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About me
I never fit in as a girl and hated the social expectations placed on me, so I started believing I was trans. I got really deep into online communities that felt like a cult, and doctors affirmed my feelings without question. I now realize a lot of my discomfort was just normal puberty struggles and not liking stereotypes, not a sign I was in the wrong body. I regret trusting a medical system I see as deeply flawed and changing my body for the wrong reasons. My journey has taught me that we put too much importance on labels, and I'm learning to just be myself without them.
My detransition story
My whole journey with this started because I never felt like I fit in as a girl. I hated the expectations that were placed on me just for being female. I felt like an outcast and I was really frustrated that I didn't fit this mold of what a woman was supposed to be. I was masculine, I was rough, and I preferred hanging out with guys because I felt like I could be myself more without girls getting offended. I think a lot of my feelings were tied up in just hating the social role I was put into.
I came to believe that these feelings meant I had gender dysphoria and that I must be trans. I got really deep into the online community around it and it felt like a cult. I put my trust in medical professionals who affirmed this idea without really questioning it. Looking back, I was greatly influenced online. I think a lot of my discomfort was actually just normal puberty discomfort and a deep-seated feeling that I didn't belong anywhere, not that I was in the wrong body.
I started to realise that the whole thing was being exaggerated and that the medical community was failing people like me. It's a serious problem because people trust doctors, and it's hard to speak out against it without facing huge consequences like losing your job or being shunned. I know because I was dragged into it myself.
My thoughts on gender now are that we put way too much importance on labels and identity. It's instinctive to want to pick another familiar label when you're struggling, but I think people need to learn to live without so many boxes. There are just too many labels now, and it's not helping anyone figure out who they truly are. I regret that I ever started to believe that my discomfort with stereotypes meant I had to change my body. I regret putting my trust in a system that I now see is deeply flawed. I don't think transitioning was the right answer for me.
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| During Puberty | Started feeling intense discomfort with female social expectations and felt like an outcast. |
| 18 | Began spending a lot of time online and was influenced into believing my discomfort was gender dysphoria. |
| 19 | Realised I had been wrong and started to detransition after seeing the flaws in the medical community's approach. |
Top Comments by /u/EnigmaCoded:
Realised it’s dysphoria too. But more so worrying about how the hell I’ll be a woman despite being masc.. just be yourself ik but I hate the expectations placed on me as a woman, I fit almost none of them. I don’t fit anywhere. I feel like an outcast, and always have.
Exactly. Couldn’t have said it better, I believe this is the collective reasons put simply but it’s so much more serious than what people treat it to be. Because people put their trust in medical professionals so much it’s almost impossible to counteract unless the medical community within starts outnumbering this ridiculousness and protesting.
I am a student in the medical field. It is easier said that done to protest though. Loosing your job, social shunning, loosing your license etc. I would love to protest but as someone who was dragged into this cult myself I know how vicious they can be. I’m sure everyone does at this point.
Man where’d you get that from? Im always willing to fight if necessary. I threatened to beat my male friends ass and to try me just yesterday. Im always rough like that hence why I prefer hanging out with guys cause girls get offended or see it as something else entirely.
“Greatly exaggerating”, you know, not all men can lift a couch either. I said I’m strong for a girl. I HAVE helped move a couch but since your thick skull can’t comprehend that I’ll stick to your rigid ideas and criticism and stay shut. After all men know better huh? Talk about gender nonconformity. I already know men are stronger on average. Know most men would beat me. Never fucking claimed to beat all the male sex.
I feel like it’s the way identity is so important to who we are that it’s kind of instinctive to come again and choose another familiar label especially. But it should definitely be more discouraged, people need to learn to live without so many labels and boxes. Too much of one thing isn’t good. And nowadays it’s too many labels.
I will never know the male expectations to full extent or even a huge majority of them. But you’re the one bitching on about it trying so hard to come out on top of a thread where I’m just fucking letting out a frustration, how about you take YOUR frustration somewhere fucking else. I’ll gladly get beat up if it meant standing up for myself, I wouldn’t be stupid and do it with anyone, but with dicks like you I definitely would.