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The comments display a consistent, nuanced, and emotionally complex personal narrative. The user shares specific details about their medical history (surgery, psychiatric care), location (Israel's gender committee process), and evolving personal feelings (regret, acceptance, shifting sexuality on/off testosterone). The tone varies appropriately from passionate anger to supportive advice, which aligns with the expected emotional range of a genuine detransitioner/desister.
About me
I was born female and began identifying as a trans man in my early twenties, heavily influenced by online communities. I rushed into testosterone and top surgery, but was hit with immediate and overwhelming regret after my breasts were removed. I stopped testosterone and now live with the permanent loss of my original body. My journey taught me that the urge to transition is often rooted in other mental health issues, not in being truly trans. My advice is to slow down, work on your underlying health first, and know that some changes can't be undone.
My detransition story
My journey with transition and detransition has been complicated and full of difficult lessons. I was born female and started identifying as a trans man in my early twenties. Looking back, I think a lot of my drive to transition came from a place of deep discomfort with myself and my body, and I was heavily influenced by the online communities and support groups I was in. They often felt like a cult, where any questioning or suggestion to wait was immediately attacked.
I started testosterone when I was 22. I didn't have a huge problem with being misgendered; if someone called me 'she,' I didn't always correct them because I found it annoying and silly. My main issue was with my breasts; I really hated them and wanted them gone. I got top surgery, but the process to get it was rushed. I begged to see a psychiatrist from the gender committee before the surgery because I had doubts, but they didn't meet with me until afterward. After the surgery, I was hit with immediate and overwhelming regret. I felt awful and missed my original body terribly. My tiny breasts were great, and I didn't want "better" ones; I wanted my own. My psychiatrist put me back on my medication and acknowledged that this kind of reaction, while not talked about much, does happen.
I stopped testosterone after being on it for a few years. One thing I noticed was that my sexuality seemed to change with the hormones. Before testosterone, I wasn't very attracted to men. A couple of months on T, I became bisexual, though I still preferred women. Now that I'm off it, that attraction to men has faded away again. I think I'm just sexually attracted to femininity, and the testosterone made me horny in a different way.
I don't regret everything. I like my deeper voice and the way my body looks with more muscle, and I even like having a flat chest sometimes. It felt like the right choice at the time I made it. But I also have to live with the fact that I can't get my original breasts back, and that is a permanent loss. I’m trying to see it as the universe's plan for me, something I had to go through.
I’ve come to believe that for many people, the urge to transition is rooted in other issues like OCD, anxiety, or a need for a better role model, not in being truly trans. I saw this in my support group and in college. I remember one feminine-presenting person who was planning a mastectomy, and when a taxi driver told her not to ruin her body, everyone called the driver a jerk. I was the only one who agreed with him and told her she'd regret it. I got in trouble for it, but I heard she later canceled her surgery.
My advice to anyone questioning is to slow down. There is tons of time to transition later in life if you still want to, but you can't undo some of these changes. Getting non-affirming therapy to work on your underlying mental health is crucial. Stopping hormones to just think things through won't hurt you; it can only help.
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| 10 | A teacher called my mother concerned that I spoke like a boy, using male-gendered words in our language. |
| 22 | Started taking testosterone. |
| 24 | Underwent top surgery. Experienced immediate regret and severe emotional distress afterward. |
| 24 | Stopped testosterone treatment. Began the process of detransitioning. |
| 24 | Re-engaged with psychiatry to address surgery regret and underlying mental health. |
Top Comments by /u/EcstaticZebra7937:
Yes, they’re like a cult, I have long believed so.their mentality of pushing stuff into children made me sick. I was going to support group and one of the girls asked who knows a doctor who would have appointments for minors. And someone said a name and the girl said they only have an appointment for six more months. When I suggested the person should wait 6 months to be 18, I was attacked.
There was a “none binary” who went to college with me. And she once told us about when she was going to the hospital to meet the surgeon who would do her mastectomy. And she complained about the taxi driver telling her not to do it, not to ruin her body. And everyone was talking about what a jerk he was. I got so frustrated with her stupidity at the time, and I raised my voice, and told her the taxi driver was right, and that she’s going to regret it. I was called to the office for being transphobic (I still identify as trans and she knew it) and had to apologize, but as far as I know, she didn’t get the surgery, and she was supposed to have it in December. So maybe it worked. She was completely feminine BTW, going with her boobs out for every person to see…
My suggestion would be to tell your friend, that if the effects of testosterone are too much right now, and she’s not sure about her voice or whatever, to just LOWER the dosage, and slow everything down. There’s tons of time to transition LATER in life if that’s what your friend would decide to do, when her mental health is BETTER and she has better mental health care.
Stop taking testosterone! Go see your hormone doctor to stop gradually, worst case scenario, you’ll want to get back on. From everything you describe here, I believe you should stop your testosterone. This deal your parents made with you is super weird too, btw: we will let you medically transition and look like a man, but you must attend an all girls school! Very manga like deal.
That’s strange, I never really had any problem at work because of my trans-ness, I always just went and worked, and if someone talked to me as a female I didn’t really care, if someone talked to me as male I was more happy, but it didn’t actually matter. It didn’t stop me from doing my job. I have panic disorder, it hits me usually when I miss the bus, or am late to some place. I had to find jobs that could accommodate my attacks, but when I found one, I held in for a couple of years.
That’s so sad that so many people make their transition control their lives so much, to the point they find it difficult to work. I was told to get disability check more than once for my dysphoria, and to be honest, I do get it for my other mental illness, but with gender dysphoria you can get double the amount, and I always found it weird. Trans people are not disabled, they can work perfectly fine… many of them CHOOSE to be a burden on society. They get off of feeling disabled and ridiculed.
I haven’t, I also haven’t looked too much at surgery results before my surgery, only when I was 18 or so. Honestly I’m lucky I haven’t done so, otherwise I may have went with the “double incision” option for a completely flat chest… what I have now looks fairly natural, and would be easier to repair if I ever decide to do it. For now, I have no idea what I want.
I’m actually not I physical pain. I got a therapist a few weeks before the surgery, and since the surgery I’ve also contacted my psychiatrist again and the committee’s psychiatrist (we have a gender committee to transition in my country). My psychiatrist said my reaction to surgery isn’t that far fetched and that it does happen and put me back on my pills yesterday. The committee one said he truly apologizes for not meeting me earlier when I begged to see someone BEFORE the surgery and offered counseling in the hospital’s clinic. I really do hope I get over this awful feeling and be able to live my life as a dude, but if not, I’m gonna need tons of support, probably my family and the friends who know I was a girl before. It’s not like I had a huge support system as a trans guy, but I bet if I wanted to get it, I would be given all the support I had wanted.
Trans men hurt women as well. But you see here, the people who get hurt are women, that can be because:
Women are physically weaker, and so males (trans women) pose more danger upon them, than females (trans men) pose onto males.
Women were oppressed for a long time, and don’t want to be oppressed again.
Women are more sensitive, being offended more easily than men are usually.
Women are louder, you simply hear about it more often, than men’s complaints about trans men.
Hello dear, you are not a man, you don’t need to transition, what you need is a good male role-model, and therapy.
- To me, it sounds like your issue stems from OCD/anxiety, not necessarily misogyny or porn.
- Just don’t read it. In my opinion, if you aren’t horny enough to masturbate without porn, you aren’t horny.
- You aren’t trans, these are you obsessive thoughts. You need to find a therapist who can help you manage them.
If you told a good therapist all of it, the therapist wouldn’t try and resolve it with surgery.
Nice about it? Nope, my boss said he won’t use my preferred pronouns (even though he sometimes does). He respects me as a person, who knows how to do the job well. So I think he simply doesn’t care, what’s in my pants is none of his or the customers’s business. And I don’t actually care even if bothers them, they’ll just have a cool/funny story to tell their friends and family about the weirdo who works in the seed place and the plant nursery… lol. I don’t care anymore, caring about strangers opinions is for teenagers. And my boss respects me enough to keep hiring me, as I said, as long as the job gets done, they don’t actually care.
Actually, in Israel, you just have to meet the sex change committee again and tell them you regret the entire thing, and you’ll get a letter and can change your passport back. And also reconstruction surgery (for top surgery only) and weekly psychological sessions for I don’t know how long, but it’s funded by the government.