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About me
I was a tomboy who felt betrayed by my female body during puberty and thought my discomfort meant I was a man. I was heavily influenced by online communities and started taking testosterone in my late teens. I eventually realized I was just a masculine woman trying to escape my problems through transition. I stopped hormones and now accept myself as a woman who doesn't fit stereotypes. My journey taught me we need more honest conversations so confused people don't make permanent changes they might regret.
My detransition story
My whole journey with transition and detransition was complicated and deeply influenced by the world around me. I was born female and as a kid, I was always a tomboy. I never felt like I fit in with the expectations for girls, and that discomfort got a lot worse when I hit puberty. I hated the changes in my body, especially developing breasts; it felt like my body was betraying me and turning into something that wasn't mine. I felt a lot of pressure to be a certain type of woman, and since I wasn't that, I thought maybe I wasn't a woman at all.
I found a lot of my ideas and confusion online, in forums and groups where people were talking about these feelings. I was influenced by what I read and by friends who were also exploring their gender. At the time, it felt like I had found the answer. I thought my discomfort with puberty and my body meant I was trans. I started to socially transition in my late teens, asking people to use a different name and pronouns. I think a big part of it was also internalized homophobia; the idea of being a masculine woman who liked women was somehow harder to accept than the idea of being a man.
Looking back, I think a lot of my drive to transition came from a place of low self-esteem, anxiety, and depression. I was using the idea of becoming someone else as a form of escapism from my own life and my own problems. I was trying to fix internal issues with an external solution. I took testosterone for a while. I didn't get any surgeries, but I was seriously considering top surgery because I hated my breasts so much.
Eventually, I realized I had made a mistake. I came to understand that I wasn't a man; I was just a masculine woman. I felt like I had been misled by the communities I was in, which were so certain that any discomfort with gender meant you were trans. They had good intentions, but it led me and a lot of other young, confused people down a very dark road we wouldn't have gone down otherwise. I stopped taking hormones and detransitioned.
I don't regret my transition entirely because it was a journey I had to go on to figure myself out, but I deeply regret the permanent changes to my body, and my heart breaks for others who have more severe health complications or are now infertile. I think the biggest thing I learned is that we need to be able to question things. Being a detransitioner doesn't mean you're anti-trans. It just means we need to have better, more honest conversations about the risks and the reasons why people transition, so that those who are truly trans can get the care they need, and those who are just lost or confused don't make life-altering decisions they'll regret.
My thoughts on gender now are that it's a social construct with too many rigid rules. There's nothing wrong with being a masculine woman or a feminine man. We need to make more space for people to just be themselves without feeling like they have to change their entire bodies to fit in. I'm happier now, living as a woman who is just herself.
Here is a timeline of my journey:
Age | Event |
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13 | Started puberty; began to feel intense discomfort with my body and developing breasts. |
17 | Found online communities discussing gender; began to question my identity. |
18 | Socially transitioned, started using a new name and male pronouns. |
19 | Started taking testosterone. |
21 | Realized I had made a mistake; stopped testosterone and began to detransition. |
22 | Accepted myself as a masculine woman and began living as female again. |
Top Comments by /u/GEuphoricGaming:
I think people are too focused on "tribality" approach, than "this person can be right about one thing and still wrong about others"
As much as I don't like Walsh, he makes a few good points here and there. Women are feeling the pressure of having their identities altered - Lesbian women are being quite affected as well. I think the issue is we all need to learn how to get along and live together, trans people deserve just as many rights, but they don't deserve to erase the rights of other people to exist. We need to come up with a way that everyone can exist and not hurt eachother by doing so.
Women are told by society we're wrong and should just become men to fix our problems.
Men who transition are going from an alpha class to a vulnerable class, and don't have the same privledge to claim manipulation. Women feel like we need to compete and be "better" women or become men. It's a lot more phycological than you think with us. With men I'm not sure why they want to be women... but they definitely aren't gaining power by becoming one.
I would advise against real life photos, that being said, you look fine as both genders. Just come off hormones and resume your life, and congrats on figuring yourself out and not falling prey to the social construct people are succumbing to due to social media.
I truly feel like conservatives aren't "winning" just because we're detransing, it's only allowing us to see the bigger picture that maybe in some cases, these people have been right about things, that doesn't mean we're agreeing with all their takes, nor that we are bad people for feeling how we do. Society has been trying to do good things, but it leads down a rabbit hole of bad things. I think everyone in the trans movement has good intentions, but it's leading some people down a very dark road they never would have gone down if it weren't for internet forums and groups leading them in certain directions. It's telling that a lot of detransers are in fact women at birth who feel like they were "tom boys" and society didn't like that so they wanted them to be men instead.
It's not any of our faults we were mislead, most of us were young, just finding ourselves, thrown in an ocean of people who thought they knew better for us than we did ourselves. Sometimes it was just about being trendy, other times it was because we thought it would make us happy. It's not our fault, and anyone who comes in here and victim blames I should hope understands they aren't doing us any favors. People are afraid to come out as detransers due to the attacks from all sides. Keep being you and become the authentic you you can be without making life changing decisions to please a society that doesn't seem to care about you in the first place. You deserve happiness, and love.
I agree, we really need to help people understand the risks more, and really help people understand. Being a detranser doesn't mean you're anti-trans either... the stigma NEEDS to go away... People who have detransed understand that being trans sometimes (not always) is just something that someone feels at a certain time. It's not proof or denial that people are or are not trans. But we really need to help people understand what it means to be trans, allow actual trans people to get these things done without pushing it onto people who aren't trans but being convinced they are. Mostly Masc Women or girly-boys. They are being forced into this "gender stereotype" and honestly it's very homophobic.
It sounds like you want to be a masculine woman and there is nothing wrong with that. Personally as a tomboy, I date masculine women and there is nothing wrong with a woman being masculine in look but feminine in mind and emotion. Be yourself, I'm sure you're a beautiful person with so much to give to the world. Don't become preoccupied with attempting to match your societies "requested" persona, with your own.
Who do 'you' want to be, that's the biggest question. If your girlfriend is making you feel like a man and doesn't respect your feelings for wanting to be a woman that is masculine, I would say that's unfortunate and would try to explain to her what it does to you. You sound like a beautiful person. You deserve happiness.
I'm so sorry... I think that you can still recover your voice after T but it takes a long while, I feel so sorry for you and people like you is why I fight to help people understand transitions before they go through with it. I want people who are positive to still have access, but to help those people who are just lost or confused or unstable and making decisions they will some day regret, not make them. It's such a terrible world right now for so many people and I just want to make it better :(
I'm so sorry you have been left feeling this way, and thank you for sharing your story regardless of the stigma behind it. I hope and pray you will get your voice back and will keep you in my thoughts.