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About me
I started feeling intense discomfort with my female body when I hit puberty at 12, and I found a community online that made me believe I was a boy. I was prescribed puberty blockers and testosterone at 15, but the medical changes never fixed the emptiness I felt inside. I began to detransition at 19 after a new therapist helped me understand my depression and trauma were the real issues. I now live with permanent health complications, including infertility, from the medical treatments I received as a child. My life was forever changed because no one stopped to ask what was really wrong with me.
My detransition story
My whole journey started when I was really young, around 12 or 13. I felt incredibly uncomfortable with my body, especially when I hit puberty. I hated developing breasts and just felt wrong in my own skin. I was also struggling with really bad depression and anxiety, and I had very low self-esteem. I didn't feel like I fit in anywhere.
I found a lot of my community online. I started reading about people who felt the same way I did and they were talking about being trans. It made sense to me at the time. It felt like an answer to all my problems. I told my parents I was a boy, and they were supportive and took me to a gender therapist. I was so sure this was the right path. I think I was influenced a lot by what I saw online and by the friends I made in those spaces. Looking back, I wasn't really encouraged to explore any other reasons for my feelings.
When I was 15, I was prescribed puberty blockers. The doctors told me and my parents that they were completely reversible, just a pause button. I also started testosterone around the same time. I was a kid. I couldn't possibly understand the lifelong effects of these decisions. I just wanted the discomfort to stop.
The blockers and testosterone did change things, but not in the way I’d hoped in the long run. I still felt empty and broken inside. The therapists and doctors I saw never really dug into my other issues. They just focused on the gender stuff. I now realize I had a lot of other problems that were making me feel this way, but no one ever tried to diagnose anything else. It was like because I said I was trans, that was the only thing that mattered.
I started to detransition when I was about 19. I finally saw a different kind of therapist, one who wasn't focused on affirming a gender identity. We started talking about my trauma, my depression, and my anxiety. She helped me understand that I was trying to escape from myself by trying to become someone else. I had to come to terms with the reality that I can't change my sex. The goal became learning to be okay with being female, not trying to medically change my body to match a feeling.
I have a lot of regrets about my transition. The biggest one is that I was allowed to make these permanent decisions as a child. The blockers were not reversible. I still suffer from health complications because of them, and my body will never function the way it did before. I am now infertile, and that is a deep sadness I have to live with. Doctors told me it was safe, but they were wrong. I feel like my life was ruined because no one stopped to ask what was really going on with me.
I don't have a problem with trans people who are happy with their transition. My problem is with a medical system that doesn't care for its patients. They gave me hormones and blockers without a second thought. A child can't consent to this. I think doctors should be trying to help people with their underlying problems, not just giving them a one-size-fits-all solution that causes permanent damage.
My thoughts on gender now are that it's very complicated. For me, it was a symptom of other issues. I think we need to be much more careful, especially with young people, and make sure we're treating the right problem.
Here is a timeline of my journey:
| My Age | Event |
|---|---|
| 12-13 years old | Started feeling intense discomfort with puberty and my developing female body. Felt depression and anxiety. |
| 14 years old | Socially transitioned to male, influenced by online communities. |
| 15 years old | Was prescribed puberty blockers and started testosterone. |
| 19 years old | Began detransitioning after starting non-affirming therapy that addressed underlying trauma and depression. |
| Present | Living with permanent health complications from medical transition, including infertility. |
Top Comments by /u/Fit-Asparagus-8890:
Blockers are extremely dangerous and bad for you, and they block complete development (mentally, physically), I completely understand your fear of stopping T but I think with time passing you will feel better, the blockers will just stop your hormones completely and you physically can’t live without hormones. I suggest you to go to an endocrinologist/gynecologist who doesn’t treat trans ppl, since in my experience they act as if hormones aren’t damaging.
Again it’s not what I said. I said they should wait till 18. Blockers aren’t reversible in any way, I literally was on it so you can’t teach me abt it lol. They lie when they say it’s reversible, your body will never function as it used to before blockers.
That’s not what I said. 90-80% of ppl who think they’re trans as minors later realize they aren’t. I think kids can’t understand the affects of transitioning therefore it should be illegal to let them transition. Ofc I believe it, I only saw ppl say things like suggesting the OP has other issues that they should go to therapy for, for instance. So bc it’s hard to diagnose we should just diagnose everyone as trans? It’s their job to diagnose, if they can’t then they shouldn’t do it. Back in time they actually tried to diagnose it and there was 1% regret, in the last years it became 30%, don’t you think it’s weird? And same abt gaslighting ppl to detrans, I haven’t seen it happen here. The chance that someone could be trans is very low ( abt 0.6% I think) so in most cases it’s something else that causes a person to think they’re trans.
How is detransition conversion therapy? 0_o… I have no problem at all with trans ppl and ppl transitioning. I have a problem when it’s happening to people who have no dysphoria and the fact that the doctors don’t even try to actually diagnose literally anyone anymore. You can say you’re trans and get prescribed hormones after ONE session. I think in cases where transitioning isn’t even needed, where the person isn’t trans, transitioning itself IS conversion therapy. Doctors gave me hormones and blockers when I was a kid, a child CANT consent. A child CANT understand transitioning. Literally I never saw here anyone being transphobic. It’s only lgbt people/ally’s that I’ve seen shitting on detrans people for having different opinions. I think doctors should actually care for their patients and do no harm. But it’s come to a state where doctors only care abt the money and not the people and giving them the right treatment. I had tons of issues that my “gender therapist” and endocrinologist avoided completely. Who are you to not even know what we’re going through and just act as if we hate on trans ppl? I don’t care what ppl do w their lives, but the doctors don’t give a shit abt them and ruin their lives, it sounds like you’re the one who doesn’t care about the fact that people get their whole life destroyed, if you would’ve cared you would talk to us with respect. Literally what did we do to you? We are the ones who got fucked over. You can just ignore us damn. Detransitioning is coming to terms with the reality that you can’t change your sex and to actually try to be okay with that. I think the fact that doctors decide that every single person who isn’t acting completely as their bio sex is trans is completely wrong. So people don’t have any other problems anymore? Nobody’s making anyone here do anything? I would say it’s even the opposite, I see here ppl actually giving ppl advice and telling them to figure out what actually is going on with them instead of just telling them they’re trans like a lot of trans spaces do.
Blockers aren’t reversible, I still suffer from a lot of affects that will never go away. I was 15 myself when I took blockers so yes I know how it feels. But what these children need is therapy and someone who will give them the treatment they need, not someone who will damage their bodies forever. So 80% of ppl should just ruin their body for nothing? Bro