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Reddit user /u/DryBedbug's Detransition Story

Transitioned: 15 -> Detransitioned: 15
female
regrets transitioning
influenced online
started as non-binary
only transitioned socially
heterosexual
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About me

I'm a masculine woman who started questioning my gender at 14 because I liked typical guy things and felt pressured by people constantly asking for my pronouns. I tried socially transitioning, but it felt like a costume and never truly fit who I am. I'm grateful I never medically transitioned, as I now see I was just a girl who didn't fit a feminine stereotype. I've come to believe that you are born male or female, and your interests don't change that. I am now at peace, comfortable in my body as a woman who is simply masculine.

My detransition story

My whole journey with this started when I was about 14. I’m a biological woman, but I’ve always been very masculine. I like what people call “guy things” – drinking beer, watching football, doing woodworking. I look up to a lot of male role models because of their personalities and the way they carry themselves, not because they are men. I always felt like I could be “one of the boys” without actually being a boy.

When I was 15, people around me kept asking what my pronouns were. That constant questioning, plus what I was seeing online, is what really made me start to question my own gender identity. I began to think that because I wasn't a feminine woman, maybe I wasn't a woman at all. I now see that I was heavily influenced by people online into thinking that my personality and interests meant I had a different gender identity.

I started to socially transition around that time. I asked people to use a different name and pronouns for me. But the whole time, it never felt completely right. It felt like I was putting on a costume to match my interests, rather than being myself. I’m just a woman who looks masculine and likes masculine things. It makes me sad that we fought so hard against strict gender roles, and now if a boy is feminine or a girl is masculine, the first conclusion is that they must be transgender. That goes against everything I stand for.

I never took hormones or had any surgeries. I’m so grateful for that now. I think if I had been a few years younger when all this started, I might have been pushed down that path. I only started having sexual thoughts when I was 15, a full year after I began questioning my gender. I can't imagine a 10-year-old knowing who they want to be or who they want to have sex with. The only reason kids that young question these things is if they are influenced by the people around them.

Looking back, I don’t believe in an inner “gender identity” that defines if you’re a man or a woman. You are born either male or female. Some men are more feminine and some women are more masculine, and that’s perfectly okay. It doesn’t change the sex you were born as. Your gender doesn't define your capabilities or your limitations. I think if more people realized that, there would be a lot fewer people who think they are trans. People need time to grow into their bodies before making a decision to forever alter them.

I don’t regret exploring my identity because it led me to this understanding, but I do regret that I ever felt pressured to change who I was in the first place. I am at peace now. I am a masculine woman, and that is enough.

Here is a timeline of my journey:

My Age Event
14 Started questioning my gender identity due to online influence.
15 People began asking for my pronouns, which increased my confusion. I began to socially transition.
15 Realized my social transition felt wrong and stopped. I accepted I am a masculine woman.

Top Comments by /u/DryBedbug:

5 comments • Posting since April 14, 2023
Reddit user DryBedbug (Socially Trans - Regrets entire Transition) suggests that a mother removed her detransitioned child's graduation photo to protect them from painful memories and advises communicating acceptance of the past.
37 pointsApr 19, 2023
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I think your mom had good intent and I think the reason she put it down is because she didn't want you to be reminded of that time in your life. Maybe you should tell her that you appreciate her gesture but that it doesn't bother you and that you accept what happened and that it doesn't effect you that much.

Reddit user DryBedbug (Socially Trans - Regrets entire Transition) explains how being repeatedly asked for her pronouns as a masculine-presenting 15-year-old biological woman led her to question her gender identity.
8 pointsApr 14, 2023
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I remember before socially transitioning when I was about 15 people kept on asking me what my pronouns were meanwhile I was (and still am) a biological woman which eventually caused me to question my gender identity. I'm simply a woman who looks very masculine and who likes typically masculine things!

Reddit user DryBedbug (Socially Trans - Regrets entire Transition) explains their anger that feminine boys and masculine girls are now labelled transgender, arguing it reinforces the gender stereotypes they fought against.
8 pointsApr 19, 2023
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It's really sad because people fought so hard against stereo-typcial gender roles and now when a boy is feminine he is now labelled transgender and now if a female is masculine she is labelled transgender. It goes against everything I a masculine female stand for. Just because I enjoy drinking beer while watching football and I do wood working does not mean I'm a man!

Reddit user DryBedbug (Socially Trans - Regrets entire Transition) argues that gender identity is not innate, using the David Reimer case to warn against childhood transition.
7 pointsApr 15, 2023
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I think inner ''gender identity'' doesn't define weter you're a man or a woman. You are either born a man or woman and some men and women are more masculine and some are more feminine but that does not change the gender they were born with. I'm a biological woman and I look up to a lot of male role models and I want to be like them. I want to be like them because of their stereotypical masculine personality not because they are a male. I can ''be one of the boys'' without being an actual boy. I think people need to realize that their gender doesn't define their capabilities and their limitations. I think once people realize that, there will be a lot less trans people. Not saying that they would disappear ofcourse, I don't think that'll ever happen. What I'm trying to say is people need to wait and grow into their bodies before deciding to forever alter their bodies. In David Reimer's case he was told at 12 years old that he was actually a boy which once he found out he detransitioned. I think this case shows that the parents who are transitioning their 5 year old are giving their children severe mental health issues and are making the risk of suicide higher for them.

Reddit user DryBedbug (Socially Trans - Regrets entire Transition) comments that they didn't have sexual thoughts until 15 and questioned their gender at 14 due to online influence, arguing a 10-year-old cannot know their gender or sexuality.
6 pointsApr 19, 2023
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I only started having sexual thoughts when I was 15. I started to question my gender identity when I was 14. I highly doubt that a 10 year old knows what they want to be and who they want to have sex with. The only reason children would question these things is if they're influenced by people around them. The only reason I questioned my gender is because of people online.