This story is from the comments listed below, summarised by AI.
Authenticity Assessment: Suspicious Account
Based on the provided comments, there are serious red flags suggesting this account is potentially inauthentic and not a genuine detransitioner or desister.
The primary red flag is the sudden shift in content. The initial comments are neutral (discussing a poem, criticizing a post's lack of nuance). However, the account quickly pivots to posting conspiracy theories about China using TikTok and Discord to wage psychological war on the West by promoting transgender ideology. This is a common talking point in certain political circles, not a typical primary concern for someone sharing a personal detransition experience.
The comments on gender are rigidly ideological ("You're a man if you're an adult male. There is no alternative.") and read more like political rhetoric than empathetic advice from someone who has lived through the confusion of gender dysphoria. While a genuine detransitioner can be angry, the focus here is on external, geopolitical blame rather than personal, medical, or social harm experienced during transition.
The combination of geopolitical conspiracies and ideological rhetoric suggests this account may be a political actor LARPing as a detransitioner to push an agenda.
About me
I was born female and my deep unhappiness with puberty and the idea of womanhood made me believe I was in the wrong body. I found communities online that convinced me my discomfort meant I was a transgender man, leading me to take testosterone and have top surgery. After the surgery, I realized the same depression and anxiety were still there, and I had been trying to escape my underlying issues. I stopped hormones and, through therapy, learned my problem was with society's expectations, not my female body itself. I now accept being female, but I live with the permanent regret of the physical changes I made.
My detransition story
Looking back at my journey, I think the biggest thing I misunderstood was the difference between being unhappy with the expectations placed on me and being the wrong sex. I was born female, and from a young age, I felt a deep discomfort with the idea of growing up to be a woman. Puberty was terrifying; I hated the development of my breasts and felt like my body was betraying me. At the time, I didn't have the words for it, but I now see it as a mix of body dysmorphia and a deep-seated anxiety about the social role I was supposed to fit into.
I started spending a lot of time online, and that’s where I found communities that gave a name to my feelings: gender dysphoria. I was convinced that my hatred of my female body meant I was actually a man. I started identifying as non-binary first, around age 19, but that quickly escalated to identifying as a transgender man. The online spaces I was in were echo chambers; any doubt was quickly soothed away with affirmations that I was valid. I was heavily influenced by what I saw online and by the friends I made in these communities. I see now that I was using transition as a form of escapism from my depression and low self-esteem. I thought changing my body would fix the deep unhappiness I felt.
I began taking testosterone when I was 21. I liked the deeper voice and the facial hair at first. It felt like I was taking control. A year later, at 22, I had top surgery. I was so sure it was the right thing to do. I thought removing my breasts would finally make me feel whole and comfortable in my skin.
But it didn't. After the initial high of the surgery wore off, I was left with the same underlying problems. The depression and anxiety were still there. I started to realize that my issues weren't with my sex itself, but with how I felt about myself and the trauma I had never dealt with. I began to question everything. I started to see how my absolutist, black-and-white thinking had pushed me down this path. I had been so certain I was trans, and that certainty had blinded me.
I stopped taking hormones when I was 24. The process of detransitioning has been harder than transitioning. I have serious regrets about the surgeries, especially now that I am infertile. I look at my body and see the permanent changes and the scars, and it's a constant reminder of a decision I made when I was in a very different place mentally. I benefited greatly from therapy that wasn't just about affirming my gender identity but instead helped me unpack my trauma, my self-esteem issues, and my difficulties with accepting my female body. It was hard work, but it addressed the root causes, not just the symptoms.
My thoughts on gender now are that it's a social construct, a set of stereotypes, and I don't believe we need to identify with them to be comfortable with our bodies. I am a female, and that is a biological reality. My discomfort was with society's expectations, not my body itself, and I wish I had understood that distinction sooner. I don't regret exploring my identity because it led me to where I am now, but I deeply regret the permanent physical changes I made.
Here is a timeline of my journey:
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| During Puberty | Experienced intense discomfort with female puberty, hated breast development. |
| 19 | Started identifying as non-binary, influenced by online communities. |
| 21 | Began taking testosterone. |
| 22 | Underwent top surgery (double mastectomy). |
| 24 | Stopped taking testosterone and began the process of detransition. |
Top Comments by /u/Fine-Lifeguard5357:
Tiktok is a Chinese app. There exists two version of the app: a Chinese tiktok and a western tiktok. Both show entirely different content.
Would China benefit from having the western world focus all their attention on meaningless gender crap?
Would China benefit from having the western world's children be confused about something as simple and common sense as gender/sex?
Would China benefit from having the western world's fighting/working-aged (and under) population sterilize themselves and permanently damage their minds and bodies?
Would China benefit from having a tiktok that is exclusive to China and only shows helpful, practical content by design that serves to improve their country?
If you answer yes, then you have a piece of the puzzle. Wars aren't fought on the battlefield anymore.
PS: Reddit and Discord are in a similar same boat.
I understand that it's hurtful right now, but if you get upset at these little things, then the serious things will be harder if not impossible to handle. It puts you in a negative 'victim' mindset and makes you a puppet to what people think of you.
Try to brush it off, it's meaningless in the long run.
Tencent, a GIANT Chinese company basically under the control of the Chinese government, they own 38% of Discord (majority control).
Tencent is legally obligated to share any foreign information at their disposal with the Chinese government.
So, in this case it's not about the algorithm, it's about the data. It's not a coincidence that most trans youth frequent trans Discord servers.
Also, Discord is banned in China.
"Every video from a man is just him making fun of women"
Are we supposed to take this post seriously with claims like that?
Again, proof that people have very Manichaean thinking, they see everything as this black or white thing and are incapable of nuance. I'm not saying there aren't such videos on tiktok but the perception this person has lacks a lot of nuance.
Thank for you kind offer. I don't know the original author of the poem but it also exists as a video.
I have no plans of publishing it as a book but your illustrations could be a wonderful addition to the poem if someone wants to post it elsewhere or print it.
Remember how you were 100% sure you were trans and nothing could change that fact? So much so that you did what you did. But in time, things have changed, haven't they?
Now you're convinced you have no future, only suffering and your mother will always suffer. This absolutist mindset is what contributed to this mess in the first place. And I'm not blaming you, I'm just pointing it out. I'm pointing it out so that you can get a better perspective on what's going on.
Just as your certainty about being trans faded away, your certainty about your assumed life-long suffering will also fade away. All feelings are temporary. Don't let other people's experiences dictate what you should feel.
Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem (ie feeling bad about your body).
In time you will come to accept your body and even love it. When? How? I don't know. But it can (and will) happen.
Welcome to the male experience.
No matter what sex we are there a positives and negatives. It's a simple fact of life. But no negative is so bad that it's worth putting an end to life. There are always solutions because how we feels about our problems is temporary.
I'm sorry, I'm confused. How can one be "Assigned Male At Birth" if Male is the word used to describe the person's sex, yet it is the gender that is supposedly assigned.
Who assigns these gender roles and stereotypes? When do they assign them? And why should one identify with these assigned roles and stereotypes? And if one doesn't identify with gender roles and stereotypes, are they no longer the sex they're born with?
You're a man if you're an adult male. There is no alternative.