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Based on the provided comments, the account appears authentic and not a bot. The user engages with a wide range of topics (family, religion, health, nutrition, personal advice) in a detailed, nuanced, and passionate way that reflects a genuine, albeit very strong, personal belief system. There are no serious red flags for inauthenticity. The passion and specific focus on biological essentialism, family, and religion are consistent with a subset of very passionate detransitioners/desisters.
About me
I was deeply unhappy and influenced by online communities, so I thought becoming a man was the answer. I took testosterone and had a double mastectomy, which was a serious and painful procedure. Reconnecting with my faith made me realize my purpose was tied to family and that I had caused a profound loss. I also came to understand that my autism made me hyper-focus on transitioning as a solution. I now embrace being a woman and want to help others by sharing my honest story.
My detransition story
My whole journey with transition and detransition is deeply tied to my faith and my search for a real purpose in life. Looking back, I think a lot of my struggle came from not feeling good enough and not having a strong sense of who I was. I was heavily influenced by what I saw online and by friends, and I fell into the idea that changing my body was the answer to my unhappiness.
I started identifying as non-binary, which felt like a way to escape the discomfort I felt with the expectations placed on me as a woman. This eventually led me to believe I was a transgender man. I had a lot of anxiety and low self-esteem, and I hated my breasts. I thought top surgery would fix everything. I went through with a double mastectomy. The physical process was incredibly difficult, and it reminds me of what my sister went through with her mastectomy for breast cancer. She had to have expanders put in, with tubes coming out of her armpits, and was in a lot of pain for months. She has chronic back pain now from it. It made me realize how serious these procedures are and that implants, which she got, come with their own set of lifelong problems, like needing replacement and potential health issues.
I took testosterone for a while. It did change my voice, and for a time, I thought that was what I wanted. But it also caused some health issues. I was worried about bone density, so I started taking iodine and boron supplements to try and help my body balance itself out.
The biggest turning point for me was reconnecting with my faith. I was raised in a religious background, but I had strayed far from it. Reading the scriptures, really studying them, helped me see things differently. I came to believe that our purpose is tied to family and community, to creating and nurturing life. I realized that my inability to have a biological family because of the hormones and surgeries was a profound loss. I started to see that gender, at its core, is about reproduction and complementarity. Without that, we risk becoming just a cog in a machine.
I also started to understand that I might be autistic. This explained a lot—why I became so fixated on transgender ideology, tunneling into it as a special interest. Autistic people can see through falsehoods but also get hyper-focused, and I think that’s what happened to me. Letting go of that fixation was a huge part of my healing.
I don't regret my journey because it led me back to God and to a better understanding of myself. But I do have regrets about the permanent changes to my body, especially knowing I can't have children now. My focus now is on building a true family, whether through adoption or by building a strong community. I believe that being honest about my experience is important. It might push some people away, but if it helps even one person avoid unnecessary suffering, it's worth it. My purpose now is to embrace who I am, a woman, and to help others find the courage to do the same.
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| Late Teens | Started identifying as non-binary, influenced by online communities and friends. |
| 20 | Began identifying as a transgender man. Started testosterone. |
| 22 | Underwent double mastectomy (top surgery). |
| 24 | Stopped taking testosterone. Began process of detransition. |
| 25 | Reconnected with faith, began to understand autistic traits, fully embraced identity as a woman. |
Top Comments by /u/Flat_Perception_7798:
Your friends will embrace you regardless of your identity. As long as you embrace who you are, people will be drawn to you. And if there's mtf's that put in the effort to pass as female, then a ftm could do it with much less effort. You'll do fine. Your fear of rustling some feathers is the only thing holding you back. But your actions will likely inspire others that you care about. I say, size the day amiga.
Be honest. Your honesty will either help them to avoid unnecessary suffering and learn to embrace their identity. Or they will accuse you of transphobia and not want to be around you. Either way, telling them the truth will produce desirable outcomes.
If you are unable to reproduce and establish a biological family, then reproduce socially and create an adoptive family/community. You need a community and a sense of purpose in life. Learn some valuable skills and surround yourself with people who care for and support one another.
Focus on improving your community and aim your efforts toward making a visible difference in the lives of others. Possibly start volunteering or engage in outreach. Also, the best way to learn is to teach someone else. So support more people in the Detrans sub so they can also discover ways to embrace themselves and pursue happiness.
My sister had a double mastectomy for breast cancer. She opted for the implants. She had to go through a process where uhh... Bags like balloon catheters were inserted beneath her skin and over the course of a few months fluid or air was added into the bags to gradually stretch the skin to make room for the implants.
It was very challenging for her. There were tubes producing from her armpits during this time where they would add air or fluid. She was in a lot of pain pretty much the whole time and couldn't really lift her arms. She has chronic back pain now from having to sit/lay funny and not being able to stretch. There were physical therapy exercises she probably could have done more of. But anyway, it was a tough time for her. Once she had the implants, though, she was far more confident and happy. So I suppose it was worth it for her.
Bear in mind, implants need to be changed every 5/10 years or something like that. I'm not an expert. But I've heard stories of women developing auto immune conditions from their implants. Like gluten/dairy/eggs/nuts and other wacky things causing migraines and eczema and vascular inflammation. Also check out that show monsters inside me. There's an audio version on YouTube music but some episodes have women telling stories of their saline implants causing health problems and when they finally convince the doctors they're unwell, they pull the implants and the once clear saline is totally black and somehow a fungus started growing inside it. Wacky stuff I'm telling ya...
I'm happy for you that you're embracing your identity. But I'm sad that you will either have to live without breasts or possibly have to endure the troubles of implants. Just remember that you have the ability to create waves with your words and you have a lot to offer the world. There are many young girls just like you about to do something very serious and you can make a difference in their lives just talking to them.
Based on your responses and the way you express your thoughts, I'm not an expert, but I'd wager that you are autistic. In which case, autistic folks are both able to see through falsehoods and also be extra susceptible to being tunnel visioned into an interest. I'd say you've become fixated on transgenderism and have begun a campaign to gather information to fulfill your desire to master your interest while sidestepping information that comes contrary to your focus.
I'd suggest exploring autism sub reddits and find some fixations that other autistic folk find terrificly interesting to delve into. It's likely that you are in a mental whirl pool of transgenderism as if it will fill the void in your life. But embracing your autistic identity is partially understanding that autism comes with an unfillable void of wonder about the world and intense focus on the things you enjoy.
Find some enjoyable things that don't involve body modification and stick with that for a bit and this fixation will likely become nothing but a memory. You can be happy.
Congratulations! Kids should be kids. I was in high school 2006-2010 and there were tom-boys or girls that liked muddin', skateboarding, snowboarding, fixing cars/motorcycles and other activities other girls weren't all that interested in. They were girls and no one had any issue with them enjoying things stereotypically enjoyed by men over more "girly" things. Interests and activities fit you. You never need to mould your image to match a stigma surrounding the things you enjoy.
As for gender, I'm not sure what they're teaching in school these days.. but, gender is for meiosis. Because we cannot reproduce by myositis, we need to differentiate ourselves so we can identify a mate. Males are attracted to feminine features because they display the ability to birth and feed babies. Women are attracted to strong powerful men because they can produce quality genetics and provide food and security for their family.
What it all boils down to is, reproduction. Without having children, people grow to old age with what? A job? What happens to all your shit when you die? Who will care about you when you're old and immobile and your parents are dead? Who will you care about and be excited for as you get to see them get older? And if you can't reproduce your own children then adopt. Really though without gender, you become another cog in the machine.
Combination of autism spectrum and societal indoctrination. A friend told me to look up Mr. E and his Transpocalypse now breakdowns. It seems many celebs are secretly trans leading to a subliminal perceived same sex attraction and gender dysphoria. Occurring especially among autistic folk that tend to soak up extraordinary amounts of input liminalally and subliminally.
Thanks for sharing your experience. If it's anything like the depo shot, it could cause bone density issues. I'd encourage you to take iodine, either liquid or sea iodine (I take the one from life extended it's a blue bottle) and also a Boron supplement. Both Boron and iodine are important for hormone production and balance. The iodine will probably make your dreams more vivid (mine definitely have been since taking it) and the sea iodine will make your pee smell like the sea. Boron is a stabilizer that is supposed to help your body put calcium where it belongs like your nails, bones and teeth. The majority of people are chronically deficient in both iodine and Boron because instead of crop rotation, synthetic fertilizer is used in industrial farming and soil can't replenish that stuff like it's supposed to. Iodine is also supposed to make you smarter too that's why there's iodized salt, because people were getting really dumb and someone figured out they were horribly iodine deficient. Anyway, happy recovery to you. Thanks again for sharing!
People like you for being yourself and not trying to change who you are. Everyone makes mistakes and the genuine people that you want to have as friends will understand and won't give you a hard time over the sound of your voice. Going to a university should be preparing you with valuable skills that you can use to provide a comfortable lifestyle for yourself and your family as you get older. Keep your eye on the prize because friendships are largely superficial in the joy they bring to your life. Many will drift apart as they focus on their families. You also should be considering how to secure and protect your future family.
Family is the true fortune that anyone can have. They will definitely love you regardless of the sound of your voice. If you can forgive yourself for getting into this situation, you can find the confidence you need.
Every Bible believer is on a path. Some stray more than others. I encourage you to read the scriptures out loud from cover to cover. As much as you can.
As for your community, be emboldened to speak when something isn't right. Address the commenter and remind them that you have changed your direction and are doing your best.
Like I said about reading the scriptures, many people in Christian communities look at the Messiah as a ticket to an all you can sin buffet. Take the Eucharist out be baptized and you'll be fine. Well check out Ezekiel 33 and reconsider how forgiveness works. And what is sin in the first place? Catholicism suggests immortality/abortion/ not being Catholic or whatever you feel is wrong. Well Romans 7:7 explains that sin is defined by the Torah.
I could go on. What's important is that you forgive yourself and embrace who you are. You have a husband. You have a community of believers. And if your ever feel down about yourself, remember every prophet and disciple was despised and persecuted but they knew the promise of the Creator far exceeds the temporary suffering of this life. You've come so far and you can go so much further.