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The language is personal, emotionally charged, and contains specific, evolving details about a desistance journey (social transition, questioning sexuality, internal conflict). The passion and anger are consistent with the stated experiences of someone who feels harmed by an ideology they once embraced. There is no robotic repetition or other typical bot-like behavior. The account appears to be a genuine, if highly opinionated, individual.
About me
I started my journey feeling deeply uncomfortable with myself and thought transitioning to live as a woman was the answer. I quickly realized the path led to permanent medicalization that felt like mutilation, so I stopped before any surgeries. I now see my dysphoria as a mental illness that gaslit me into believing my male body was a trap. I came to the firm conclusion that I have always been a man, and I'm grateful every day I found my way back. I'm now proud to be part of this community, sharing my story to help others.
My detransition story
My whole journey with this started because I felt deeply uncomfortable with myself. I think a lot of it was low self-esteem and a feeling that I just didn't fit in anywhere. I was convinced that this discomfort, this dysphoria, was a sign of my true self trying to break free. I thought it was a blessing in disguise, a way to finally figure out who I really was.
For a few weeks, I lived socially as a woman. I enjoyed the feeling at first; it felt like an escape from being me. But it quickly became clear that it wasn't enough. The community I was in pushed the idea that to truly be a woman, I needed surgery. I had a moment of realization where I saw that path ahead of me: hormones, surgeries, a complete change. I couldn't do it. The idea of permanently altering my body felt like mutilation, and thank God I stopped before I did anything like that.
Looking back, I see my dysphoria for what it was: the biggest mental illness I've ever heard of. It’s like having your own thoughts gaslight you into believing your body is a trap and your identity is a lie, and that you need to "fix" it. I got out of that trap. I came to the firm conclusion that I have always been, and will always be, a man. When I said that, the community I was in turned against me. It felt like a cult, and I was breaking free.
I don't have any regrets about detransitioning. I'm actually grateful every single day that I never got surgery. I do regret the time I spent forfeiting my male identity. If I could take back those days I spent believing I was someone else, I would in a heartbeat.
My thoughts on gender are simple now. I believe if you're born a man, you are a man. If you're born a woman, you are a woman. You can change your appearance a million ways, but your true self will always be there, shining through. It’s not about hatred for people; it’s being disgusted by an unscientific ideology that tells people to accept a feeling as their true self, instead of actually helping them be their true self.
I also had a journey with my sexuality. I used to think I was bisexual because I could acknowledge when another guy was good-looking. I thought that meant I wasn't straight. I finally realized I'm not attracted to men at all; I'm straight. I was just confused and trying to find a place to belong.
Now, I'm proud to be in this detransition community. Seeing people who had surgeries and are now finding their way back to themselves is powerful. Their stories helped me see the light, and I hope my story can help others too.
| Age | Date (if known) | Event |
|---|---|---|
| 22 | (A few years ago) | Began feeling severe gender dysphoria and body discomfort, low self-esteem. |
| 22 | Started identifying and living socially as a woman for a few weeks. | |
| 22 | Had a revelation about the reality of surgery and stopped social transition. | |
| 22 | Came to the conclusion I was always a man and desisted completely. | |
| Now 25 | Fully detransitioned and living as a man, with no regrets about stopping. |
Top Comments by /u/EvanCG1:
This is my new favorite subreddit. I feel like I belong here because the group sees transgenderism for what it is, just as I once did. And we're done. We're sick of it. I desisted from social transgenderism years ago, I have no regrets, and as days go by, I see that transgenderism has taken over our society at the expense of common sanity. More and more men are women, and women are men. It's especially helpful to see that this group of amazing people actually had gotten surgery, and are doing something about it to find their true self. I never got surgery, and I praise God everyday for that, but to those who did, your detransitioning is a statement that does not go unnoticed by people like myself. And despite everything, that statement WILL change lives. Your detransitioning will help others see the light, as it helped me. Thank you all for everything. I'm proud to be in this community.
Because it is. I mean, come on. Who in the heck calls it a "normal feeling" to have this trauma that tells you that your assigned body is leaving you trapped in an identity you aren't? That's the BIGGEST mental illness I've ever heard. Imagine having your own thoughts gaslight you into "fixing" your identity because as it is makes you believe that who you are is a lie. Just ew! I got out of the trap that IS gender dysphoria before surgery, thank God.
Trans people deny it all the time, but factually, if you're a man, you will always look like a man. Same with being a woman. You can mutilate your body a million different ways, but if others look close enough, they will ALWAYS note your true self shining through. Even if you don't want to believe it. Because it's truth. Be who you are, not who your dysphoria told you to be.
It's not projecting hatred to be disgusted by an unscientific ideology that has been peddled into our minds to make us all believe in dysphoria as a natural conviction. Because it's not true. I believed for a long time that dysphoria is the end-all-be-all of what defines you. If you feel like a woman, then you are. I am now repulsed by anyone who convinces me to continue buying into that belief. And I am out here speaking the truth because of what I know now. I don't hate the people, I hate what they've been taught to accept as their true self at the expense of actually BEING their true self. I was once in their shoes, and I see exactly why "bigots" quote unquote were not pleased with my delusions. They were 100% right, and I am grateful that they brought me back to reality because of their harsh, but much needed honesty.
Your physical appearance looks masculine to me! The hair is a bit of a conflicting look, but I see it. Which is good since you want to be known as who you are: a man. If you give it time, all the femininity that you don't want will be gone. Besides, you know who you are, embrace it!
It is shameful. I'm so sorry for you. I'm proud that I never got a surgery. I was socially trans. I wanted to know if my dysphoria was a blessing in disguise. I wanted to know who I was. When I came to the conclusion that I've always been a man, the community turned against me. They're a cult. I will always call you a girl, because that's exactly who you are, who you've always been.
Hey, brother, I relate heavily to the feeling of not caring what others say. I've been labeled transphobic many times before. All it is, is a label. They're just names to wear as a badge of honor. And if people think that's bigoted, so be it. I've been deceived by my dysphoria, and I refuse to support anything that's "helping" them, because in the long run, they're not being helped at all.
Too many people question their sexuality, and end up realizing they were always straight. Guilty as charged. 😆 I used to strongly believe I'll never fit in with the straight crowd, because I'm bi. Turns out, I wasn't bi, just a man who's willing to speak out when I think another guy looks bangable. I realized I'd never actually do it myself because I personally am not attracted to men. But I am comfortable with the feeling of being able to note that others are valid if they do fall in love with that particular guy, without being considered gay. Straight as they come. Took me a long time to embrace that truthfully. And perhaps OP isn't as much of an outsider as they think. Of course, they're always accepted regardless, but you just never know! :)
That was nearly gonna be my issue. I was socially trans for a few weeks, enjoying the feeling of what being a woman is. Til I had a "revelation" that I needed surgery to actually be a woman. I couldn't do it, and I'm glad that I didn't. I almost ruined my life because of a delusion. And in hindsight, I'm moreso grateful that I'm not in the position of anyone else here, than regretful. But if I could take back the days that I forfeited my male identity, I would do so in a heartbeat.