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About me
I'm a woman who felt different from other girls because I'm autistic and didn't fit feminine stereotypes, which made me feel broken. That feeling turned into self-hatred, and I thought becoming a man was the only way to be respected and valued. I got swept up in online communities that made transitioning seem like an exciting solution, even though I always knew I was female. I realized my discomfort wasn't with being a woman, but with the stereotypes and misogyny forced on us. I never medically transitioned, and I'm now healing by accepting that my body is okay and that being a woman has nothing to do with my personality or interests.
My detransition story
My whole journey with gender started from a place of feeling different. I was born female, and from a young age, I knew I wasn't like the other girls. I didn't like dressing up or wearing makeup, and I just felt completely separate from them. I now know this is because I'm autistic. That feeling of being an outcast, of not understanding social roles, was a huge part of it. It wasn't that I was a tomboy; I was just a normal girl who didn't fit the feminine stereotype, and that made me feel broken.
As I got older, that feeling turned into a deep self-hatred. I was bullied a lot as a kid and shunned by other girls, which made me hate my body and my femaleness. I developed a crippling inferiority complex. I started to believe that to be respected and to have value, I needed to be a man. I saw that even feminine men were often treated with more respect than masculine women. I thought that if I could just be a big, macho dude, I could finally feel worthwhile. A lot of this was internalised misogyny; I had absorbed the idea that femininity was less than masculinity.
I got really involved in online communities, and I now see that I was susceptible to cult-like thinking because of my autism. I was in an online Christian cult for a while that was incredibly harmful, and I think that same vulnerability made me latch onto gender ideology. It felt like a club to belong to, and the idea of transitioning was exciting. I convinced myself I wanted to be a man, but deep down, I always knew I was female. I had no real gender dysphoria; I just had a profound discomfort with how society treats women and a hatred of my own body.
I started to realise that my desire to transition was based on a lot of things that weren't really about gender. It was about trauma, autism, low self-esteem, and a need to escape the reality of being a woman in a world that often devalues us. I came to understand that my discomfort wasn't with being female, but with the stereotypes and expectations forced on me. Liking video games or not liking dresses doesn't make someone less of a woman; it just makes them an individual.
I never went through with any medical transition. I'm so thankful I didn't, because I know now it would have been a drastic solution to the wrong problem. My healing began when I started to separate my personality from my sex. I am a woman. That simply means I am an adult human female. Everything else—my interests, my style, my personality—is just me. I've benefited greatly from connecting with other women and seeing the incredible diversity among us. We are not stereotypes.
I don't regret exploring these feelings because it led me to a place of deeper self-understanding. But I do regret the years I spent hating myself and my body. I regret buying into the idea that I needed to change my body to be happy. My journey taught me that the problem wasn't my sex, but the society that made me feel wrong for it. I'm now comfortable identifying as a woman, and I'm working on accepting that my body is just my body, and it's okay.
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| Young Child | Knew I was ‘not like the other girls.’ Felt different due to autism and not liking feminine things. |
| Adolescent | Bullied and shunned by other girls. Developed deep self-hatred and inferiority complex about being female. |
| Adolescent | Joined an online Christian cult, which exploited my vulnerabilities. |
| Adolescent | Became involved in online gender communities, latching onto the ideology. Felt excitement at the idea of transitioning and belonging. |
| Late Teens | Realised my desire to be a man was based on internalised misogyny, trauma, and self-hatred, not an innate identity. |
| Late Teens | Understood I had no true gender dysphoria and that I had always known, internally, that I was female. |
| Present | Detransitioned socially. Now working on self-acceptance as a woman, separating personality from sex-based stereotypes. |
Top Comments by /u/Frosty_Green_5995:
For the last question: It may be internalised misogyny or just 'needing to feel special'. There's nothing wrong with being a plain woman. Women are awesome. You've been taught that women were 'boring' when in fact, that is not the case. In reality, no-one is the same, not even cis girls. Everyone has a unique personality. Your gender does not define your personality!
The whole 'male brain' in female body and vice versa is so toxic. Liking sports and video games is not a 'male brain' thing. Yeah I remember Warrior Cats. I liked the series; it features a variety of personalities despite the genders of the cats. People are saying the girl from 'Spiderman' is trans just based on her suit colours (although that has been memed away).
Dylan has gotten more famous because of transitioning.
Have you seen any of his videos? He is making fun of women. Playing on sexist stereotypes by acting like a b-mbo and attention seeking behaviour
Also, you will never, ever, convince me that Dylan is a GIRL. A female CHILD. Definetely has issues
Sorry. But as a woman I don’t feel the need to refer to myself as a ‘girl’. I’m a woman! Not a girl. This person is an actor. They literally are an actor.
If I were to say, ‘I’m transrace’ and then perform very racist stereotypes, that would be very very wrong
It maybe has to do with the power dynamic between men and women. Maybe some ppl would rather be treated as on the same level as their partner (in terms of gender) due to gender roles and power dynamics. It could also be seen as an ‘exotic’ thing to identify and become homosexual. Or perhaps it’s a s3xual rp thing.
To be a woman is simple: have XX chromosomes and a vagina. That’s all. After that, be yourself.
I think one of the best ways of overcoming internalised misogyny is to be around and socialise with other women. Socialisation is also a good way to increase your mood and sense of safety.
I had no gender dysphoria, only the false but popular self-hatred. I wanted to be a man, but that did not make me a man. I have no internal feeling of discomfort or feeling like the opposite sex.
There are many reasons a person would want to transition: Trauma, body dysmorphia, mental illnesses, autism, being gay, being gender non-conforming and just a need for attention.
There is certainly a difference between gender-dysphoric transexuals vs those who aren’t. The problem is it’s hard to tell whether transition will truly benefit you. This is the part toxic activists (in contrast to trans acceptance) don’t tell you.
Oh my gosh, there's a lot to unpack here. Now, I'm not going to get you to believe in feminism or just leave the typical 'oh yes, women can be masculine' message. Here's the truth: you were born into a female body and happen to have stereotypically masculine interests and habits. This is just YOU. Society makes this an awful reality to live with. 'How can I be a woman and not have a nurturing and soft spirit? Why must I be different?' So many people feel different like this, so much more than we are aware of. Because being an outcast is painful.
There are a lot of more stereotypically feminine men, more than we think. They just hide it well. When I was in school, I was surprised that a boy liked pink and admitted it! This was when I was a young teenage 'tomboy'. He looked quite boyish. Growing up, there were lots of men who have gentle demeanours, and those without. There are also women with feminine and girly looks who surprisingly had a masculine side too, and feminine women who accept other women for who they are. People are like that!
My mom is stereotypically feminine, but even then, she is open and does not really care about that all. My dad is stereotypically masculine, but even then, he is also a human being with dimensions.
People are not linear. I know it's cliche to say this, but everyone is different. I hope this helps you, but it's fine if it doesn't.
Being trans is most commonly understood as having a constant discomfort with their biological sex, and social roles. The social aspect is due to not fitting in with the opposite sex.
Nothing to do with gender roles. So many people in the past who aren’t trans have broken gender roles; Joan d’ arc, Harry Styles ect.
The biggest sign was I still, deep down, internally knew I was female. The whole desire to transition for me was all about hating my body and myself. All that and the excitement of being part of a club.
I was bullied severely as a child. I started to hate my body and my femaleness. All that and being gender non-conforming.