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Based on the provided comments, this account appears authentic. The user's detailed, personal narrative of their transition, detransition, and ongoing struggles with identity and body image is highly specific, emotionally charged, and internally consistent. The language is nuanced and contains the kind of passion, anger, and pain that is common among genuine detransitioners and desisters.
There are no serious red flags suggesting it is a bot or a bad-faith actor. The arguments, while strong and critical of the trans community, are presented as personal realizations and are consistent with known detransition perspectives. The account shows a clear, logical (to the user) progression of thought and a deep personal investment in the topic.
About me
I started hormones in my early twenties because I felt uncomfortable with my male body, but I never socially transitioned. After nearly three years, I stopped because I realized I could never truly become a woman and I saw the community as deeply disconnected from reality. I also faced the painful truth that men only saw me as a sexual object, not a potential partner. Now, I accept that I am male and find crossdressing a healthier outlet than taking risky synthetic hormones. I'm glad I detransitioned, as it pulled me out of a fantasy and back to reality.
My detransition story
My journey with transition started because I was deeply uncomfortable with my body, especially during and after puberty. I was born male but always had a very feminine build—I was skinny with a small waist and wide hips. I started taking hormones in January 2016 when I was in my early twenties. My family knew, but they're conservative, and because trans people are often mocked, I never really socially transitioned. I just introduced myself as male everywhere, like at university.
The hormones changed my body a lot. I grew C-cup breasts and my hips got even wider. I gained a lot of weight and felt bloated, which I hated because I used to have a body that women were jealous of. Even though I "male failed" a lot—meaning people thought I was a woman—it was often because they thought I was a butch lesbian. Men would often gender me female, but women could usually tell I was biologically male and would avoid pronouns or call me "young man."
I stopped the hormones in September 2018. I was on them for almost three years. I realized that no matter what I did, I could never actually become a real woman. I started to see the trans community differently. I noticed that so many people in it had serious psychiatric disorders and were lying to each other, saying things like neovaginas are real vaginas when they're surgical wounds. It felt like a community that was completely dissociated from reality.
I also saw that even trans people who passed perfectly were still seen as fakes by society. I identified as a straight trans woman, but while I got a lot of sexual interest from straight men, none of them wanted a serious relationship. They saw me as a curiosity, a sex toy, not a life partner. That was a hard truth to face.
I now believe that crossdressing is a much healthier way to deal with my feelings about gender. I can still pass as a woman when I want to because of my natural build and voice, but I'm not putting my body through the risks of synthetic hormones anymore. I'm glad I stopped; that stuff can cause cancer and strokes. I still take licorice root, a phytoestrogen, because it helps my mood, but that's it.
I don't regret transitioning because it led me to this understanding, but I do see it as a period of escapism where I was living a fantasy. My thoughts on gender now are simple: you can't change your sex. I was born male and will always be male. Dressing and presenting as a woman is fine, but it doesn't make me a woman. The whole experience has made me much more critical of the trans narrative and the pressure within that community to ignore reality.
Here is a timeline of my journey:
Age | Date | Event |
---|---|---|
22 | January 2016 | Started taking testosterone blockers and estrogen (HRT) |
24 | September 2018 | Stopped taking synthetic hormones |
24 | 2018 onward | Began taking licorice root (phytoestrogen) for mental effects |
24 | 2018 onward | Began losing weight and working to return to my pre-HRT body |
Top Comments by /u/Ghislainaertgeerts:
My mother,father and brother knew I was hormonally transitioning. My general physician was the one prescribing my HRT. I didn’t socially transition because my family is conservative and trans people are still mocked in society. I did male fail very often though. I have a very feminine voice and I am of small, feminine stature. My bone structure has always been androgynous already. The thing is that real women often sensed that I was biologically a male. It was men who always gendered me female. Women either avoided pronouns or called me “young man”. I went to university after two years of HRT and some people there already suspected I was trans. Even though I introduced myself as a male there.
I now look like a young boy with large hips. I wear a compression shirt to hide the breasts. I look like an androgynous male but nobody sees anything weird about me anymore.
I stopped HRT in september. I started HRT in January 2016 and stopped in September 2018. I still take Licorice root which is a phytoestrogen, because it helps me feel better mentally.
But I don’t take any synthetic hormones anymore. I still feel as if I am a woman, but I realistically know that it’s impossible to be a real woman if you were born a man.
What started opening my eyes about the trans community is the many psychiatric disorders that are present in that community, the lies they tell each other, the pressuring they do to society. Trying to guilt trip people of being transphobic for not wanting to date a trans person and so on. Telling each other that neovaginas are real vaginas when they are actually surgical wounds.
What shocked me even more is the lack of reality in that community. Most are dissociating from reality. The vast majority has underlying disorders but doesn’t seem to realise it,...
What shocked me even more is that even the ones who passed flawlessly were still seen as fakers by society and will grow old all one, rejected by society and with no one by their side. Basically no one will want to grow old with a transgender.
I identified as a straight trans woman. No straight man wants to grow old with a transgender. I had lots of normal straight men showing sexual interest and many also liked my character and my mind, but no one of them wanted anything more serious than a hook up. As a transgender people who show interest see you as a sex toy, nothing more. A curiosity.
The funny thing is: before I started HRT, I had a female body that real women were jealous of! I was skinny and had lots of interests from men who wanted sex with me. Hetero men. Especially when I put make-up and a wig on.
On HRT, my body became less feminine. I gained tons of weight and looked bloated and abnormal. I male failed very often but that was because people thought I was a butch lesbian when I took HRT. I never socially transitioned.
I’m now losing all the weight and want to get the body back from before hormones. I like that I have breasts now and shaving all my body and facial hair off feels good. I like that my bone structure is already feminine from my own so with make-up,... I will still be able to pass as a woman whenever I want to. But I realise that crossdressing is a healthier outlet for dysphoria than transitioning. In both cases you never get to be a real woman, so why would I chose the hardest way?
I’m glad that I stopped HRT. That stuff causes cancer and strokes over time. Why do you think actual women try to get through menopause without HRT? Because that stuff carries major risks.
Unfortunately everyone is scared to speak the truth these days because it’s not politically correct.
There is no transphobia in my post. I just analyzed the trans narrative and have written it down in words.
Honestly , I can hardly take you seriously. You have written a zillion times “trans women are women”. You know why you have written it so often? To memorize that bullshit for yourself. Because you know it isn’t true. Trans women are medicalized men. In Canada there was a survey recently and 85% of canadians who were interviewed openly said they did not want to date trans people. And Canada is one of the most liberal countries in the world when it comes to the LGBT-community. Let alone how many Americans would openly say that they don’t want to date trans people. That’s why we hear bullying and deceiving from the trans community in the media day after day. Because people don’t want to date trans people. Because people don’t find it normal. Because people see through the cotton sealed bullocks :-)
Why do you think the DailyMail had so much publicity with their article about DIY-ING hormones last year? Because people think it’s an anomaly to put a kid on hormones without a doctor’s receipt. Because people see it as cosmetic alteration of your body and not as a medical need.
Why do you think gender critical keeps growing as a sub? Why do you think trans identified men try to silence gender critical women day after day?
People are tired of parrotting fake bullshit that the trans community feeds down their throat. People have become more awoken over the last years. The trans fairytale is slowly starting to collapse. An 80 year old granny somewhere in a nursing home in Missouri knows by now that the vast majority of the trans community are depressed people who sooner or later put a gun on their head because they can’t cope with the pain anymore and because transition didn’t solve their problems. People finally know that the narrative portrayed by the trans community is bullocks.
The brain scans have never showed waterproof evidence that trans “women” have feminine brains. The scans showed that homosexual transsexuals, men who have wished they were women from a very young age, have brains that show a structure somewhere in between male and female. And autogynephilic transsexuals showed no such feminized brains pre-HRT, they showed brains that were slightly more feminized after years of HRT. But homosexual men who are happy to be men also show those feminized structures. Doesn’t mean jackshit.
Another point to prove that the world still doesn’t believe trans “women” are women: why do you think tax payers always say that trans should pay their treatments out of pocket? Literally on every trans related article you will find tons of comments like that in the comment section. Why? Because people don’t believe these treatments are necessary. People see these treatments as a wish. Like getting a tattoo. People don’t see these treatments as life saving. Why do you think Trump faced no opposition when he banned transgenders from serving in the military and having free surgeries paid for by the government? Because people didn’t see this as a breach of human rights. People silently agreed with it. If people truly believed trans women were women, Trump would have been impeached on grounds of inhuman acts, after banning trans from the military. But he is still here. And that’s because transgenders were not seen as enough reason to impeach him.
Because the world doesn’t see transitioning as a real medical problem.
You can find tons of studies about the psychiatric disorders documented in trans people. You can only find a few studies about happiness in trans people. Because the negative outways the positive. This is a struggling group with mental illnesses that continue to exist after transition. The suicide rates say enough. Browse through some transgender subreddits . You will see that the posts about negative life experiences are almost always about how one perceives their body post-transition, how they still doubt themselves and the procedures they got. Rarely is it about how other people have treated them. Because most are deeply unhappy because they realise that transition didn’t solve their problems. Simple as that.
I got lots of male fails on HRT and I am quite attractive. I have had hip bone widening on HRT. My hips were always somewhat wide but now they are very wide. I am curvy as well. I grew C-cups on HRT. The breasts didn’t decrease.
I actually like my body. I just want to shed the weight and get back at being skinny. I had super tiny arms, a tiny waist and have always had a feminine voice.
When I crossdress I can still pass.
I take phytoestrogens for the mental effects now. It helps.
I always knew it would never become real. No one can change sexes. The fact that I was living a fantasy combined with the mental disorders and overall unhappiness in the transgender community, made me detransition.
Let him be. He is making tons of posts in gendercynical about how mean the gender critical people have been to him boohoooo boooo . Ask yourself instead, why he browses this sub. Because he has lingering thoughts of detransitioning. He knows he is and will always be a man, a male. And that’s why he comes sneak peeking here at r/Detrans.
I think he is emotionally unstable as fuck. He keeps telling himself that his boyfriend is straight. He keeps telling himself that trans women are women. He is browsing detransition subs.
This is just a gay dude who transitioned and now regrets because he only attracts fetishists who see him as a costume.
I feel sorry for him.
To be honest, I feel sorry for you. I want to give you a hug. You are a struggling person who parrots lies he himself knows aren’t true, because he needs it to keep himself from collapsing. That’s sad. Really sad.
You keep repeating that your boyfriend is straight while deep down you know he is just a fetishist who loves guys in dresses. A child would answer you that your boyfriend is not straight.
It’s just pretend and make believe.
You are struggling and you still don’t want to see it. Because you put all your money on transition. Because you had nothing left to lose when you went into this. And admitting that this wasn’t the answer to your prayers feels like a failure.
I truly feel for you.
Happy people don’t toy with suicidal thoughts. Deeply mentally burdened people whose lives can collapse any moment, who have nothing left, contemplate suicide.
What a dream life you must have, if you need to remind the entire world every other second that you are a woman because the world sees a man, smells a man, feels that you are a man. A man playing make believe.
If you have to remind everyone that you are a lady, you definitely aren’t a lady. ~ Margaret Tatcher.
You deal with so much anxiety. I wish life had treated you better, buddy.
Science says that women don’t have a prostate. Science says that women don’t have a bigger lung capacity than men. Science says that women’s voices don’t drop as deeply during puberty and that women don’t grow an adam’s apple during puberty.
But keep deluding yourself, mate.
All you have said were pure delusions.
Straight men are not attracted to feminized men. A straight man wants a woman, not an estrogenized man. So keep telling yourself that straight men are attracted to you all the time, but science contradicts you there. Straight men don’t want to live their lives with a man, whether he has taken hormones or not.