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The user expresses a deeply personal, emotionally raw, and specific narrative of medical and social regret that is consistent with genuine detransitioner experiences. The language is erratic and passionate, not formulaic, and the details about physical changes, social fears, and past trauma are highly specific and human.
About me
I was a vulnerable kid who found my answers online after being told my natural female self wasn't enough. I was deeply unhappy and believed that medically transitioning was my only choice for survival. I took testosterone and had surgery, which permanently changed my body and voice, and now I am filled with regret. I feel completely failed by the doctors and therapists who affirmed me instead of helping me work through my trauma. Now I'm isolated and scared, living with the permanent consequences of decisions I was too young to make.
My detransition story
My whole journey feels like a series of mistakes I can't take back. It started when I was really young, in middle school. I remember being given surveys at school that asked me to choose my gender and pronouns from a huge list of options. I was just a kid, and it made me feel like I had to pick something, like my natural self wasn't enough. I was already a vulnerable kid dealing with a lot of unresolved trauma and feeling really displaced. I spent too much time online, on forums and social media, and that's where I found my answers. The internet sold me this idea that I could be someone completely different.
I was deeply unhappy and mentally ill, and I truly believed the narrative that was pushed on me: that it was either be a trans kid or a dead kid. I felt so much discomfort with my body, especially when I started puberty. I hated my breasts and wanted them gone. I thought that if I just changed my outside, the inside would feel better. Doctors and therapists didn't help me work through my real issues; they just affirmed my new identity and told me there were infinite genders. I feel like I was coaxed and lied to by miserable people who saw a vulnerable person they could recruit.
I ended up taking testosterone and got top surgery. Now, I have huge scars on my chest where my breasts used to be. My torso is deformed. The testosterone changed my face and my voice permanently; I can’t sound like a woman anymore. If I try to speak politely, I sound like, as I once said, "a man in heat." I look in the mirror and the girl I used to be is gone. I’ll never be who I should have grown up to be. I threw away my chance to experience my teenage years and now my adulthood as the woman I was meant to be.
I regret everything. I regret my transition more than I regret any piercing, hair dye, or tattoo. Those I can live with, but what I did to my body is on another level. I shouldn’t have been able to consent to this as a kid. I was mentally ill and in no state to make such permanent decisions.
Now, I’m stuck. I look confusing to people, so most call me "they/them" by default. For my own safety, I allow it because I'm scared of being outed as a detransitioner. I'm scared of being banned from places and ostracized by everyone. My old community, my teachers, friends, doctors—none of them support people like me. It’s ironic that just being a woman with my own opinions is now considered "dangerous."
I wish I could have just let myself grow up. I was looking for an answer to my discomfort, and I’m not the only kid who thought surgeries and hormones would cure their dysphoria. It didn’t cure anything; it just created new, permanent problems. I was failed by everyone who was supposed to protect me.
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| ~12-13 (Middle School) | Filled out school surveys choosing from many genders; began spending excessive time online in trans communities. |
| 13-15 | Developed strong discomfort with puberty, specifically hated my breasts. Began identifying as trans. |
| 16 | Started taking testosterone. |
| 17 | Underwent top surgery (double mastectomy). |
| 18-19 (Present) | Realized I had made a terrible mistake. Live with permanent physical changes, deep regret, and social isolation. |
Top Comments by /u/DullElevator2705:
But they’re all saying the same thing, they’ve all come from the same place. The internet bred this and sold it to vulnerable kids using the internet too much. Forums, social media, YouTube, school and the news all know who is watching, mentally ill displaced people. I was choosing my gender and pronouns in middle school for school surveys. 20 genders to choose from. Why was this okayed? How in anyones right mind is that helping children?
I feel like I sold myself, I was coaxed and lied to. I should have known better and realized I was talking to miserable people. Doctors didn’t have my back, when I was looking for a better option. As a kid I really believed the whole dead kid or trans kid- pick a path.
But it is happening to minors, and many minor’s cases are televised! I can’t talk to anyone it seems, no one believes me when I say this is all evil. I’m not some preacher! I’m just an ugly woman who made stupid permanent mistakes as a mentally ill middle schooler.
Why is this political? It’s child mutulation, I have huge scars on my chest where my breasts used to be. My torso is deformed. I can’t sound like a woman, if I try to be polite I sound like a man in heat. I shouldn’t have been able to consent to this, I regret my piercings, hair dying, even my tattoos. I can live with those but… my body, I just, don’t know how to deal with this. I look in the mirror and the girl I used to be is gone, I’ll never be who I should have grown up to be. Why why why
I would like to do counseling but where I live all the doctors are deep in gender ideology, they’ve got money and voice in it. It would be nice to do something of the legal sort, even giving a speech or making a website. My only worry is I’m scared of being outed. My old community doesn’t support detransitioners, my teachers, friends, doctors, therapists etc I’d be silenced. There is little detrans content and resources. Before getting a chance to experience teenagehood as myself and adulthood with adults, I threw myself into a box of delusional, unrealistic lies. No one recommended I think about how the world recognizes biological sex, my therapists and doctors told me there were infinite genders.
I wish I could have let myself grow up. I can’t even look in the mirror, my face is so different and my body is wrong. Most people call me they/them on default and I don’t blame them- I look confusing. For safety reasons I allow it, I’d probably be banned from clubs and ostracized from anything fun because I’ll be called a bigot/terf/hateful etc. It’s funny how being a woman with my viewpoints is “dangerous.” Yes I made a mistake but I was a kid deep in unresolved trauma and abusive situations. I know I’m not the only one who wanted an answer for my discomfort, I’m not the only kid who thought surgeries/hormones would cure my dysphoria.