Well, I would consider myself a liberal. But that doesn't matter, cause it's not about politics. Well, at least I try to keep politics out of trans issues. But there are those political activists that try to use trans issues for their political gain and if you point that out or criticize them for it they respond by labeling you a fascist. It has nothing to do with your actual political views, they just label anyone that who disagrees with them.

Hedera_Thorn is right and that's VERY typical in relationships with someone who is VERY insecure. They will emulate you and your hobbies and will make themselves into the kinda person they think you like. Since all your friends are trans, you obviously like trans people so that's why your significant other obviously feels the need to now become trans so as to make sure they will always be accepted and loved by you.

Personally I have learned the hard way that such type of people are of course not at all able to have a healthy relationship. But if you do wanna try to continue the relationship, at least don't let them do anything irreversible that they are gonna regret after your breakup (or otherwise they then might even blame you for it). But in your case having them not want to transition anymore should be - just make a whole bunch of friends that aren't trans and you will see how your partner will suddenly and magically loose all interest in transitioning ;-)

But just to make that absolutely clear - it wasn't the exposure to your trans friends that somehow rubbed of on your partner and thereby magically made them trans too. Instead it seem to be because they are insecure and think they aren't good enough for you the way they are and so they think they have to make themselves into the kind of person you like. So if you have a certain hobby, then they will also be into that hobby etc..

Obviously in physical sports, people born male should compete against people born male and people born female should compete against people born female. It's not that hard.

That said, I feel so sorry for Imane Khelif. The amount of hate she gets is so extreme and completely unjustified. People attack her and want her to compete against the gender she was born as, but that is what she is doing. They don't understand that she isn't trans.

Yes, I can really relate to that and in my case misandry played even more of a role, but it even goes beyond that. In my case (starting at an early age) I was actually directly forced by my mother to identify as a girl (using physical violence). So misandry didn't really play a role in my decision to become trans - since it was never my decision to begin with. But it certainly played a big role for my mother in making that decision for me.

To understand that, you have to understand my mother's backstory. Yes, she became a radical feminist activist as her whole life she felt victimized by men - and as far as I can tell she isn't even wrong about that. Anyway, the genuine sexual and physical abuse she suffered at the hands of various men eventually culminated in her becoming pregnant. She still wanted the child, but the men involved pressured her in getting an abortion and she felt enormous guilt for it ever since and that's also when she completely broke inside.

Anyway, later on she felt that rather than getting professional help, she could just have another child which she will then definitely always shield and protect from any and all men wanting to harm either of us. When she was told that I was going to be a boy, she thought of having another abortion - but that would have just made her feel even more guilty. And that's where the other and even more sinister aspect comes in, that I feel played a role not just in what happened to me but probably played a role in the life of many people here but almost never even gets mentioned.

Because in addition to becoming a radical feminist activist, she also was not just a regular communist party member, but even an official in the socialist/communist parties of both East and West Germany and she had a long history of studying Marxism academically. She was also a Gnostic, so she was fully aware of the Gnostic influences in Marxism and she truly believed those things. What things? Basically it boils down to a rejection of objective physical reality. In a nutshell, she believed in mind over matter. So she rejected inborn gender (gender and sex is the same in German, so when I say gender I also mean sex and that's also how she meant it). So she believed there was truly no inborn gender and it was all just a societal construct. So as long as she would raise me as a girl, I would become a girl.

Sure, my genitals probably wouldn't magically change on their own, but I would still be a real girl as long as everyone saw me as that (which is why affirmation is seen as so important). And actually I could become even better than a "real" girl. Cause "reality" doesn't exist in her mind anyway. So she truly believed that being transgender would be sacred and would be the future as they would literally have TRANScended beyond the limitations of binary genders.

So for her it wasn't JUST about her absolute hatred of men, but it was almost a religious belief - well it WAS a religious belief to her and she truly felt she was even playing a role in furthering humanity's evolution. That's truly how she back then and in that sense she was truly a pioneer as she was really one of the first to adopt such an ideology that was very fringe back then, but by now has almost become mainstream.

I faced a lot of rejection as well after I announced that I would go back to identifying as the gender I was born as. I think most of us did - actually probably all of us did. And probably all of us lost many or even all friends. Though all of us also made new friends again and the ones that stick around are the ones were you now know that they are your true friends.

Though your case is actually NOT about friendship, but about a sexual relationship. I know, you saw him more as a friend, but it's obviously that he saw it as a sexual relationship. And obviously (except in very, very rare circumstances) a sexual relationship isn't gonna survive transition or detransition. He was obviously attracted to you because of the way you looked - like a guy.

That doesn't mean that you aren't beautiful as a woman - just that he just isn't the kind of guy who is into (feminine) woman.

Why do people keep asking questions like that? If you have gender dysphoria and therefore want to continue to transition and if that makes you happy, then no one is gonna convince you to do otherwise. If YOU WANT to convince YOURSELF, well then that's your business. But why would you?

Okay, so maybe you aren't that happy after all cause you haven't really managed to "pass". But I feel it's not about passing but about accepting who you are. No one born male can "truly" and fully become an "actual" biological woman. And no matter how well others may pass, they still aren't actual biological women either. So if that's your goal, then it's unreachable, as long as you don't become a Gnostic and start denying physical reality :-)

All anyone can become is a trans woman and that's all you or anyone can achieve. So if that's what you want, then I think you have already achieved it. So if you truly feel that's who you are then just accept that. But if you feel instead you truly are a cis male, then just accept that. In either case; accept yourself the way you are and then you will see that others will too. And in either case; how can you ask others to accept who you are when you don't?

Yes, he is obviously unsure about his sexuality and it seems that's why he picked you, because he wants to know himself if he is into guys or not - so he gradually at least goes into that direction as a kinda experiment for himself to see just how much he is into guys.

So I agree with the others in that I think he saw the relationship as sexual but he also never intended it as a serious relationship anyway. He is unsure about just how much he is into guys and it seems he was just using you to find that out. And then depending on where his inclination is he would either continue to have more serious relationship with either men or women - but in any case these more serious relationships would never have been with you anyway. So please don't think badly about yourself because of this! It has nothing to do with you personally.

He indeed seems to have just used you to test his own sexuality and no matter if you detransitioned or not and no matter what you would have done and no matter how beautiful you are as a woman, he would probably not have pursued a longer lasting relationship with you anyway - not even as a friend. As having a longer lasting relationship of any kind seems to have never been his goal with you, because he is too unsure about his own sexuality for that. So please don't think badly about yourself because of that because it really has nothing to do with you personally and everything to do with him acting immature.

Yeah, I have to deal with the same "arguments". Even if you would have transitioned medically AND surgically and all the way and even if they would have known and accepted you back then and even if they themselves don't even make an effort to pass, they would still not accept your ever having been trans, because you detransitioned. But for them there is no such such thing as detransitioning.

Conversely that also means that in a way there is no such thing as transitioning to them. Basically the moment you identify as trans, you DON'T BECOME trans - you ARE and ALWAYS WERE trans. And of course the moment you transition back you DON'T SEIZE to be trans, but you never were. To them trans isn't about identifying as another gender, but instead to them trans is kinda a gender of its own or not even that it's a kinda state of being and even a state of being they regard as superior to any cisgender.

Of course luckily many transgender people aren't that way at all and are much more tolerant and don't look down on others. But the ones who give you beef like that are the ones who are like that.

I actually experienced the exact same mentality in cults. Whenever someone left the cult - even if it was the local leader himself - they didn't even acknowledge him leaving or him ever having been a part of them. And you can't leave something you were never a part of. They are in complete denial. Why do they act that way? For one its to prevent themselves from starting to question the whole thing and also out of fear that if they show any compassion towards an apostate, the group might reject THEM.

Also, cults teach that their more advanced members TRANSform and reshape themselves to become a new and improved human being that is better and superior to outsiders. But if that's true, then certainly no one who has truly achieved that superior state would want to degrade themselves by wanting to leave again and going back to being an "ordinary" human being. So the very existence of such people undermines their doctrine. So the only way they CAN deal with it is by claiming that such people could never have been true followers anyway.

This is an EXTREMELY loaded question! Why would people who were all themselves transgender be "so against transgenderism" and "against this all together"?

Obviously I can't speak for everyone, but that said I know that no one here is against being transgender in and of itself! Personally I am not even against children medically transitioning IF THAT IS REALLY THEIR OWN CHOICE. It's just that at least in my own case my mother forced me to transition while I actually never wanted to be anything but a cis male. It's just that she pressured and manipulated me into it.

As such I know perfectly well what it's like to have your family and parents and religious environment force you to identify as a gender that you know in your heart just isn't right for you. And as such any and all people who truly experience genuine gender dysphoria have nothing by my deepest love, sympathy, respect and support and I truly mean that! And frankly I find it extremely insulting that you just categorically assume that that wouldn't be the case or that I would be categorically opposed to it!

As for politics, since I never made the decision to identify as a girl and that decision was made for me, my own politics (if as a young child I even had something that could be called a political view) had nothing to do with it. Of course my mothers political view and her religion on the other hand had everything to do with it. Of course in her case that actually means she was a politician in the communist party of both East and West Germany and her religion was Gnosticism.

So I would be lying if I would be trying to claim that my personal experiences didn't make me question those doctrines. But if you instead grew up in an extremely right winged fundamentalist environment that forces you to do things against your will and against your inborn nature, then I see that as equally problematic. So in short, I am simply opposed to extremists forcing their children to adopt a gender identity that they know in their heart isn't right for them. So are you really sure that our views are so different?

I said it before, there is trans in the sense of someone who TRANSitions to the other gender and just wants to live that way in peace and then there is "trans" in the sense of being a political and ideological activist and agitator who seeks to TRANScend and abolish previously existing gender norms altogether.

They both call themselves trans, but they are VERY different. And actually if the latter have their way, the former won't exist anymore, because you can't identify as a man or a woman if these political activists succeed in their goal of completely abolishing these "outdated gender norms".

So no, these political and ideological activists have 0 regard for others, as they consider themselves to be more evolved than anyone else. They know the truth, you don't. They have transcended, you haven't. They really think they are the next step of evolution and if you don't agree with them they see you as nothing but their enemy that needs to be struggled against using Marxist dialectical tactics.