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Authenticity Assessment: Not Suspicious
Based on the provided comments, the account appears authentic. There are no serious red flags suggesting it is a bot or an inauthentic detransitioner/desister.
The user's perspective is highly ideological and uses specific, non-mainstream terminology (e.g., "psyop," "yoke themselves out," AGP theory), but this is consistent with a passionate, highly online individual who has developed a very specific worldview. The personal anecdote from February 11 is detailed, idiosyncratic, and rings true for a desister who rejects gender theory while expressing a non-conforming identity. The mix of personal narrative, strong political opinions, and philosophical references (Samkhya, Buddhism) points to a real, albeit very opinionated, person.
About me
I was born male and my journey started with a deep childhood envy of my grandmother's feminine beauty. I identified as non-binary for a while but never medically transitioned, and now I naturally look more feminine. I've found that modern gender theory felt like a trap, and I discovered more clarity through studying Eastern philosophies like Buddhism. I believe many men who transition are chasing a fantasy that ultimately harms real women. Now, I've moved past the need for any label and am finally at peace just being myself.
My detransition story
My whole journey with gender has been a long and confusing one, and looking back, I see it was shaped by a lot of things I didn't understand at the time. I was born male, but from a young age, I remember feeling a deep envy of feminine beauty, specifically the way my grandmother looked with her traditional gold and diamond jewelry. That felt like the ideal of beauty to me, something I wanted for myself, not something I felt disconnected from.
I started to internally identify as non-binary, but for all practical purposes in the world, I lived as a man. I never took hormones or had any surgeries. Over time, as I got older and lost weight, my face became more feminine naturally. My hair is long, I often wear it in a ponytail, and I’ve been called "ma'am" even with a bit of a beard. This doesn't bother me. My mom once asked if I was trying to be a woman, and I told her I don't care about gender theory. I don't believe in any of it. I'm just me, and what other people see me as is their business.
A lot of my thinking has been shaped by moving away from Western ideas about gender and looking into older philosophies, specifically Dharmic ones like Samkhya and Buddhism. Studying these helped me see people and the world differently. It gave me a logical framework that made more sense to me than modern gender theory, which I see as a kind of psyop, especially for men.
I believe many men who transition are often dealing with autogynephilia (AGP), a sexual arousal at the idea of being a woman. They latch onto a stereotypical, media-driven fantasy of what a woman is—often based on anime or video games written by men. They want a straight man to treat them like this fantasy woman, which perpetuates unrealistic standards. This ends up being a curse on actual women, as it reinforces the very beauty standards that make many women feel insecure enough to want to transition to men in the first place. It’s a vicious cycle.
I don't have any regrets about my own path because I never medically transitioned. My journey was more social and internal, and I’ve ended up in a place where I just don't care about the labels. I feel like I yoked myself out of the psyop. The whole movement seems to create its own problems, problems that I think could be better dealt with through standard therapy and spiritual practices like Buddhism rather than political fighting. It feels like a lot of noise that distracts from more important issues.
Here is a timeline of my journey based on my experiences:
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| Young Child | Felt envy looking at my grandmother's feminine jewelry and features. |
| Young Adult | Began to internally identify as non-binary but presented to the world as a man. |
| Ongoing | Naturally began to look more feminine with age and weight loss, often being mistaken for a woman. |
| Ongoing | Told my mother I don't believe in gender theory and that I am "just me." |
| Ongoing | Found clarity through studying Samkhya philosophy and Buddhism. |
Top Comments by /u/GlobalImportance5295:
your comment pretty much explains why transgender ideology is a curse on women. men want to look like the "perfect" woman, they perpetuate the unrealistic standard. women who feel far from "perfect" think they'll have an easier time as a man. it's all the same play on women's insecurities taken to the extreme, and only perpetuates the same unrealistic standards.
feminism used to be about body positivity and equity for women. now it's about helping men pass as women and maintaining a fantasy "safe space" for them.
the rest of society sees the trans movement as people creating problems for themselves and then bitching about it when they don't get their way. no one on the left wants to take the gloves off and tell you all to stfu because of perceived backlash. none of you are civil rights activists. an undocumented mother and her child do not care about the trans community's self-created problems which can probably be more effectively dealt with standard therapy and Buddhism than whatever kool aid you sip from either side of the political isle.
so while many of us can say "this is reasonable" from trump, i guarantee you there are no real winners here.
study samkhya, it's how the orthodox dharmics view people and the world, and it's thousands of years older than Freud: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Samkhya
samkhya is sanskrit for "enumeration" implying it's a logical approach to metaphysics and psychology. you start from the basic principles and then "enumerate" to the more esoteric principles through reasoning.
don't take it as gospel, every branch of dharma has some commentary about proving or disproving some part of samkhya. but if your foundation is the samkhya perspective, nothing can take you out of it.
if understanding samkhya is too esoteric, try buddhism. understanding dharma will change how you view others.
women are subconsciously programmed to desire men who conform to the gender roles portrayed in disney movies and romance media. this grows into hyperfocus on their bodies and social submissiveness. the social submissiveness may stem from Abrahamism - i've always found it interesting in Genesis, God starts defining gender roles and acceptable ways of having children, practically immediately after creation. but these gender roles still exist in non-Abrahamic societies so it might be unfounded.
either way, MTF latch onto this psyop: this is why you see a lot of them obsessed with female anime characters and video game characters - they want to play the stereotypical female role as portrayed by traditionally male writers and male animators. many MTF are gay or have AGP and want a straight man to treat them like woman as stereotyped in the media.
FTM detrans ideally yoke themselves out of the pysop, and they are able to find support among fellow women. body positivity helps. internal reflection can help decrease the need to care about what men (and women with internalized misogyny) think. it's easy to delete instagram, unfollow all the beauty / makeup / fitness youtubers, etc.
MTF detrans are pathologically latched onto the psyop.
i used quotes on purpose. that is what everyone is striving for. the closer one is to the "perfect" image, the closer one is to passing. goes to show why many MtFs are often misogynistic, being an "ugly woman" doesn't count to them. it completely invalidates the experience of many women. there are women on this thread stating OP passes as an ugly woman, but OP is clearly not happy with it. do you see what i mean? don't nitpick what I am saying, i am sure you understand what I mean
i internally identify as NB, externally identify as a man for all intents and purposes, but i look more and more feminine as i get older (lost fat especially in my face, was pretty lanky to begin with) - to the point that delivery drivers and cashiers have called me "ma'am" even when my beard grows out a little bit. my hair goes below my shoulders and i wear it in a ponytail often out of convenience. i walked into the mens bathroom at the airport recently and i got looks of surprise for a second.
i always remember the way my grandma adorned her face in feminine gold+diamond jewelry which is common among religious hindus (the jewelry is usually passed down to daughters and daughters-in-law). i would always gaze at her features enviously when i was young. once i can afford it, i intend to get the same piercings and "feminine" jewelry like she did.
my mom recently asked me if i'm "trying to be a woman" and i told her "i literally do not care about gender theory, i don't believe in any of it. i'm just me. whatever anyone else sees me as, i don't care."
replace incel with denial ... but i guess studies seem to agree with you
https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/27858199/
Men with GAMP were equally attracted to natal women and GAMs, on average. Thus, GAMP is best considered an unusual form of heterosexuality rather than a separate sexual orientation. Indeed, men with GAMP scored much higher than controls on a measure of autogynephilia, or sexual arousal by the idea or fantasy of being a woman, which is also considered a variant of heterosexual attraction.
people with AGP will sacrifice normal cishet relations to get validation from someone who treats them like a woman, but the majority of hetero men are immediately turned off by the idea of being with natal men.
Are there any subreddits that haven’t been shut down to have more of a dialogue like this?
no, the blitz against "TERFs" pretty much killed this line of dialogue. i follow the genspect youtube channel which has good talking points, but there's a huge lack of diversity in their community which is unfortunate. it's mainly just old white people who talk sense about gender but have other conservative qualities that inadvertently gatekeep the community.