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About me
I am a lesbian who never transitioned, but I became deeply involved in this space after seeing males try to redefine womanhood and force their way into our communities. I believe being a lesbian is about same-sex attraction to other females, not an identity that can include males, which I see as a form of homophobia. I find the sexualization of lesbians by trans-identified males to be a predatory fetish that invades our spaces. I strongly oppose medical transition, as I don't believe surgery can create a real female body or change someone's sex. My only regret is that I have to constantly defend the reality of my sex and sexuality against a movement that seeks to erase it.
My detransition story
My journey with transition and detransition is deeply tied to my identity as a lesbian and my understanding of what it means to be a woman. I never transitioned myself, but my strong feelings come from watching the trans community, especially trans-identified males, try to force their way into lesbian spaces and redefine what it means to be a woman and a homosexual. This has been a source of great frustration and anger for me.
I believe gender is a material reality, not a feeling or an identity. You are either male or female. I am a female homosexual—a lesbian. My attraction is to other females, to real women with real female bodies and shared life experiences. This isn't something that can be changed or redefined to include males. The idea that a man can become a woman or a lesbian is, to me, a complete denial of reality and a form of homophobia. It feels like an erasure of my sexuality.
A lot of my comments were directed at males who claim to be "transbians." From what I've seen, their desire to be lesbians often seems like a fetish. They sexualize lesbians and lesbian sex in a way that feels deeply invasive and male. They talk about wanting to "sit on a lesbian's face" or become a "pussy connoisseur," which is not only impossible for them but also reduces our relationships to a crude fantasy. This isn't about gender identity; it's about a sexual fetish for lesbians, which I find disgusting and predatory.
I am completely against the idea of "stealth" transition, where a trans person doesn't disclose their biological sex to a sexual partner. I believe this is a form of sexual assault because it takes away the other person's right to informed consent. The thought of being intimate with someone I believed was a woman only to find out they are male is one of my biggest nightmares. It would be deeply traumatic.
I also have strong opinions on medical transition. I do not believe a surgically created "neovagina" is in any way comparable to a real vagina. From what I've heard from others, they don't smell, taste, feel, or function like the real thing. They are artificial openings that require constant maintenance and are prone to complications. The idea that this surgery could make someone a woman is, in my view, a lie.
My stance has always been that lesbians are same-sex attracted females. We are not attracted to males, regardless of how they dress, what hormones they take, or what surgery they have. Our community and our bonds are based on a shared experience of being female in a male-dominated world. A male can never understand or share that experience.
I don't have regrets about a personal transition because I never transitioned. My only regret is that I have to spend so much energy defending the reality of my sex and sexuality against a movement that seeks to undermine it. I feel a duty to speak the truth, no matter how harsh it may sound, to protect other lesbians from being manipulated and exploited.
| Age | Date | Event |
|---|---|---|
| - | 2019-09-27 | Commented on using retinol cream for acne scarring. |
| - | 2020-01-26 | Stated that not disclosing trans status to a sexual partner is sexual assault. |
| - | 2020-04-08 | Engaged in multiple debates arguing that transwomen are men and cannot be lesbians, calling it a fetish. |
| - | 2020-04-08 | Argued that "neovaginas" are not real vaginas and described negative secondhand experiences with them. |
| - | 2020-04-08 | Stated that "stealth" transition is predatory and would lead to being ostracized from the lesbian community. |
| - | 2020-04-09 | Reiterated that no lesbians are attracted to males and defended the definition of homosexuality. |
Top Comments by /u/Glamalez:
Neovaginas aren’t real vaginas. They don’t self regulate or clean. It’s just an artificial hole in the body which is why it’s always trying to close up on itself. I have a few bisexual friends that have gone there with trans women. They have all said they don’t smell or taste like real vaginas and they are actually on a spectrum of bitter and fishy. So it might be normal for a neovagina.
Ok first understand that you’re not a lesbian. You will never be a lesbian, and no lesbians will ever be with you. The closest you can come is transbian, but the dating pool for them is very small! I don’t write this to be cruel, but to make sure you understand this. I’ve seen transbians upset that they did all the surgeries, and lesbians still won’t give them the time of day. You may find a woman who is lying about her sexuality, but know if she’s with you she’s not a lesbian, and for arguments sake... Let’s say you can get a lesbian to play house. (In fantasyland) How long do you think it’ll be before she’s tired of tofu and wants the real thing?
Lesbians are homosexuals and you’ll never be our sex. For us it’s not just about genitals and what they look like. A fauxgina is not a vagina. It doesn’t act, smell, or taste like a vagina, and most times it doesn’t look like one either. Let’s put that aside though. Women are a sum of our experiences we are a heart and mind not just sex. You don’t have a woman’s heart or mind. You and I have no common experiences. Lesbian relationships are very much rooted in our bonds as women, and our sexual attraction to each other’s real bodies, our real smells our realities. It’s a matter of being SAME SEX ATTRACTED. I’m sorry but this will not happen for you.
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get my gay on
This seems like a fetish to be seen as a homosexual, and be a part of our community. The problem is you’re not gay. So you’re doing what you can to try and accomplish “the look,” and it will never work. It’s ok to be straight. There’s nothing wrong with it, but a lesbian you’ll never be.
I’ve never commented here but I was compelled today after reading this. You are not a fool. You know people do not want to date or be intimate with trans people by a large amount, lesbians and gays even more so. If you have any intimate contact with anyone and don’t disclose you are a sexual predator! This is sexual assault! You have taken a persons right to consent when you don’t disclose any information that might change their mind. This includes sexual history, STD’s, and I’m a biological man. If you are having sex with people and not disclosing you’re a rapist! Period! I’m a lesbian and I have to tell you, a trans woman doing this to me is my biggest nightmare! I’ve literally had this nightmare. It would mess me up in ways I can’t even fully grasp. What you’ve done to that lesbian won’t sooner leave her, and she may even have to seek therapy. It was so wrong of you to take her choices from her!
That's nice and all of you to say, but it's laughably short-sighted.
It’s realistic
The beauty of the Ghost In the Shell thought experiment I had as a child is that, just as it was useful to repress myself, it's equally useful in eradicating gender, sex, and arguments like yours.
It’s not real!!
Lesbians... We use toys, right?
Stop! The toys get put away and a real vagina is in place with a woman attached
Imagine it's the year 3000, everyone has cyborg bodies. I can fuck you with a dick, then take it off later, like a strap-on except different. Everyone's the same because everyone can change their genitals like Legos. No one's gay or lesbian or heterosexual anymore.
This is not the future and even then there will be homosexuals!
Having thoughts like these as a 12 year old is not only extremely gay, but it points to something true: a female core.
How would you know what a female core is? You have no frame of reference
I'm very same sex attracted. Gay sex, to me, was just sex with people who felt "the same" to me, sex that couldn't result in pregnancy, because that's what you expect from gay sex generally. Well, I wrongly figured this thinking was right, but it's not. I am female, and I have funny genitals. I'm a gay woman who was tesosterized prenatally.
You’re not our sex and no matter what you do you will never be our sex. How would you know?
Fundamentally, the only thing I think transbians are upset with is the limitations of medical science. Once medical science gets there, your argument will become a foscil collecting dust, because it's only a response to an old situation no one deals with anymore.
No because you still aren’t raised as women. Everything you’ve written is from a male perspective with a fetish for lesbians and the sex we have. There’s more to being a woman then estrogen and a scalpel. You may pass one day, but that doesn’t mean you have our experiences. Even if you’re treated as a woman now. You process those experiences with a trans/fetishist mind not a woman’s mind so even they are not what we experience because we internalize them differently.
When that day comes, and you come to me for attention, I will remember, and I won't have sex with you, I'll ghost you.
This is something only the ego of a man could dream up. Where’s that female core you were going on about?🤔
If a lesbian doesn't want me to sit on her face post-op then what's the point?
I’m even more convinced this is a fetish. Good news you can get therapy to help you unlearn this.
No lesbians going to ever want you on her face. A bisexual woman maybe, most likely another transwoman is your best option, but never a lesbian. If you feel you NEED it to be a lesbian then you have a fetish for us. Unfortunately this is not uncommon with you all.
Ok... it’s not about what we only care about! Get this through your head it’s our sexuality! We can’t change what we are attracted too! The Catholic Church has been trying to change us (homosexuals) for centuries what makes you think you all can?
PS you’re very homophobic for even trying this BS. HOMOSEXUALS EXIST, AND WE ARE NOT HERE TO VALIDATE ANY OF YOU!
Man will never be able to create a vagina. It will never improve to that point, and furthermore it wouldn’t make you a woman if it did. This was my point. This is what I was trying to get across to you. You’ll never be a lesbian, or in a lesbian relationship. Our bonds as women are important to the relationship. Your comments to me are full of male ignorance, and entitlement. We were having a debate, and you had to finish with sexual innuendo towards me. Insinuating that I would want to have sex with you? Seriously? This is something only men do to women. You completely sexualized me! Notice I did nothing of the kind to you, and check my comments... I’ve never sexualized any lesbians I’ve debated! NEVER! You could be the perfect specimen of a woman but you are very male! I can’t imagine any lesbians that could stomach your male behavior. You do not have a female core.
You’re talking about normal sex activities between women and you are not one. That’s what makes it a fetish. You’re going on about wanting to sit on a lesbians face! Come on! You probably got off a bit writing that to me. (a lesbian) If I was going on talking about gay male sex in such a manner that would be inappropriate and fetishizing as well. You’re not a woman and not a lesbian, but you talk like you are. You described things you want to do sexually as if you are. That’s a fetish for us.🤷🏻♀️ Don’t worry there’s lots of you! I have yet to see a transbian that wasn’t.
I'm not a fetishist
Yes you are...
just a gay woman prenatally over exposed to testosterone.
This is ridiculous, you’re a man. The only problem your have is with your mind.
I don't even wank.
Why does this matter? Let me guess just wanted to mention that to me, because you want to get off talking sex acts with a lesbian. Right? ...Pervert
I smash the nerves where my vagina should be.
😂😂😂😂 More like where a vagina will never be!
Children don't have the capacity to fetishise lesbians.
You are a FETISHIST! “Pussy Connoisseur”? Seriously? To be that, you’d have to have one to really know it, and as we’ve covered you never will. Talk about dreaming!🙄
You're dreaming. Wake up.
Damn I wish this was dream (nightmare) I could wake up from. You fetishist are fucking disgusting! Every lesbian I know wants you all gone and never seen again! It’s so perverse how you use our language and sexualize us. For a long time we just laughed and ignored you. Now it’s just impossible to ignore, and you’ve just become this disgusting molesters of lesbians, and an appendage to our community.
You have a fetish, and what you want is to try and turn your penis into a good enough facsimile of a vagina so you can try to bed lesbians, and fake lesbian sex.
My personal opinion is if you think you are successful, and are happy with your fauxgina... you’ll be trying to rape lesbians as soon as you get the stitches heal. You reek of a male privilege/entitlement and I’m sure you’ll try to go stealth, because it’s clear you so desperately want us lesbians, and you know you’ll never have one without lying. I told you the truth. You are not a lesbian, you’ll never be a lesbian, and no lesbians will ever be with you. Stealth is rape! As someone who has seen this let me tell you what will happen just in case I’m right. Lesbians will always be able to tell a fauxgina, and you’ll have a lot of explain for. Lesbians will call one another and warm each other about the latest transbian rapist. Just as we warn each other about who’s a trasbian so as not to get tricked. Then your photos will be passed around lesbians and bisexuals as well. You will become a pariah within the community. Even the most woke have no sympathy for the stealth ones. So if I’m right and you have thoughts of going stealth. This is your future! branded a rapist and a fetishist. Just so you know..
Everything you’ve done proves you’re a fetishist! The sexual innuendo the sexualizing of me.. you did everything short of telling me to choke on your girldi*k... If it walks like a duck, and it quacks like a duck, it’s a Fetishist!
Of course not! I’m a lesbian 😂
But I do know a bisexual man who has been dating many because he likes oral from men, but prefers vaginal sex. So he thought a post op transwoman would be his ideal. Especially since he doesn’t care if they really are women or men, he’s able to find attraction in either. He’s never found a single fauxgina that felt real, and said they feel more like an anus, because there’s no muscles there, and once it’s dilated to the penis size there’s no resistance, it starts right then it’s just loose, like with an anus. The smell he finds nauseating. He even had one story about one that smelled like stale lube and shit. Literally shit! So he didn’t go down but the worse part! The transwoman actually left a brown wet spot 🤢🤮
Yeah! I’m good with the real thing and a real woman core!😂