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The user's narrative is consistent over two years, detailing a personal journey from social transition to desisting/detransitioning. The comments express complex, evolving emotions and offer practical, personal advice that reads as genuine lived experience, not a script. The passion and criticism align with the expected perspective of someone who feels harmed by their experience with gender ideology.
About me
I started socially transitioning as a teenager because I was deeply uncomfortable with my female body and thought being a guy was the answer. I was swept up by online ideology and nearly got irreversible surgeries as a young teen, which terrifies me now. I had a complete mental breakdown trying to force myself into a box I didn't belong in. Now at 19, I've detransitioned and am learning to love myself as a woman, though I still have passing dysphoria. I've left those communities behind and believe gender is a harmful concept that just boxes people in.
My detransition story
My whole journey with this started because I was really uncomfortable with my body growing up. I thought being a guy would just be better, and I was treated better when people thought I was one. I socially transitioned super early; I'm only 19 now, so this all happened when I was a teenager. For me, a lot of it was about hating my breasts, especially because they were so big and made me stick out. I felt like I never fit into the mold of what a woman was supposed to be, and I thought being something else was the answer.
Looking back, I think it was a mix of slight insecurities, some mild dysphoria, and then learning about gender ideology online. I got hurdled into a world I didn't quite understand. It felt like a sign of growing up, of feeling out of place as a girl becoming a woman. I was so sure of myself at the time, but I ended up having a complete mental breakdown trying to force myself into a box I didn't actually feel comfortable in.
I was eligible to start hormones around 13, but I couldn't afford them. I also asked my parents for a double mastectomy but couldn't get their signatures for it. I had friends who went through with it, though. One friend was emancipated and got a double mastectomy at 15 after starting hormones at 14. Another was on puberty blockers at 15 and started hormones at 16. Seeing that happen to people so young feels terrifying to me now, like a conveyor belt everyone is cheering you to stay on without mentioning the potential consequences.
I don't regret detransitioning at all. I still have some gender dysphoria, but it's more of a passing thought now as I'm learning to love the person I am. Leaving trans spaces felt like leaving a cult. I always searched for a community to be a part of, but I feel a lot better not being in any community now. I don't even align with LGBT+ spaces anymore because of the increasing distance I feel from what's discussed there.
My thoughts on gender have completely changed. I think it's just a made-up concept used to confuse and misinterpret personality and traits. It's not real. I just keep it simple now and only talk about biological sex. I don't want to be associated with any of it or be put in a box.
The whole experience taught me that it's okay to change your mind. We go through so many phases in life, and it's never too late to figure out who you are. You don't have to have everything figured out right away. For anyone else going through this, my advice is to be patient, take one step at a time, and just try to look in the mirror and tell yourself you love who you are.
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| 13 | Was eligible and asked to start hormones, but couldn't afford them. Asked parents for a double mastectomy but could not get their consent. |
| Around 13-14 | Socially transitioned. |
| 19 | Reflecting on my detransition and sharing my experiences in the community. |
Top Comments by /u/Fuck_Everything_Dude:
Yeah even when I thought I was trans I thought that was super weird. It's like when someone can find a person of the same sex attractive doesn't automatically make them gay yet it's being treated that way. It's a recruiting tactic and very easy to get sucked in since there are little to no requirements. Heck just learning about Egg culture means you could be questioning and already on your way to "cracking" it's a dangerous slippery slope.
Actually that is usually the average of gender dysphoria. It happens sometimes. Mine was a little longer (still happening) but most stop about 5 years.
Also you're 17 and usually that is when gender dysphoria starts to calm down. The brain doesn't fully form until 25 and your hormones are still raging and you are still growing up.
I totally feel you on that one. I tried to hold an IRL meeting with de-transitioners once at a local college and a bunch of TRAs came and shut it down for no reason. Even got a bit violent saying just because our existence is transphobic and violence against them. It was so insulting because they made it seem like our existence is invalid. And honestly all I can do is laugh because the moment you don't agree you're against someone?
I still have gender dysphoria and I don't regret de-transitioning at all. It doesn't make me hateful or transphobic. I'm not scared. I'm living and loving my "authentic self" right?
Yeah I left years ago, or more like we split once I realized what the "community" turned into. Most of my gay friends did the same. I don't really want to be associated with it at all. I almost never mention my sexuality even when I'm asked because I don't want to be automatically put in a box. They don't want me and I don't want to be a part of them either.
Oh please at 16 I had to be an adult yet at the same time I wanted to pierce every part of my body and now I don't even think that's a good idea. You know why I was STILL A TEENAGER. Most people are trying to be as supportive as possible in the comments. If OP is questioning whether to get a double mastectomy or not then that is a HUGE red flag. It's a permanent decision so of freaking course the majority of people are going to say to wait and don't do it. It doesn't mean that they're saying never do it it's just OP needs to figure out what is right for her body. Heck at her age I was offered to get it done and I would have if my insurance covered it at the time and I would have seriously regretted it.
I know it's your opinion but to encourage those type of impulsive actions is dangerous when it's serious procedures... Yeesh it doesn't hurt to wait till at least OP is an adult first.
It's a good theory, but I had such a terrible experience with leaving the Trans spaces that it felt like leaving a cult. I don't know if I could ever be completely hand in hand with the whole community. I always searched for community and be a part of something, but I feel a lot better not being in any community. I come to this subreddit to get tips and tricks with helping my gender dsyphoria and giving advice. I try to understand Trans voices, but it makes no sense to me now. Heck, I don't even align with LGBT+ spaces anymore due to the ever increasing distance I feel about what is discussed.
Maybe I will think about it when I'm less burnt out, but I don't think that stuff matters to me anymore. I commend you, though. It only takes one person to start unity, so be that person and find common ground.
Your family will recover but first I'm glad you came to terms by yourself it's not for everyone! I think you need to talk to a doctor about how to go about de-transitioning. I want you to know you are loved and to keep moving forward. We as humans go through so many phases and paths throughout our lives that sometimes even when you're so sure at the beginning you can always change your mind so it's never too late.
You need to be honest with them. They don't need to push that ideology down your throat. You should mention how it bothers you and tell them your experience being transmasculine and nonbinary experience to now being detrans. Sometimes people need to understand what it's really like.
Oof that's terrifying. It's like knowing you're on a conveyor belt towards an incinerator but everyone is cheering you on to stay. It's oddly eerie that they almost never mention the potential effects or consequences if not taken seriously. Plus the immense support makes it seem like the best decision. Truly and utterly sinister. Good for you for standing up for yourself and not forcing yourself to stick through that. You have a good head on your shoulders
I was eligible to start hormones around the first time I asked around 13, but I couldn't afford them and didn't get my parents' signatures for the double mastectomy. Though my friend had a relatively easier time since she was emancipated. She got a double mastectomy at 15 and started hormones around 14. My other friend at the time already was on puberty blockers at 15 when we met and started hormones at 16 since his insurance didn't cover it, and he switched over to one that had a better co-pay.