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Authenticity Assessment: Not Suspicious
Based on the provided comments, the account appears authentic. There are no serious red flags suggesting it is a bot or an inauthentic detransitioner/desister.
The user's narrative is consistent and personal, detailing a specific desistance story (considering but not starting HRT, social transition, and eventual realization). The passion and anger align with the expected sentiment from someone who feels harmed. The shift in one comment to geopolitics is unusual but not implausible for a real person with strong views.
About me
I started feeling depressed and uncomfortable with my body and thought becoming female would fix everything. I found a lot of support from friends when I came out, which felt amazing, but that acceptance disappeared and they left. This made me realize I was just chasing friendship and using transition as an escape from my real mental health problems. I never started hormones and have since desisted. Now I'm working on my self-esteem and dealing with the root issues, understanding that my identity isn't defined by those temporary feelings.
My detransition story
Looking back at my whole journey, I see a lot of confusion and a desperate need to belong. I never ended up taking hormones or having any surgeries, but I came really close, and the whole experience has completely changed how I see things.
It all started because I felt really bad about myself and my body. I was depressed and had very low self-esteem. I didn't like the way I looked, and I thought that maybe if I were female, things would be better. I started fantasizing about it, and it became a kind of escapism. It felt like a solution to all my problems. I was also heavily influenced by what I saw online and by my friends at the time. I came out to a small group of people as trans, told them my new name, and the immediate support and acceptance felt amazing. For a while, I was happy. I felt like I finally belonged somewhere, and I even started talking to a doctor about starting HRT.
But then things shifted. The same friends who were so supportive slowly stopped talking to me. The acceptance I thought I had just faded away. It forced me to take a step back and really think. I realized I was just as depressed as before. I had been chasing this idea that transitioning would fix everything, but it was just a distraction. I wasn't treating the root cause of my mental health issues. I was trying to transition just to have friends and be accepted, and when that fell apart, I saw the whole thing for what it was.
I now believe that what I experienced was a form of body dysmorphia, similar to other issues people have. I was trying to solve a deep mental health problem with a physical change. I needed real mental health support, not just affirmation. I regret getting so caught up in it and not seeing what was really going on with me sooner. I don't think being trans is wrong for everyone, but for me, it wasn't the truth. I was being dishonest with myself.
As for gender itself, I think it's a lot more complicated than we make it out to be. I still sometimes enjoy wearing things like thigh highs because I like how it feels, but I know now that doesn't define my identity. Chasing the temporary high of acceptance through transition wasn't the answer. I'm still working on my mental health, but I've desisted and feel like I'm finally dealing with the real issues.
Here is a timeline of the main events:
| My Age | Event |
|---|---|
| Late Teens | Started feeling intense depression, low self-esteem, and discomfort with my body. Began fantasizing about being female as a form of escapism. |
| 19 | Came out as trans to a small friend group, used a new name, and received a lot of support. Felt temporary happiness and acceptance. |
| 19 | Spoke to a doctor about starting hormone replacement therapy (HRT) but postponed the appointment because I was hiding it from my parents. |
| 19-20 | The supportive friends slowly stopped talking to me. This led to a period of depression but also forced me to realize transitioning wouldn't solve my underlying problems. |
| 20 | Began to desist, understanding that my desire to transition was linked to a need for friendship and not my true identity. Started focusing on the root causes of my mental health issues. |
Top Comments by /u/EhMapleMoose:
Oh, it’s terrifying; I read an article that cited a few studies and (I wish I could find it) it said anywhere from 64%-94% of transgender youth don’t identify as transgender when they become adults.
I was also listening to a radio program that said there were studies in the UK that found a lot of youths were transitioning for friendship.
It really is a cult for the youth. There was a teacher in California who, instead of calling it the Gay-Straight Alliance, called it the Equality Club. Please don’t get me wrong; there’s nothing wrong with equality or GSA. But the teacher did it to deceive parents. They even cut out parents by discussing sexuality and gender without parents knowledge, and then when they told them, they accused them of not being emotionally supportive. They call CPS on them, who asks the children if they want to be taken away.
The kid who identified as bisexual and trans-fluid was moved schools away from the teacher, and they no longer identify as trans. It’s a cult with pressure from adults. Even in my own experience, I look back, and I’m disgusted by what I wrote and did.
I’d contribute to the impressionable minds of younger folks. People attempting to fit in and get instant friends or at least that was the case in the UK. I’d also say some careful manipulating of algorithms. I’m not saying the big bad left is manipulating algorithms to turn your kids gay. I’m saying China is using tik tok to destabilize western societies. Which may sound crazy but if American government ran psy OPs on it’s own citizens. Even back in 2020, then for sure a country directly opposed to us would.
I used to fantasize about, I didn’t start HRT but I came close. I had told my friend group my new name and everything. I got all this support and was happy for a time, and I was thinking of HRT talking to a doctor about it. But I put off an appointment for a few weeks because I was hiding this from my parents. It ended up being the right decision, because all the people who were supportive and made me feel welcome, they stopped talking to me, just slowly. It made me realize that even if I went through with it I still wouldn’t be happy. I ended up in a dark place, but I’ve pulled through. I still sometimes will wear thigh highs and I like the way it feels. But I know now that chasing the dopamine through HRT and transitioning won’t work.
Personally, I would say everyone has some form of body dysmorphia, in some cases it is more extreme. Like some gym bros who get ripped and then still think they have to go further or people who transition and then continually get surgery.
I think we just need more mental health support. Some people (me included) want to and attempt to transition just so they can have friends and be accepted. I’m guilty of it, I didn’t like the way my body was and I thought maybe if I was a female and then I started fantasizing about it and I came out to small groups of people and it was great I got support and was accepted by them. But after a long time I realized I was just as depressed as before and I wasn’t treating the root cause of my mental health issues. I’m still working but I have desisted and realized that that is not me and what I thought was me being true to myself wasn’t actually truthful.
This kinda got off topic but yes, I think both are a mental illness and there is a root cause to them deeper sometimes than just wanting to change their appearance and that needs to be treated.
B, B is more harmful.
Don’t transition medically (especially children) but be supportive of the person. For some people it really is true. So good for them. But some are just not and that’s great too. The caveat of being supportive of a person when they are trans is that if they de trans then you also have to be supportive.