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About me
I was born male and my discomfort started with a deep hatred of the masculine changes my body went through during a late puberty. A psychiatrist during a mental health crisis quickly affirmed I was transgender, which felt like an escape from my body issues. I took estrogen for years, but when my mental health stabilized with proper care, I realized my body hatred was from other conditions, not from being a woman. I was met with hostility from the trans community for having doubts, but through therapy, I understood I'm just a gay man uncomfortable with extreme masculinity. I've since detransitioned and now live happily as an androgynous man, but I regret how quickly I was pushed toward transition without anyone exploring my deeper issues.
My detransition story
My whole journey with this started because I was really uncomfortable with my body, but looking back, it was never really about gender for me. I was born male, and when I hit puberty late, I hated the changes. My voice didn't break until I was 15, and I didn't start shaving until after I was 16. When I finally did start to masculinize, I felt a deep sense of disgust. I hated seeing body hair appear on my back and shoulders; it made me feel dirty. I still hate it so much that I get waxed to remove it.
I’ve always had a more androgynous look and manner. I paint my nails and don’t conform to typical male stereotypes. For a long time, I was also bulimic because I wanted to keep a very thin, youthful, "twink" body type. I got a lot of attention for my appearance in gay bathhouses, and I liked that.
I had a major mental health crisis in my early twenties. I was really struggling, and I was seeing a psychiatrist. During that time, I expressed my hatred for my masculine traits and my discomfort with my body. Instead of exploring my past or my other mental health issues, she immediately latched onto the idea that I was transgender. She was very pushy and affirming about it, and she basically put the idea in my head. It felt like she wasn't listening to anything else.
Because of my low self-esteem and depression, I went along with it. I started identifying as a trans woman and began taking estrogen. I took hormones for a couple of years. It gave me breast tissue, about an A-cup, which I later got rid of through working out and by not disclosing my trans history to a doctor who treated it as a hormonal issue.
I also have some underlying health problems. My body naturally produces unhealthy levels of estrogen and very low levels of testosterone for a male. I even have a low sperm count and have had to have investigative ultrasounds to find out why. I also had a childhood defect that required surgery, so the idea of anyone doing surgery down there was a huge fear of mine. Seeing a real SRS surgery on TV made me physically ill. I never had any surgeries.
The other trans people I knew at the time were not supportive when I started to have doubts. When my mental health began to stabilize after getting proper treatment for a personality disorder, I started to question if I was really trans. Their response was cold and cult-like. They blamed my doubts on TERFs, religious bigots, or the media. When I posted online about having doubts, someone told me, "sure, detransition but don't come crying back when you are back on square one." I was even doxxed by a trans person who sent me weird stuff in the mail.
Through private therapy, my underlying issues were finally addressed. I realized that my body hatred was linked to my dissociative behavior and other mental health conditions, not to being born in the wrong body. I came to understand that I am simply a gay man who is uncomfortable with extreme masculinity. I experimented with going back to identifying as male and have never looked back. I'm now openly a bi guy and am involved in the LGBT community, but I stay away from trans discussions.
I don't believe I was ever truly transgender. I think my desire to transition was a form of escapism from my mental health problems and a deep-seated discomfort with puberty and aging. I regret that my therapists at the time were so quick to affirm a trans identity without looking deeper. I don't regret transitioning because it led me to where I am now, but I do think the medical and therapeutic community needs to be much more careful. Transition can help some people with severe gender dysphoria, but for others, like me, it's a misdiagnosis of a different problem.
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| 15 | Voice finally broke, puberty started late. |
| 16+ | Started to develop body hair, which caused intense disgust and body hatred. |
| 18 | Struggled with bulimia to maintain a thin, youthful body. |
| Early 20s | Had a major mental health crisis. A pushy psychiatrist suggested I was transgender. |
| Early 20s | Began identifying as a trans woman and started taking estrogen. |
| A few years later | Mental health stabilized after proper diagnosis of a personality disorder. Began to doubt my trans identity. |
| A few years later | Stopped hormones and gradually stopped identifying as trans. |
| Present | Live openly as a gay/bi man, comfortable with an androgynous expression. |
Top Comments by /u/EwanWhoseArmy:
Well in the nicest possible way it is.
Gender Dysphoria in genuine cases is inherently disordered, it impacts people's lives (I have had it linked to my Disassociated behaviour) and requires medical intervention to manage.
I am not hating on genuine trans people but honestly unlike being gay or bi it does need some form of treatment be that transition or whatever.
It can also be linked to other mental health conditions that when treated sort of becomes less of an issue (as in my case)
It doesn't say that at all.
In that particular case it was. I mean I had serious mental heath issues a few years ago and a pushy therapist pushed the trans stuff onto me. When I recovered I realised that I wasn't trans.
To be honest I have more hate from so called TRAs than any other group
I once tried speaking out about my own experience with half assed medical treatment, a psychiatrist who got me into being trans when in fact I really have a personality disorder, how other trans people would shut down any questions I was having if I was in fact trans.
Now I am either :
- A TERF Larping
- Never trans in the first place
- A nutcase
A trans person managed to Doxx me last year and sent me weird stuff in the mail
Hi
I had a similar issue to yourself, however I got rid of mine through working out although I was only about a A Cup after being on E for a couple of years. I did consult with a doctor about it a couple of years ago and just didn't disclose the trans stuff and she just assumed I had hormonal issues at some point.
There was breast tissue a couple of years ago but I can no longer feel any
So I am an ex trans male. I think I am a little bit like that in that I wanted not to get old.
When I was younger (like 18) I was a little twink and was basically bullemic to keep that body type. I used to go to bathouses and got off on the attention I got.
During my trans phase I do recall hating the masculine body I was developing at the time, I was also fairly late to hit puberty (my voice didn’t really break until I was 15, I didn’t have to shave until I was over 16 and it turns out that I generally have low testosterone even now)
But when I did masculinise I hate huge dysphoria over it, like I felt dirty when I first say body hair appearing on my back and my shoulders . I still hate it to the point where I go though waxing to get rid of it
I was always androgynous and still am (I do paint my nails and do none gc behaviour)
When I did have a conversation with a therapist I had after a breakdown she was very trans affirming and basically put the idea that I was trans based on my views of my body , and how I hate Uber masculinity
In reality I just realised several years down the line that I was just a gay guy and experimented with just going back out identifying as a male again and haven’t looked back since
I will be blunt, but it may be an issue for some women. You are basically a eunuch (for a lack of a better word) as such it is a limited factor to a lot of people I am afraid. Unless you have sperm frozen somewhere then you won't be able to sire a child.
That said there are people looking for a more plutonic type of relationship who may not see it as an issue so there is that avenue to go down. It will take longer but you could find someone down that route.
Also I would suggest your plans to avoid T, you don't want osteoporosis and other factors that inevitably creep up
> vast majority of men can’t produce sperm
Eh?
The fact that I am currently stuggling to produce any has led to me being referred for investigative ultrasounds to try and find why my body is producing unhealthy levels of estrogen and not sperm.
Thats as wrong as claiming the Earth is Flat
The thing is claiming this oestrogen excess as an indicator of being trans is bullshit. My body still produces normal tester one levels so I end up hairy with Moobs (and I am not fat) so I am sort of ashamed of my body at the moment (Like I don't go swimming anymore cos of it)
So it doesn't work that way.
I had my doubts about it from the get go, mostly due to a childhood defect I had surgeons fucking around down there when I was a kid so the idea of anyone messing with that was a bit too far for me.
Then I saw that episode of South Park where they had clips of an actual SRS in it... I nearly hurled.
The other trans people I knew were really cold when I had admitted to having doubts (related to an improvement in my mental health after a bunch of docs had stabilised it) and immediately were somewhat cult like trying to blame it on TERFs (who I have little time for), Religious bigots (I am a satanist so I have anti-religious views), or the Daily Mail (never read it non-ironically) .
Its a bit easier since I moved away from the area I used to live in after getting a new job so I don't have to deal with them anymore. I am pretty out as a bi guy and I do things with the LGBT community (mostly being the LGBT union rep at work) but I just don't touch the trans stuff
When I posted (under my old alt) on a trans subreddit that I was having doubts, I legitimately had a response that was along the lines "sure detransistion but don't come crying back when you are back on square 1 and begging to transition again" which is a pretty crappy thing to say.
I don't know what was going on with the MH support but I am a bit miffed why the psychiatrists who knew I had a (then) undiagnosed Personality Disorder just ran with a fairly abrupt idea I am trans in the middle of a crisis. They never looked into my past or anything maybe they are too afraid to question it. It was only when I paid for private treatment did they look at it properly.
That said I do think transitioning can help some people who have GD so bad they can't function without it.
Yeah I can relate since I have the male equivalent (I have to put up with a 50% of the normal male ball count) and yup some people took it as a "sign"
They also took the fact I have had boyfriends as another sign (i.e gay=trans) despite the fact that I am bisexual by behaviour since I have bedded the opposite gender a few times. (no idea what that translates to in that logic)