I wanted to discuss these types of tweets but didn’t know how to start really. These have been the most harmful to me in my whole gender identity journey (I never attempted medical transition for clarity). And I see these reposted as reassurance to ‘eggs’ - people who think they are trans but have yet to accept it. There are huge communities of young people questioning their identity and then being told they are definitely trans for it and it fucks with them even more. These specifically just make me really angry and sad that this is the popular rhetoric, because so so so many ‘eggs’ I see discuss feelings almost exactly the same as other detrans people, and the thought of being cis is not even entertained to them by others.

This is a great example of how being transgender is presented on the internet. If you put any thought into it, most of what is suggested are the equivilant to unhealthy coping mechanisms involving escapism and “not thinking about the bad stuff”. Burning photos of yourself growing up, your childhood, good memories, because you decided later in life you are embarrassed of them and you are a different gender now so you cant be reminded of the past? Instead of working on the root emotional problems their solution is to get rid of anything that makes them feel bad.

I’m so sorry you lost your photos. Many people here relate and I’ve done the same. You can tell her youre sorry by forgiving yourself for throwing them away. You were in a poor head space and by all accounts, it makes sense why you felt that was a good decision at the time. You were hurting and cant blame yourself

Ugh yes it really breaks my heart to see young people online fall into the idea that euphoria is or should be a baseline emotion, and not something based on dopamine spikes. Feeling excited in a skirt as a man does not translate to a gender identity, absent of any other factors. I find it especially ironic to see these discussions go uncriticized, when we are in an epidemic of teens minds literally rotting online with short-attention spans and dopamine addiction.

Much of the trans content I see from minors focuses exclusively on asking for permission if they can wear this, say that. Asking for people to call them pretty, or good, and using gender identity in order to get this validation. It is so transparent to me and it just horrifies me that people feed into and encourage this. I so badly just want these kids to understand there doesn’t need to be a ‘reason’ for them to have worth, they are whole as themselves.

I’ve always been a little confused about how it is ‘proven’ that the brains of trans people differ from their bio sex. I mean, gender is made up isnt it? If somebody wants to physically transition thats fine and everything, of course bc its their choice. I guess I feel like the ‘mental’ aspect is completely dependent on societal stereotypes and how youd like to be treated as your role in society

Yes! This has become one of the bigger points that I’m passionate about. In any other context, you would be able to point at ‘but I would commit suicide if I didn’t’ as an unfair, manipulative (whether or not it is done so with conscious intent) tactic. Yet people repeat this constantly as a talking point for letting teens transition, as if that is not an extremely unhealthy way to view your own mental health?! We should not be reaffirming to minors that ‘Yes, the dysphoria you feel is so WRONG, that you must ELIMINATE it or else you might kill yourself because you will feel so miserable otherwise.’ We cannot allow negative feelings to control us like this. You cannot be giving feelings of discomfort so much power. When at 12-18, it is EXTREMELY NORMAL to feel dysphoric, anxious, utterly depressed, suicidal, catastrophic, everything. You feel everything hard as a teen. Do not tell these kids theres something about them to be fixed because they feel extremely uncomfortable being seen as their gender. There is a disconnect here that I would love to have nurtured, and cared for. Not ignored by prescribing hormones and telling them they should be satisfied with that. Sorry. I worry so severely for the next generations mental health

You are leagues ahead being able to admit to yourself you made a mistake. Some spend decades pursuing a transition that does not make them happy that they are too afraid to come back from. Not everyone is a detransitioner but everyone goes through this great shame of growing up. Its not bad you realized it wasn’t for you. The way your parents treated you despite admitting you are wrong now, was still wrong

The long term effects of this are fascinating and I hadn’t considered this before. You’re right, the older people in this gen z spectrum should be in their mid to late 20s in 5 years. We have yet to really see anyone be affected by this long term, due to the rise happening only recently in the last maybe 5 years. I also hope this will help open the conversation up down the road when hopefully detransition becomes more well known as an option

the obsession especially among teens and young adults with finding an identity label, autism, eating disorders, and sexual abuse as common conditions leading up to transition

Each of these points was like a punch in the gut lmao they all ring true for me. Excited to sit down and listen

Yes. The internet is exceptionally good at separating people into groups where they belong. Combined with lgbtq+ becoming pretty popular, no doubt some kids see trans communities, convince themselves they fit in, and transition in order to be a part of this amazing group. This is a conversation I’m also heavily interested in but I am very hesitant to start it anywhere but this sub. People are very quick to become defensive when you bring up the phenomena of people transitioning only because it is trendy, in order to protect from plain hateful people using this same argument against actual trans people just to be a dickhead to them. I understand why its hard to separate but it creates a total void of information where we come in and stay misinformed until we find the detrans light lol

Most people dont need to clarify that they dont want interaction with sexists, racists, homophobes transphobes etc and have the intelligence to not engage with it when they see it. People with DNI shit that does not need to be stated, tend to be exhausting people in many aspects