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About me
I started transitioning at 21 because my autism made me feel like a complete outsider as a man, and I was misdiagnosed and misunderstood by doctors. I took hormones for seven years, which helped for a time, but I eventually realized my discomfort wasn't with being male but with how people treated me. All of my dysphoria vanished, and now I finally feel happy and sexy in my natural male body. I medically detransitioned years ago, but I'm still forced to live as a woman for work and school because no one will hire me as a detransitioned man. While I don't regret the self-knowledge I gained, I deeply regret the permanent changes and social isolation this journey caused.
My detransition story
My whole journey with transition and detransition is deeply tied to my autism and a lot of confusion from my childhood. I was born into a low-income family and my parents neglected me. In school, my teachers thought I was autistic and one of them even bullied me. Some of my classmates did too. I always felt different and had a lot of trouble communicating with other boys. I’m pretty smart and I couldn't understand why other boys didn't get how girls behaved, and I also couldn't understand a lot of typical boy feelings. I related much better to intellectually gifted girls, not because they were girls, but because they were smart like me. This made me start thinking I was in the wrong body.
After I finished school, I went to a psychiatric hospital because I wanted to figure out what was wrong with me. I asked to be tested for autism because people had suggested it before, but they never tested me. Instead, they diagnosed me with schizophrenia. The therapy for it didn't help at all, so I found a new psychiatrist who specialized in transgender care. He checked the schizophrenia diagnosis and said it was wrong. Right away, he gave me my first prescription for estradiol. About six months later, he mentioned that an autism diagnosis might be correct and that I should go to a clinic to get tested, but I never did. At one point, I told him I wasn't so sure about transitioning anymore, but I kept taking the hormones for the next seven years because it felt like it was helping me with my daily life. Eventually, I decided to stop.
I had a lot of body dysmorphia and what I thought was gender dysphoria, but I realize now my discomfort worked both ways; I had dysphoria about the idea of being female too. I really enjoyed wearing girls' clothes and I hated most male stereotypes. But as I got older, I realized I had the same communication problems with girls that I had with boys. The dysphoria for my male body just went away—I'm not sure if it was the estrogen or just me getting older. I also figured out that a lot of the bad human behaviours I hated weren't specific to men; women had them too. I didn't dislike being male; I just disliked a lot of general human behaviour.
I now believe my problems with being a man weren't because I was a bad boy, but because my family neglected me and my teachers didn't like me. People often called me gay, but they didn't even know what it meant; I was just acting "different" because of my autism. The transition did help me for a time in my everyday life, and I'm pretty sure my life would have been easier if I had just been born a girl. But actually transitioning made it worse because of the lack of social support and acceptance. People can be very cruel.
I started medically transitioning at 21. I had extreme gender dysphoria about my male body at the beginning, and I got a pretty good passing appearance, even though I'm a bit tall. But over time, that dysphoria completely disappeared and even turned into a kind of gender euphoria for my male body. Now I actually feel really sexy as a man.
I medically detransitioned almost six years ago, but I haven't socially detransitioned yet. I haven't found a company that will hire me as a detransitioned male. The only jobs I could get were ones where I lived stealth as a woman. Being seen as an MTF transgender person made life extremely difficult, and I didn't want to give up the few privileges I had. However, I was fired from my last two jobs because of my autistic traits. I've been unemployed for 10 months now and I've just started a further education program where I'm still enrolled as female. I'm trying to stay positive. I finally feel good in my male body and I want to go to the gym and get buff. I'm still young and I want to have some fun. I'm even thinking about starting a career as a YouTuber or a mangaka.
Looking back, my autistic mind was the reason I transitioned and also the reason I detransitioned. I think there's a strong correlation between autism and transgenderism because autism makes you neurodivergent. In my opinion, autistic people are the most likely to detransition. I don't have regrets about the journey itself because I learned so much about myself, but I regret the permanent changes and the social difficulties it caused. I don't believe I was ever truly a woman; I was just a man who felt different and misunderstood, and I was looking for a way to escape that pain.
Here is a timeline of my journey:
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| Childhood | Bullied by teacher and classmates; suggested I was autistic. |
| After School | Went to a psychiatric hospital; misdiagnosed with schizophrenia. |
| 21 | Started taking estrogen and began medical transition. |
| 21 - 28 | Lived as a woman and took hormones for 7 years. |
| 28 | Medically detransitioned (stopped hormones). |
| 34 (Now) | Have not socially detransitioned; still enrolled in education as female. |
Top Comments by /u/DrumnBassSuperstar:
"....but I feel like I’d really hate to go from a somewhat decent looking guy to a bad-looking girl."
here we have it. Just try crossdressing. Buy some artificial boobs and a wig and learn how to use make-up. In my opinion transitioning is only worrth it if you really dont want to live as your sex assigned at birth, but from what ive read here, it doesnt look like you dislike being male
hello,
You look absolutely amazing. are both these people really the same person? The girl has a tatoo on her right arm and the boy on the left arm.
I started transitioning at 21, i got a pretty good passing although i am a bit tall. At the beginning i had an extreme form of gender dysphoria for my male body but as time passed the gender dysphoria just disapeared and even turned into something similar to gender euphoria. Now i feel even really sexy in my male body lol.
"....Transitioning and looking like a guy wearing women’s clothes is my biggest fear with transitioning, why would I actively choose to be a guy in women’s clothes?"
you can also have surgeries as a male without transitioning. You can even get a pretty good passing as a crossdresser. Maybe you should go to a drag show or something. Not all of them look bad. You cant swap your body and the effects of the hormones take some time. During this time you will be "you", ergo a man, wearing womans clothes.
i have medically detransitioned almost 6 years ago but i havent socially detransitioned yet simply because i havent found a company yet that would hire me as a "detrans male". The only jobs i got, were jobs where i lived stealth. Being mtf-transgender makes life extremely difficult and i dont want to give up the few privileges i have right now. However, i was fired from my last two jobs because of my autistic traits and i am currently looking for a new job where i finally can live and thrive as a man.
hello,
my autistic mind was the reason i transitioned and also the reason why i detransitioned. There is probably a correlation between autism and transgenderism. Autism basically makes you neurodivergent and the idea of transgenderism is based on a different development of the brain.
In my opinion autistic people are most likely to detransition.
so the problem is basically that you want to be seen as a nonbinary person but you dont want to be a "weird" person. I guess you have to work on your self esteem and accept yourself like you are. The Group of nonbinary people is a minority but someone has to start fighting for this group, otherwise this group will never be part of the society
hello,
i was born into a low-income-environment and my parents neglected me. During school my teachers thought that i suffer from autism but i never got an autism diagnosis. The teacher in my class didnt like me and bullied me. Some of my classmates also bullied me afterwards.
After finishing school i went to a psychiatric hospital to find out whats wrong with me. I told them that some people suggested in the past that i suffer from autism. I was tested but the results were negative. Now i wanted to be tested again simply because i thought i answered some of the questions wrong. I also told them, that if they dont find anything i would do a transition. They never tested me for autism. Instead, they diagnosed me with schizophrenia, but the therapy didnt help me so i was looking for another psychiatrist. This time the psychiatrist was specialized in transgenderism. I told him my story and he needed to check if the schizophrenia diagnosis is correct. Turned out that the diagnosis doesnt seem to be corrected and i was able to receive my first receipt for estradiol. 6 Months later he suggested that the autism diagnosis might be correct and i should visit a clinic for a diagnosis. In the next appointment i told him that i am not so sure about this transition anymore BUT it helped me with my daily life so i kept taking hormones for the next 7 years. Than i decided to detransition.
Because of my autistic mind i had problems to communicate with other boys when i was young. I am pretty smart and i couldnt understand why the other boys were not able to comprehend the behaviour of girls. On the other hand i was not able to comprehend some boys feelings. I was able to relate very good to some intellectually gifted girls and thought i might be in the wrong body. but i was not able to relate to these girls good because they were girls but because they were gifted. I also suffered from body dysmorphia and genderdysphoria but my gendeerdysphoria also worked for the female gender. Furthermore, i also really enjoyed wearing girls clothes and i disliked most of the male stereotypes.
However as time passed by and i got older i realized that i have the same communication difficulties with girls that i also had with boys. The girls were in their teens and "suffered" from puberty thus they pretended to like me when i was a young boy. my bodydysmorphia for my male body went away (i am not sure if this is because of the estrogene). And i found out that a lot of the bad male stereotypes also work for females. So i didn't dislike male behaviour and stereotypes but more like human behaviour and human stereotypes.
i had problems with my role as a male not because i am really that bad as a boy but rather because my family neglected me and my teacher didnt like me. Other people frequently described me as gay, but they didn't even know what gay meant at that time. I was just acting "different" because of my autism.
Last but not least: The transition helped me in my every-day-life and i am pretty sure that my life would have been better, if i was born as a girl, but the transition made it actually worse due to lack of social support and acceptance.
thank you all for your answers. I accidentally posted this into the wrong subreddit but it also suits here. The lighting and shadows make me look a bit softer. I look very androgynous in real life and most people assume i am a girl but sometimes peoples think that i look very manly for a girl. i have not socially detransitioned yet. BTW: I can look even more feminine with make up and in drag :-) :-*
i have been unemployed for 10 months now and have started a program for further education where i am again enrolled as female.. i still try being positive. I finally feel good in my male body and want to go to the gym and get buffed ;-) i am still young and want to have some fun. I am thinking of starting a career as a youtuber or a mangaka.