instruments for other people's trauma and social justice narratives..
I'm tired.
Leave me alone, I am living the life I need to.
Social media and the education system have taught them that recreational outrage should always be the automatic response to misgendering (or any trivial offense). Don't bother looking inward, practicing compassion, or try to understand that other people are also human beings coming from a different POV. No, just become enraged and irrational.
I'm personally curious about what people call me. I know who I am so it doesn't matter.
The great thing about this world is that you can be whomever you want to be. You can't force people to see you the way you want to be seen because the same rule about being who you want to be also applies to them. You can't expect others to instantly affirm and validate you if they don't know you.
All I think about when I see people like this is: what is your dysphoria?
If you're not in pain about looking like the wrong gender and need to change things to meet your target gender, then IMO you are not trans. You're just a trendy queer or some shit.
Maybe I'm old school but DRAG means dressing as a girl. If you already are one it's not drag. Plus drag has a very specific political and historical purpose.
I understand what female and male impersonation on the drag level represents to trans and queer folk but when I go to a drag performance in a gay bar and a woman gets on stage, me and everyone around me looks like wtf.
I don't subscribe to the cis/trans paradigm anymore. I think it's too ideological and it puts people into boxes. If people want to call themselves that, then that's fine. And no, that does not mean I'm non-binary or "queer" because I don't subscribe to that either.
I am me.
Your voice is on the lower end for a woman but it's still giving me woman.
As a male I have an overall deeper voice obviously, but I noticed that when I killed my testosterone, my voice did go up an octave. And when I eventually restored my natural testosterone, it went back down again.
So I think you need to give it some time. Restoring estrogen and removing all the T you were taking could cause some slight modification of voice back toward feminine.
It's actually to their detriment to create an echo chamber. They are ill equipping themselves for IRL discourse that's coming their way, and they won't be able to ban or block people in person.
Echo chamber social media groups are weak sauce. Everyone in them sounds the same and they are not progressing as human beings.
I say let them. It's part of the reason why they are so shocked the political tides are turning. They've blocked everyone who thinks differently. Well guess what children, all those people you are censoring are just getting together and talking among themselves.
I think if they made women's clothing that was tailored to men's bodies it would be more flattering. A lot of guys are wearing women's clothes for women's bodies and it just looks terrible.
I don't care what people wear but I will judge your taste level.