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Authenticity Assessment: Not Suspicious
Based on this limited comment history, the account appears authentic.
There are no serious red flags suggesting it is a bot or a fake persona. The comments show:
- Personal, nuanced opinions rather than repetitive slogans.
- Emotional variability, from anger and sadness to kindness and encouragement, which is consistent with a passionate individual.
- Consistent perspective aligned with a critical view of gender-affirming care, which is expected in that forum.
- Natural conversational flow and engagement with other users.
The account displays the passion and strong feelings you noted are common among genuine detransitioners/desisters.
About me
I started transitioning as a teenager because I was deeply uncomfortable with my developing female body and thought becoming a man was the answer. I took testosterone and had top surgery, but it didn't fix the depression and internalized homophobia I was really struggling with. I'm now angry that I was pushed down this path without anyone questioning the deeper psychological issues behind my decision. I live with permanent changes like infertility, but I'm working on healing and self-acceptance. Finding this community showed me I wasn't alone and helped me see that true strength comes from within, not from changing a healthy body.
My detransition story
My whole journey with this started a long time ago, and looking back, I can see how my own issues got tangled up with the idea that changing my gender was the answer. I never felt like I fit in, especially as a teenager. I was deeply uncomfortable with my body during puberty and hated developing breasts. I think a lot of this came from a place of low self-esteem and depression. I also struggled with internalised feelings about my sexuality, which I now understand is a form of internalised homophobia.
I was influenced a lot by what I saw online and by friends who were also exploring gender. It felt like a way to escape from my problems and from being me. For a while, I thought I was non-binary, and that felt like a starting point before I moved towards identifying as a man. I ended up taking testosterone and got top surgery.
The surgery and the hormones didn't fix what was wrong inside. I was still the same person with the same pain. I started to realise that I had been trying to solve deep psychological issues by changing my body. I became angry at how easily I was pushed along this path without anyone really questioning the reasons behind it. I heard stories from others, like a man who transitioned because he felt no woman would ever love him, and it resonated with me. It made me see that we were all being "helped" in a way that avoided the real problems.
I don't regret my journey because it led me to where I am now, but I do regret the permanent changes. I am now infertile, and that is a serious and lasting consequence. My thoughts on gender have changed completely. I don't believe that altering a healthy body is a healthy solution for psychological distress. I think we need to be helped to find strength within ourselves, not be told that our bodies are wrong.
I benefited from stepping away from the ideology that pushed me toward transition. Finding this community and hearing from others who had similar experiences was a huge help. It showed me I wasn't alone in feeling misled.
Here is a timeline of the main events:
| My Age | Event |
|---|---|
| 13 | Started feeling intense discomfort with puberty and hated my developing breasts. |
| 16 | Began identifying as non-binary, influenced by online communities and friends. |
| 18 | Started taking testosterone. |
| 20 | Had top surgery. |
| 22 | Began to seriously question my transition and detransitioned. Realised the psychological issues behind my actions. |
| Present | Living with the permanent effects, like infertility, but working on accepting my body and healing. |
Top Comments by /u/Flingelingeling:
...Jesus chrysler you kiss your mother with that mouth??
Mood swings come from the hormonal CYCLE. Being FERTILE or in MENOPAUSE. We aren't hormonal wrecks all of the goddamn time and we're also individuals.
Just...gtfo this sub you have no reason to even be here. Also, you're bisexual. But sure, keep lying to yourselves.
I try to keep my commenting to a minimum for this very reason.
However, I do take any chance I can to give some genuine compliments and perspective as well, for example in voice check posts. Women can absolutely have deep smokey voices, we all just have to learn to OWN it.
You have reached a level of self reflection and maturity that I'm certain is far beyond your age. You're a fighter to have gotten through all of that! And you're absolutely NOT a victim forever. You were misled, but you saw through the lies and got the frick past it.
I'm still incredibly saddened and angered to hear that someone who ought to have supported you to find strength within yourself, instead chose to irresponsibly manipulate you to become obsessed with something so self-destructive and unattainable.
That woman chose to be a grooming queer-ideology activist rather than a responsible teacher when she did all of that to you, and she should never be allowed to work with children and youth again in my opinion.
I hope you never have to deal with someone like that ever again, and I hope you've found community here who are actually supportive.
I wish you the absolute best going forward.
The insights of these two men are incredible. They bring up a lot of the subjects discussed here and in other forums, like one of them choosing to become a woman largely because he felt no woman would ever love him anyway.
How they feel permanently mutilated and angry at society over how they were always "helped" by being pushed to go through with their transitions, rather than given help for the deeply psychological issues behind everything.
(And as a Swede, I must say that their way of speaking is so engaging and filled with personality I could listen for hours.)
If you have the money, it might be worth going to a hair stylist and ask them to help you style it in a simple way that you can then do yourself at home.
Check out who has the best reviews for being kind and a good listener. Even if it's a little more expensive. You wanna get your money's worth! :)
I think having some hair in your front right side (left on the photo) would help balance out the hairline.
And, in my humble opinion, guys should be allowed to wear concealer and/or foundation of they need/want to. It's what all the movie stars do!
Everyone looks better with an even skin tone. And adult acne straight up sux, idk what I would do without foundation, lol!
Much love, and don't give up. ♥️♥️
Like the other poster said, this is an awful thing to live with! I'm so sorry it's how you genuinely feel. Perhaps it's a form of agoraphobia or something?
But, perhaps you should consider the possibility that It's just not a typical or normal experience for most women in normal society to feel this way?
Also, I doubt putting your own body's health at risk to masquerade as a man will make you safer in most situations. Nor is it a healthy solution, even if it did.
Men are the number one target for random violent crimes with deadly conclusion in public so I don't even understand your logic.
If you scream for police or help as a woman, people people are far more likely to care and try to help. Why would being a genuine woman make you weaker or lesser than being trans? Your bone structure remains the same.
I wish you the very best, whatever you decide to do, do it for your own sake.
Oh I didn't mean to place any blame on you! It was mostly for comical effect.
You're very kind for caring for saying so.
And yes I agree it is bizarre. At least they seem to be starting to question the status quo when it comes to invasive body modifications like genital reassignment surgery.
It's something at least, and good for them.