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About me
I started feeling uncomfortable with my body when I was 13, and my school's GSA club quickly encouraged me to believe I was a boy. I socially transitioned for a few years, but I realized at 16 that it wasn't right for me and that I had been pressured by stereotypes about what a woman should be. When I detransitioned, the same people who had supported me turned on me with horrible bullying, forcing me to change schools. I'm 20 now and grateful I never medically transitioned, having learned about the serious health risks involved. I'm now proud to be a woman who doesn't fit a stereotype, and I believe our stories of detransition need to be heard.
My detransition story
My journey started when I was around 13, right as I was going through puberty. I felt really uncomfortable with my body changing so fast; it just didn't feel like it belonged to me anymore. I wish someone had told me then that this is a completely normal feeling for a lot of girls and that it doesn't mean you're in the wrong body. Instead, I found support in my school's GSA club.
The people there were immediately welcoming and supportive when I started talking about maybe being a boy. They love-bombed me and I made a lot of new friends. Looking back, I see there was a lot of internalized misogyny in that group. They had all these stereotypes about what a woman is supposed to be—how she should act, think, and feel—and because I didn't relate to those stereotypes, I thought that must mean I wasn't a woman. The teachers were also very supportive and even pushed me towards socially transitioning when I was still unsure.
So, I did. I changed my name and pronouns at school. For a while, it felt good to have so much support and a new group of friends. But those friends turned out to be really bad people. When I was 16, I realized it wasn't right for me and I decided to stop, to detransition and go back to living as a girl.
The reaction was horrible. The same people from the GSA and the trans community who had been so supportive before met me with severe bullying and hostility. I was shut down completely for having any doubts. It got so bad with the bullying that I had to move schools. Even the teachers who had pushed me to transition stopped supporting me and told me I had to "deal with the consequences of my actions." This whole experience made my social anxiety much, much worse.
I’m 20 now, and I desisted. I never medically transitioned because my parents wouldn't allow it while I was a minor, and I am so grateful for that now. My last few years as a teenage girl, just being myself without any labels, were the best. I could just be me, with my own interests, surrounded by other girls and boys who liked the same things.
A big reason I detransitioned was because I started to understand the serious health risks. I have older peers who are medical students and an aunt who's been a doctor for 40 years. They helped me see the reality of hormones and surgeries, like the risk of early-onset menopause and other long-term health problems. I read medical studies myself and it scared me. I also came to see that no matter what, I would never be seen as a "real man," and that helped me see past all the glorification of transition on Instagram and TikTok.
I saw a lot of mental health issues in my peers at my old school. Many of the other kids who identified as trans were dealing with trauma, autism, depression, and eating disorders. I think a lot of us were struggling with our identity, which is normal for teenagers, but we were taught to affirm those feelings instead of questioning them. It creates an echo chamber and feels like grooming. People are afraid to offer a reality check.
I don't regret my social transition because it led me to where I am now, but I am very against the idea of medical transition for young people. I think removing healthy body parts is a form of mutilation. I'm less concerned about top surgery, but I think bottom surgery is an abhorrent idea with terrible long-term complication rates. Your brain isn't even fully developed until you're 25.
These days, I'm not afraid to voice my opinion. I know a lot of people in the trans community don't want to hear my story, but I think it's important. A huge number of teenage girls transitioned over lockdown and many of us are now desisting. Our voices deserve to be heard. I'm proud to be a woman who doesn't fit into stereotypes, and I try to live my life as a positive example of that.
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| 13 | Started feeling intense discomfort with my body during puberty. Joined school GSA and was influenced by friends there. |
| 13 | Began socially transitioning (changing name/pronouns) after encouragement from the GSA and teachers. |
| 16 | Realized transition wasn't right for me and socially detransitioned. |
| 16 | Faced severe bullying and hostility from former friends and the GSA community, worsening my social anxiety. |
| 16 | Had to move schools because the bullying was so bad. |
| 20 | Now 20 years old, fully desisted and comfortable living as a woman. |
Top Comments by /u/Existentialcrisis491:
20 years old here too. I know a few younger kids who think they're trans and show all the symptoms I did that ultimately were red flags leading to my detransition. They won't listen to us, unfortunately.
Something that made me detransition at first was understanding the immense health risks associated with transitioning, specifically reading medical studies and through my older peers' knowledge as medical students.
I like to subtly convey that trans isn't cool and try setting a positive example outside of gender stereotypes. Also being confronted by the fact that I'm not seen as a "real man" whether on testosterone or not is a good sign, seeing past all these trans influencers and Instagram/TikTok content that glorifies transitioning.
Same here. I was a member of my school's gsa which did a lot of things that I don't think schools should be doing, but that's another story. When I stopped socially transitioning and went back to being a girl, I was met with hostility from almost all of the ftm members there and suffered from severe bullying which made my social anxiety even worse.
I had to move schools due to bullying from the trans community there. It's all about affirming and if you have any doubt, you get shut down, sometimes that gsa seemed like a cult. There was a lot of internalised misogyny there and often they had a lot of stereotypes about women that I didn't relate to, and made me think I mustn't be a woman as a result of it.
Even the teachers stopped supporting me and told me I had to "deal with the consequences of my actions" when they originally were supportive and pushed me towards transitioning socially when I was unsure of whether to do so or not.
I'm not afraid to voice my opinion these days, even if a lot of people in the trans community don't like hearing my story. A large amount of teenage girls transitioned over lockdown and a lot of us are starting to desist and I think our voices should be allowed to be heard.
I wish someone told me that when I was 13 as well. I wish someone told all girls going through puberty that it's normal to feel like your body isn't yours because of how rapidly it seems to be changing and that transitioning isn't going to make your body feel any more like it belongs to you.
My female peers who are medical students, along with my aunt who's been a doctor for around 40 years of her life as of now, all have discussed the issues with early-onset menopause and Alzheimers in women. It's definitely incompetence in the doctors, along with fear of people these days to state the differences biologically between female and male bodies.
I think it's partially due to the inherent grooming that exists in such spaces, especially when a lot of minors and young adults have been taught to regurgitate these statements. It becomes a bit of an echo chamber.
Struggles with identity are also very common in young people in general, leading to an influx of self-diagnosing as having DID or different sorts of mental illnesses. When I was in high school not long ago, I knew maybe 7 kids that were "systems", which I refuse to believe in a small school of 1000 students is accurate at all.
Unfortunately in this current age, people are taught to affirm and be afraid to slap some reality into these people, and thus, they continue on with their bizarre pseudoscience that nobody except them believe in.
I agree a lot. I was met with lots of bullying and a lack of support when socially detransitioning (I never medically transitioned as I was a minor and my parents didn't allow it). In contrast, when I transitioned, I was met with overwhelming support and love-bombing and made lots of new friends who turned out to be really bad people in the end.
I'm really glad I desisted and I'm proud to be a woman who doesn't need to succumb to gender stereotypes about personalities and ways of thinking that a lot of people in the trans community like to claim are true.
Honestly, removing parts of genitals is a form of genital mutilation, even circumcision I think shouldn't be done unless there is a serious medical reason to remove the foreskin. Especially when you think about the risk of complications, and certainly in anyone under the age of 25, the brain hasn't even finished developing then. My peers and I are 20 this year and a lot of us still don't feel ready to get into a serious relationship, let alone alter our bodies.
Mental health issues are really, really prevalent. I suffered from social anxiety while a lot of the ftms at my old high school were dealing with trauma, autism, depression and eating disorders.
I'm a little less concerned about things such as breast implants or mastectomies, although I think these should be approached with caution. I think bottom surgery is an abhorrent idea and shouldn't be allowed for the most part, almost all the people I've seen who have had it endure complications as a result of it, especially in the long term.
Definitely agreed, I desisted at 16 and as I'm turning 20 this year, looking back at my last few years as a teenage girl were definitely the best years. No need to affirm any identity of any sort, just be me with my interests surrounded by lots of girls and boys with similar interests.