I don’t know if I’d go as far as you but I do think people really underestimate that you can’t hide EVERY thing. Lots of trans people get very close to passing, and are even very attractive and then bam… brow bone too big, elbows too big, voice too deep, etc. Then, when this happens in a normal setting and someone realizes you’re trans, people treat you very poorly. It’s a hard way to live.

Lmao, I been trying to say this but I get banned all the time. You are potentially RUINING a persons life, to switch gender, but you can’t switch your birth sex. There’s this stupid rhetoric in other subs that of you put people on cross sex hormones at a young age there life will be magically better. Like, no, you might look much closer to your desired goal BUT you still may end up infertile and regretting it your entire life.

Is there people who will transition early and live stealth and happy? Of course, but tons of young people don’t actually know what they want and will be scarred for life for something they havnt truly grasped.

DONT. If you are MTF, there’s kind of a reason to start transition early, you can’t remove the bone structure of testosterone from puberty. As a female, if you want to transition later, you’ll have better results. If you transition now, it could permanently remove your ability to look female. You might wake up one way and just be over the whole gender thing, and appreciate what you were born with.

I definitely agree there should be a “are you sure?” Wait period for some parts of transition. MTF bottom surgery scares me and is absolutely wild to me that someone would risk using the bathroom normally to alter a part of the body that basically no one sees. BUT, it’s not my business and I support if they want it, I just think for that extreme end of the spectrum it should be adults only and maybe some kind of wait involved.

Respectfully as possible, mtf transitions tend be pretty underwhelming. The majority of the time we end up just looking like a guy who has an eating disorder and pointy nipples. If you’ve been on estrogen before than you know what comes with it. All in all, it’s just the last resort because you risk so much to most likely be dissatisfied.

Wow…. You’re comment is insanely, exactly what I think. People transition, then realize that they can’t ever truly become what they’d like but then just have more issues than when they started. But for some if you don’t try, it feels bad as well so I call it a curse.

Hold on…. Ideally, your family should support you regardless of transitioning or detransitioning. Respectfully, your family apparently doesn’t unconditionally support you, when that’s there most important job. I’m not saying that your family shouldn’t express doubt or slow down your transition with your best wishes in mind, I’m just saying none of this is YOUR FAULT, and it wasn’t like you transitioned to upset them. I hope you can learn to not take it personally how they act because you don’t deserve that based on anything gender related.

Lmao, I just got banned on the mtf Reddit for saying people transition due to social pressure. For people that want to live in reality, if you transition you’re signing up for a lot of stuff that may be unpleasant, while not actually reaching transition goals. A lot of trans people also don’t talk about how alot of the very young trans people detrans after a few years to ease the burden and workload of leaving your birth gender.

I can relate to this but due to gyno. Without a doubt your best line of defense would be to add some muscle to your frame, primarily shoulders, upper arms, and neck. I had significant breast tissue growing up but my features were very masculine so it kinda just looked like power lifter boobs. It doesn’t beat surgery, but that’s probably your best option.

I may be able to provide some insight on this, I know more medically than I would have liked to due to health issues. It’s highly likely due to the context you provided, that your friend had an underlying health issue at the same time, and perhaps the T pushed it over the edge. The T likely didn’t cause anything, but objectively speaking, crosssex exogenous hormones do nothing positive to cardiovascular health. For FTM, It Is particularly worse because testosterone makes the blood thicker, and if you have a female heart, the blood vessels have not gone through the slow, lifelong process of handling the thicker blood (a males heart is “designed” to accommodate this from long term hormonal differences) and it creates issues.

This is just one example, but you get the point. I myself am a MTF detransitioner and only stopped due to changes in heart rhythm that occur on estrogen alone. Also, the trans population is so small and often ashamed to seek medical care, that many of them are willing to live in denial and die of health issues that checkups or exams could have revealed.

In any case, I am extremely sorry for your loss.