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The user's posts are consistent, deeply personal, and reflect a specific, complex narrative of being an FTMTF detransitioner who was on HRT for six years. The comments express a passionate, ideological opposition to transgenderism rooted in their own traumatic upbringing and negative experience, which is a recognized perspective within the detrans community. The tone is angry and polemical, but this aligns with the warning that detransitioners can be "very passionate and pissed off." The story includes specific, non-cliché details (e.g., Ehlers-Danlos Syndrome, the musician they had a crush on) that would be unusual for a fabricated account.
About me
I was raised with extreme misogyny that taught me being a woman was inferior, which led to deep self-hatred. I transitioned to male at 21 seeking validation, but I lived in denial and misery for years. I finally faced the truth and began detransitioning at 27, which cost me nearly all my friends. Giving birth to my daughter solidified my acceptance of my female self. Now, I'm healing and believe the real cure was learning to love myself, not changing my body.
My detransition story
My journey with this all started long before I even knew what being "trans" was. I was born a girl, but from a very young age, the adults in my life, especially my dad, my aunt, and my grandmother, filled my head with really strong, sexist ideas about what it meant to be a woman. My grandmother, who was a Baptist, didn't believe women should be doctors and would refuse to see one. My aunt had these strict rules about women only being meant for jobs like teachers or nurses, or just being stay-at-home wives, even though she herself didn't always follow them.
The worst was my dad. When I was only about seven or eight years old, he would wake me up in the middle of the night for drives and rant at me while I was half-asleep. He’d say women were all liars and sinners because of Eve eating the apple, that my mom was wrong to ask for help with cleaning because it was her job as the wife, and that as the "king" of the house, he had the right to be obeyed—even saying it was rightful for a husband to kill a disobedient wife. Hearing that as a little girl really messed me up. It made me feel like being female was something bad, something less than.
As I got older, this turned into a deep self-hatred and a belief that I could never be a person of value as a woman. I wanted to be a writer, but I was convinced that no one would take a female writer seriously. I thought my own ambition and personality meant I must actually be male, because the women I was taught about were supposed to be bland and submissive. I now see this as internalized misogyny, but back then, I didn't have the words for it.
When I was 21, I decided to transition to male. A big part of it was that I had a crush on a MTF musician who seemed to pay more attention to her trans fans. I was desperate for that kind of validation, especially after a childhood full of neglect. I started watching FTM YouTubers and it felt like I had found my place. I even became the leader of a trans support group. I saw a gender therapist, but I was so convinced and so good at arguing my case that I basically bullied him into giving me the letter for hormone therapy. I look back now and see that I was deeply immature; my brain wasn't even fully developed. I had real trauma and C-PTSD that he should have recognized, but he didn't. I was on testosterone for six years.
For the first couple of years, I got the attention I thought I wanted, but the happiness didn't last. Deep down, I was miserable. I felt like I was living a lie, but I was too ashamed and too invested to admit it. I was in denial. It took me until I was 27 to finally face the truth and start detransitioning. I lost almost all my friends from the trans community when I did. One friend who was like a mother to me completely cut me off and blocked me without a word, just because I started speaking out against trans ideology. It was heartbreaking, but it showed me that those friendships were conditional on me agreeing with them.
A huge turning point for me was getting pregnant. I gave birth to my daughter when I was 29, and becoming a mother solidified my acceptance of being female. Thankfully, I didn't have any fertility issues from the testosterone; I got pregnant on the first try. I did have complications during the birth, but that was because I have Ehlers Danlos Syndrome, not because of my transition history.
Now, I see the whole thing differently. I believe "gender dysphoria" is a fake illness, a glorified term for self-hatred and confusion. It’s a way to avoid doing the hard mental work of learning to love and accept yourself. If we could just get rid of rigid gender roles and the sexist idea that certain traits are for men and others for women, the whole concept of gender dysphoria would fall apart. The cure isn't hormones or surgery; it's self-love and maturity. Transitioning felt like a cult; you get love-bombed when you join and shunned when you leave. I deeply regret my transition. I feel like I lost my entire twenties to this—to the depression and the denial. I wish I had never done it.
These days, I'm working on reclaiming my femininity. I work in a call center, and I've been practicing softening my voice to sound female again. It’s a process, but it’s working. The most frustrating thing now is that some people, including my parents and a friend, still use my old male name and pronouns, even though I’ve told them my real name. It’s like they’re stuck in the past.
My overall thought on gender is that it’s a harmful social construct. Sex is biological reality. We’d all be a lot healthier and happier if we learned to accept our bodies and reject the stereotypes that tell us we need to change who we are.
Here is a timeline of my journey:
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| 7-9 years old | Experienced severe misogynistic rants from father about the inferiority of women. |
| 21 years old | Started social and medical transition (FTM), began testosterone. |
| 23 years old | Realized internally I was not trans but remained closeted due to shame. |
| 27 years old | Officially began detransitioning (FTMTF), stopped testosterone. |
| 29 years old | Gave birth to my daughter, solidifying my acceptance as a female. |
| 30 years old (now) | Living as a detransitioned female, focusing on healing and voice retraining. |
Top Comments by /u/Fantastic-Face-5742:
It's post worthy because people genuinely believe that "gender dysphoria" is a bigger concern than their children's health. Osteoporosis is a severely painful lifelong condition. Parents shouldn't allow their children to be on medicine that risks this permanent disease because their child has a fake illness that doesent exist and a lot of trans people will insist that hormone blockers are "medicine" and claim they are "harmless" with no permanent effects to further push the trans agenda and never once mention what it does to the kids bone density not to mention the other harmful physical and mental effects that can in fact be permanent.
I considered opening a case against my gender therapist and endocrinologist for malpractice..I didn't go through with it and now I still wish I had.
Good luck! I think it's a good idea to band teaching gender ideology in school especially with so many kids wanting to get on hormone blockers and the negative impact on their physical and mental health it can have
For me it was about 29 and that was only because I had my daughter at this age that I feel like I've matured but tbh I likely haven't and am still developing even now. I transitioned at 21 and for me even that was WAY too young. It's beyound obvious for me how naive I was at that time and how little I knew about the world and what I truly wanted. It feels like i was mentally a 14 year old not a 21 year old looking back. I was so immature and my brain was not done developing at all.
After 6 years living as a transman and now 3 years detransitioned I don't believe anyone should be trans or that anyone truly benefits from hrt/medical transition the way they think they do. The entire ideology is toxic and bad for the world and humanity and is unnecessary for anyone to go through. But if it does exist, I think there should be an age requirement if maybe 40. That sounds a bit much but tbh youth really does not end until that age and at least then people don't have to look back on their youth with longing and despair and feeling like it was corrupted by a transition.
For me my entire 20s was about my transition and depression surrounding it. I can't imagine what it must feel like for teenagers who lose their entire childhoods. People deserve to have their youth uncorrupted at the very least. But tbh, we need to just move on as a society from this b.s false ideology and put our foot down and stop awknoledging any of transgender b.s altogether. Wishful thinking I know, but it's the truth. We as a species would be better off without playing with our biology.
It depends on if you mean medical damage as in causing them actual physical health problems or if you mean emotional damage. Emotional damage can always be treated through therapy and other resources where as you can't regrow bones and the physical pain of a condition like osteoporosis is so outstanding I wouldn't say it'd be worth risking especially for a young child considering the condition is also lifelong.
I lost almost all my friends when I detransitioned and one of them was very much a motherly figure a lot like what you're describing. She was someone who took me in and took care of me when nobody else would so I definitely understand what you're going through. She too was in support of all these social causes and a trans advocate. Unfortunately once I detransitioned and started speaking out about how I truly felt about trans ideology and the flawed perspectives of the trans community she chose to block me. It's been almost 2 years and I have not heard back from her since then. I assume that because I disagree with trans ideology she no longer wishes to speak to me but she never had a conversation with me about any of it so it's hard to know.
While this was a painful experience and i still miss the person dearly from time to time, you have to remind yourself that if the person cares more about their own opinions than keeping you in their life, then they weren't really your friend in the first place and were only interested in your friendship because it was something that aligned with the trend they want to be a part of. Its a bit difficult to hear but transgenderism is very similar to that of a cult, if you look at the way they approuch their ideology and how theyre always trying to recruit other people into their belief system and treating anyone who does not agree with them terribly. They even harass and try to control their members into staying with the cult and lash out against you once you break away from it. In addition to being a cult, it's now a trending one. The problem with cults is once you leave the cult, you leave all your friends behind that were a part of it, because they won't want anything to do with you.
It's sad, it can be heart breaking, but if the person can't accept that you share different perspectives than they do and they lash out at you or ghost you over it, then you were never as important to them as they may have lead you to believe. Keep in mind there are other "fish in the sea", that term can be used with friendships as well as romantic partners. If this person decides she no longer wants to be a part of your life, there are other people who will eventually take her place. Love yourself more than somebody else and enough to stick up for what you believe.
Its becauae its a cult. Cult members indoctrinate other members by pushing their ideology down other people's throats until they fall for it and believe it themselves. It's also a trend and people are eager to jump into it because they think they'll get attention without knowing or realizing what they're actually getting themselves into.
That's kind of the reason why I say gender dysphoria is a fake illness. Most trans people will get livid when you say this because they don't like being wrong and it's automatically debunks their b.s but if you debunk gender roles existing and accept that there is a such thing as masculine women and feminine men and accept that it honestly elimates the need for gender dysphoria. It's also an easy fix, can literally be cured by being taught self confidence and self love without hormones yet they will insist hormones are the answer. The truth is it's not gender dysphoria that is the problem its lack of mental strength and resistance and refusal to admit they're wrong. Sexism also plays a lot into. If we didn't live in a sexist society that enforced the idea of "woman equals snow white" "man equally Dave the barbarian" then again, it elimatea gender roles and eliminates the idea of "gender dysphoria".
I feel like a bit of mental maturity is literally all that I needed to cure anyone's "gender dysphoria" and "gender dysphoria" is a fake diagnosis used as an excuse for doctors and pharmacies to sell hormones and surgeries and experiment on free medical guinea pigs.
Ftmtf and I was on HRT for 6 years and just gave birth to my baby girl on the 3rd. I had complications and she was born a miropreemie but it had nothing to do with my transition/detransition and more to do with that I have Ehlers Danlos Syndrome. Aside from my EDS there would have been no complications. I also had no difficulty what so ever in getting pregnant and was successful my first try.
I'd say we started seeing less conformity to gender roles around the 60s but even when I grew up in the 90s and early 2000s they definitely still existed. My primary reason for transition before my detransition was that I believed I couldn't be a person of value without being male due to all the cartoons/movies/video games I grew up having predominantly male characters and almost no strong female characters for me to grasp onto. All my role models were male and I also grew up in highly Christian/Catholic household with parents that heavily enforced gender roles/stereotypes which is specifically hard on little girls due to us being expected to dull our personalities and be a bland, white bread, American housewife.
Even removing the religious upbringing, it was still a society heavily dominated by men that catered more to the needs of little boys being portrayed as the heros and girls being portrayed as they "damsel in distress".
This I think is the case with a lot of ftms and mtfs even, they want to brake away from the expectations/stereotypes of their biological sex and have such a deep desire to present as the opposite they make up the idea of "gender dysphoria" to give them any medical excuse to transition meanwhile this term is embraced by medical practitioners so they can profit off of the diagnosis selling hormones, surgeries, "gender therapy" and as I previously stated be granted free medical guinea pigs.
We are honestly JUST now getting to a point in society in the 2020s where media is having a well balanced variety of strong male and female main characters that are becoming less and less stereotypical to tradional gender roles.
Outside of this explanation, I'd also say a lot of the rise in transitions is due to a trend and teenagers and Young adults seeking attention and gratification and of course no one wants to be wrong so again you have the misdiagnosis of "gender dysphoria" even for these cases as it's easy to know exactly what to say to a gender therapist with just a bit of research regardless if you actually have the symptoms or not and I think most people generally don't and are either trying to escape gender roles or trying to jump on a trend.
I really highly doubt it actually exist and that anyone that claims otherwise isn't being overdramaric. Even if it did exist the cure is a simple matter of being taught self reassurance and self love and can be recondition amd retrained.
Hormones only further the delusion and create a process of denial. It's a way of risking your health to lie to yourself and asking other to lie to and for you. It's no different than walking around with your eyes closed and playing pretend and only makes anyone more mentally unstable in the long run in addition to the mental and physical effects of experimenting with your bodies natural hormonal process. It creates an unnatural hormonal imbalance in the body in addition to furthering a sense of denial about what they are. It's no different than taking drugs to numb the pain and isn't an healthy or necessary option.
Because nobody is actually trans. All it takes is to literally accept reality to realize that you aren't the opposite gender and that's ok. Trans people are in denial of what they are and are so desecrate to reamin in that denial they will do anything to defend their flawed ideology. Nobody is actually trans, there's mental illness and the recovery from mental illness. Let them be upset that we've recovered and are now capable of accepting of who we are. They will either eventually do so themselves or never recover from their own sickness.