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About me
I started as a teenage girl who felt intense discomfort with my body during puberty and found an answer in online trans communities. I was convinced my depression and self-hatred meant I was a trans man and started testosterone at 19. I soon realized it wasn't a cure, but a permanent medical commitment I wasn't fully prepared for. I came to understand my issues were rooted in body image and low self-esteem, not in being the wrong sex. I deeply regret my transition and am now focused on healing and learning to be comfortable as a woman.
My detransition story
My journey with all of this started when I was a teenager. I was born female and I began to feel a deep discomfort with my body when I hit puberty. I hated my breasts developing; they felt alien and wrong on me. At the time, I didn't have the words for it, but looking back, it was a mix of body dysmorphia and the general awkwardness of growing up. I was also struggling with depression and very low self-esteem.
I found a lot of my information and community online. I was heavily influenced by what I saw in trans spaces, where the narrative was that if you hated your body during puberty, you were probably trans. It felt like an answer to all my problems. I started to believe that my discomfort was gender dysphoria and that transitioning was the only way to fix it. I began to socially transition, first identifying as non-binary and then as a trans man. It felt like I had finally found an escape from the feelings I hated.
I was very skeptical about medical transition for minors, even back then, but I convinced myself that my case was different. I started testosterone when I was 19. I told myself I was an adult and could make this choice. The process was sold as this amazing, euphoric thing, but the reality was difficult, expensive, and emotional. It wasn't a miracle cure. I started to see that the changes were permanent and that this was a lifelong medical commitment. I began to research more and learned that the puberty blockers often given to kids are the same ones used for chemical castration. That really shook me.
I started to realize that for me, transitioning was a form of escapism. I thought I could become a different person and leave all my insecurities and depression behind. But they followed me. I began to understand that a lot of my issues were related to hating my body, not necessarily being in the wrong one. I saw this pattern in other people, too, especially young females. The rise in numbers is concerning, and it makes me wonder if some are being influenced into believing their normal puberty discomfort is something else.
I never got surgery, but I deeply regret taking testosterone. I worry about the long-term health complications that no one really talks about. The medical side of things is pushed so hard, but the potential for harm is huge. I don't think minors can ever truly consent to such permanent changes. Even as a young adult, I feel I wasn't fully educated on the severity of what I was doing. Nothing is reversible.
My thoughts on gender now are that we don't need all these labels. We don't need to say "non-trans." Most people are just men and women. For the small number of people who are trans, that's their journey, but it shouldn't be presented as the only solution for every young person who is uncomfortable. I believe that for many, like me, the issues are more about body image, self-esteem, and getting through the difficult time of puberty. I benefited from therapy that wasn't just about affirming me, but about exploring why I felt the way I did.
I have serious regrets about my transition. I think it caused more harm than good for me personally. Seeing the push to transition kids as young as possible is terrifying because I know from my own experience that those feelings can change. Even one detransitioner should be proof enough of the potential harm. I'm now trying to move on and become comfortable in my own skin, which is a feeling of euphoria that I never actually found through transitioning.
Here is a timeline of my journey:
Age | Event |
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13 | Puberty started; began to experience intense discomfort with my developing body (body dysmorphia). |
16 | Heavily influenced by online communities; began to socially transition to non-binary. |
17 | Socially transitioned to a trans man. |
19 | Started testosterone. Began to seriously research and question the long-term effects and permanence. |
20 | Stopped testosterone after realizing it was a form of escapism for my depression and low self-esteem. |
20 | Began detransitioning and sought non-affirming therapy to address root causes of my discomfort. |
Top Comments by /u/Extension_Dream_3412:
Posts like these are why I'm willing to defend detransitioners as much as possible. As much as people want to claim puberty blockers are harmless, and we need to transition kids as young as possible, posts like these are just heartbreaking. I'm with you and will support you if you need. Even one detransitioner case should be enough to prove the harm of transitioning children, and it's horrible that this stuff happens daily.
This is my stand point personally. I think regardless how much dysphoria or how long for, if they’re a minor, they cannot consent. Though I think this rule SHOULD fluctuate, like in the uk, kids at the age of 14 can consent to dental care, and I agree that that is a correct thing to do. There’s a lot less at risk and to protect with dental care. Transitioning is a near permanent change, and taking hormones often never stops, which people like to ignore. That’s not a journey a child should be allowed to start.
Gender affirming care as in therapy which is designed to affirm, basically refusing to deny what the kids believe about their gender, and not showing other options other than that they’re trans. Basically being yes men. Whilst I’m not sure if the law is for the therapy itself or just the medication, either way I don’t think it’s too bad of an jdea
I'm so happy for you, that you've managed to push and move on past that. I know people I went to school with very recently who are/were trans, who I'm convinced it was, like you, body dysphoria that they convinced themselves was gender dysphoria. Both body and gender dysphoria are common in puberty, and statistically you're likely to grow out of it. It's great that you're finally comfortable in your own skin, a euphoria which a lot of people who transition never really get.
Taking the political parts out of the picture. Who the fuck is going through Mark Hamill's liked tweets, and who the hell cares? he could've liked it because he thought it was funny, to show someone later, etc. There are tons of possible reasons, and none of them really deserve a back lash
I've seen a lot of comments about doctors not being able to talk about the negatives of gender affirmation, or how the affirmation can infact harm children. If you wouldn't mind, can you tell me about how your point of view? Should affirmation be available to kids?
There’s a lot of dangers to the hormones, that people overlook are choose to ignore to protect the trans kids. Saying that if they don’t transition as kid they never will be able to do it successfully, and whilst I cannot act like an expert on whether that last statement is true or not, I believe it’s a dangerous outlook to think that transitioning is a fun process that’ll cure any dysphoria kids go through.
This is my point. A lot of people aren’t even fully educated on the surgeries and hormones, or don’t understand the severity of what they do. Nothing is reversible. We’re not protecting or defending trans kids by letting them do this, instead we’re endangering children who are going through gender dysphoria.
I’ve always been really skeptical of transitioning minors, especially with the way pharma works in the us, the way many European countries banned puberty blockers, some of the brands, etc. whilst like many said, I doubt the laws intention is to protect the kids, I do think it may have positive outcomes
Someone educate me here. I've seen many tucutes claim that going fully through puberty ruined their transition, and made it impossible to fully transition. Is this true? I personally stand against giving kids anything that would effect their puberty, but I'm just interested.