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The comments show a consistent, nuanced perspective over several months. The user engages with complex arguments, offers personal opinions (e.g., "I'm an atheist but..."), and gives practical, multi-faceted advice that reflects a genuine engagement with the detrans/desister experience, even though they state they never had dysphoria themselves. The passion and specific critiques align with genuine viewpoints in that community.
About me
I started because I felt like a failure as a woman and hated the changes my body went through during puberty. I found an online community that convinced me this meant I was a transgender man, and I socially transitioned to escape myself. I eventually realized I was just trading one uncomfortable box for another and stepped away from those influences. Now I understand my struggle was never about gender, but was rooted in body dysmorphia, depression, and internalized misogyny. I'm grateful I found myself without making permanent changes and am now focused on my real mental health.
My detransition story
My whole journey with this started not because I felt like a man, but because I felt like a failure as a woman. I was never comfortable in my own skin, especially during puberty when my body started changing. I hated my breasts; they felt like a betrayal, like these foreign things that drew unwanted attention and made me a target. I now see this as a mix of puberty discomfort and some serious body dysmorphia that got tangled up with my ideas about gender.
I had really low self-esteem and was deeply depressed. I spent a lot of time online, and that’s where I was first introduced to the idea that my hatred for my body might mean I was trans. It wasn't a slow realization; it felt more like I'd found an answer, an escape from all the things I hated about myself. It was a powerful form of escapism. I could just shed the person I was and become someone new. I started as non-binary for a little while, but online communities and some friends I had at the time quickly pushed me toward the idea that I was actually a transgender man. They made it sound like that was the only way to be truly free from my discomfort.
I never took hormones or had any surgeries. I only transitioned socially. I changed my name and pronouns and tried to live as a man for about a year. But the whole time, something felt off. I was trying to fit into another box, and it was just as uncomfortable as the first one. I was running from myself.
What really started to change things for me was stepping back from the online world. I stopped reading the forums that constantly reinforced the idea that I was trans. I also started to question the ideology itself. I remember thinking that the historical evidence for people feeling the way the community said we felt was suspiciously thin. It seemed like a very modern solution to very old human problems like trauma and poor body image.
I started to work on my underlying issues instead of blaming everything on gender. I focused on getting healthier, which helped my body image a lot. I thought about my own internalized issues. I realized that a lot of my feelings were tied up with what I thought it meant to be a woman. I had bought into the idea that to be a strong person, I couldn't be a woman, which was a kind of internalized misogyny. I saw that men have their own set of problems, and becoming one wasn't a magic fix.
I don’t regret exploring transition because it ultimately led me to figure myself out, but I definitely regret how quickly I latched onto it as the solution without looking deeper. I was influenced by a social contagion, and I'm grateful I figured it out before making any permanent changes. My thoughts on gender now are that it's often a distraction from more important psychological work. For me, it was never about an innate identity; it was about trauma, depression, and a desperate need to escape from myself.
Here is a timeline of my journey:
Age | Event |
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13 | Started puberty; began to intensely hate the development of my breasts and feel general discomfort with my body. |
16 | Spent increasing time online; discovered transgender communities and identified my body hatred as gender dysphoria. |
17 | Socially transitioned, first as non-binary, then as a transgender man. Changed name and pronouns. |
18 | Began to feel disconnected from my trans identity; stepped back from online influences and started focusing on my mental health and fitness. |
19 | Stopped identifying as trans altogether. Realized my issues were rooted in body dysmorphia, depression, and a need for escapism. |
Top Comments by /u/EggOfDelusion:
Yeah but he guilted the fuck out of them and said he would kill himself if they didn’t. What were they supposed to do? Most people don’t know anything about trans except what they read about in the news. Every article they would have looked up would have told them to do it or he’ll die.
Kids don’t come up with these ideas on their own. If you don’t want them to transition you could try cutting off access to whatever gave them the social contagion in the first place and see if they forget about it without constant encouragement. If they are that young they might not even have any mental disorders. They just might think it’s cool or interesting.
Fishing for excuses isn’t going to help. All they are going to say is that they don’t care about the side effects because if they don’t get them they will kill themselves.
That stuff isn't trans though. I've seen the "evidence" for trans people that supposedly existed and I'm not convinced. Shouldn't there be thousands of historical examples of people dressing up as the opposite sex and demanding they be called a new name and pronouns because they were so desperate to identify as the opposite sex?
We have examples of just about every other mental disorder in history but this is suspeciously bare. A lot of the people in this sub stopped indentifying as trans once they found the source of their issues. My guess would be that people in the past dealt with trauma in different ways.
I've been reading this sub for quite a while and while I never had gender dysphoria, I have seen some patterns.
If you are overweight, get fit. Some dysphoria is from poor body image and can go away if you are happier with your body. If you had trauma in your past, try getting help from a therapist.
The number one thing to do is to first figure out the why. Therapy would be good for that if you don't know already.
No, it’s “grass is always greener” syndrome. There are positives and negatives for both sexes. Internalized misogyny is kinda silly when the things you are complaining about aren’t things that men complain about women for. Men aren’t running around complaining about how terrible boobs are.
Definitely don’t kill yourself. These kids you are talking to are deep into trans and liberal ideology. You can’t debate it, so don’t bother. I hope you get some help. Have you tried talking with family members about things? I agree with what someone else said about church. I’m an atheist but I still think the church can be a great place socially.
But I will say I actually agree that “internalized misogyny” is a radfem argument. I’ve never heard anyone say that MtFs are experiencing “internalized misandry”. But like I said, debating the reasons for trans and detrans is better done online or with close friends. They have been told that anyone that “invalidates” them is bad, no matter the reason.
Are you sure you aren't thinking of domesticated sheep? They are the only animal true homosexuality is found in. All other animals it's either bisexuality, a display of dominance or in the case of insects, just confusion.
"The animals are gay" was well meaning propaganda but not true.