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About me
I was a girl who felt a deep dread about growing up and becoming a woman. I thought my discomfort with female stereotypes meant I wasn't female, so I identified as trans. I eventually realized my struggle was with internalized misogyny and a hatred of the sexism I saw in the world. I learned that I can be a gender non-conforming woman and that my body was never the problem. Now I accept myself as female and am critical of a system that offered medical transition without exploring the root causes of my distress.
My detransition story
My journey with transition and detransition was long and complicated, and it all started with a deep discomfort I felt from a very young age, long before puberty. I was a girl who never fit the stereotypes. I hated the idea of developing breasts and getting my period; I actually cried about it. I felt like there was a wrong way to be a girl, and since I didn't act like other girls, I thought that meant I wasn't one. I now realize my biggest struggle was with internalized misogyny. I hated being female because I hated the inequality and the danger that came with it in our society. I thought my feelings meant I was non-binary or trans.
I spent a long time soul-searching, trying to find a label that fit. I eventually came to a powerful realization: being gender non-conforming is just part of being human. Gender roles are made up. There is no right way to be a woman or a lesbian. My behavior doesn't make me less female; it just makes me me. I learned that I could act however I wanted and still be a woman. I came to understand that external misogyny—the sexism in the world—shouldn't dictate how I feel about my own body.
This was a hard truth to arrive at, especially because talking about it now often gets me labeled as transphobic. It feels like the trans community only allows for 100% affirmation, 100% of the time, with zero room to question anything or talk about the downsides and dangers. When people like me, who have detransitioned, speak up about our experiences, we are often silenced and told we were "never trans in the first place." Our very existence is seen as a threat. But we need to be able to talk about this. The medical system failed me and so many others by not thoroughly exploring other reasons for our distress, like trauma, internalized homophobia, or simply not conforming to stereotypes.
I see this happening a lot with autistic young people, who are socially awkward and impressionable. They struggle to fit in, and the trans community offers them an identity and a sense of belonging. It becomes like a religion; it doesn't matter if the core idea is true, they just want to belong somewhere, even if it's harmful. I also believe many young girls are being pushed to transition by adults because they don't act like stereotypical girls. The trans movement has, in my opinion, erased decades of feminist progress by once again tying personality and preferences to gender stereotypes.
I don't regret exploring my identity, but I deeply regret that I was led to believe that changing my body was the only solution to my discomfort. I am thankful that I never pursued medical interventions like hormones or surgery, as I now see the serious and permanent consequences they can have, including infertility and other health complications. My journey taught me to accept my body for what it is and to fight against the sexist ideas that made me hate it in the first place.
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| Before Puberty | Felt deep dread and cried about the prospect of developing breasts and menstruating. Hated the idea of becoming a woman. |
| Teen Years | Struggled with not conforming to female stereotypes. Believed this meant I was not truly female and began identifying as non-binary/trans. |
| Early 20s | Went through extensive soul-searching, trying to find a label that fit my identity. |
| Mid-Late 20s | Realized my discomfort stemmed from internalized misogyny and a hatred of societal inequality, not from being born in the wrong body. Understood that gender non-conformity is natural and that I could be a butch lesbian and still be female. |
| Present Day | Accepted my body and my female sex. I speak out about my detransition experience and advocate for better mental health screening before medical transition. |
Top Comments by /u/Gloomy-Eyed:
One of the reasons is that the trans community is trying to hide the true detrans stat because it shines a stark light on the reality of why transition happens and why detrans is common.
If we speak up and tell our truth and our experience, it's a direct contradiction to what TRAs are screaming about, and anything that isn't 100000% supporting their false rhetoric is labeled phobic. Ergo our very existence is considered phobic to them.
Fr fr they hate us for showing the world, by just existing, that their parroted lines are lies.
They are socially awkward and very impressionable.
When they struggle to fit in bc of their autism, the trans community comes in a grooms them into thinking their struggles must be transness and they unfortunately fall for it.
Much like when the religious find community with a church. It doesn't matter that what binds them isn't true, they just want somewhere to belong, even if it's harmful.
This sounds outlandish and unbelievable.
If you didn't transition how are you being mistaken as amab?
Why do you feel the need to validate people online to the point of sharing legal documents and taking photos of your genitals?
I can't really believe any of this happened and that it was from a terf. Sounds more like (if this is real), someone was trolling you hard in order to get you to debase yourself in this way.
Idk what you're doing with this post, but just block those people and move on.
What a terrible take. Detrans have the same level of say in trans issues as anyone else in the trans community. We're a part of this community, and just because our existence makes you uncomfortable and makes you question your identity, it doesn't invalidate us or make us phobic.
All this.
Detrans shows the painful reality the trans community would like to pretend doesn't exist.
It has to be 100% affirmation 100% of the time with ZERO room to question or discuss the cons.
Anything less is labeled transphobic/terf.
And all detrans get told they were "never trans in the first place"
The trans community are themselves being phobic and refuse to see that.
That's using regressive and sexist stereotypes to assign gender to a brain that is expressing normal personality traits and preferences.
I hate the way the trans movement has erased and set back the decades of feminism fighting against sexist stereotypes.
I've come to find through my experiences that GNC is just being human. Gender roles and stereotypes are a social construct and there's no "right" way to be female (or lesbian). Behavior counter to stereotypes doesn't make me or any woman less female, it just makes us different, nuanced, deep, individual.
My biggest struggles were with not conforming to stereotypes and internalizing rampant societal misogyny. Thinking "I don't 'act' like a girl and I hate being one, ergo must be gnc/nb/trans." I went through a lot of soul searching trying to find what fit me best. Much much later learning I hated being female and my female body because I hated the inequality, the danger, etc of just existing as a female. And these thoughts started before puberty. I dreaded and cried over the prospect of developing breasts and menstruating, and it took me decades to get where I'm at now.
Once I recognized that and that I could act however I want and I'll still be me, still be female (like being butch lesbian), and come to terms with external misogyny shouldn't dictate how I feel about my body.
It's not easy, especially when arriving at these personal truths gets you labeled txrf, and now suddenly when you're not longer struggling and can accept your body, this must mean you turned phxbic. I don't get it, and I'm sorry you're facing it too.
Being critical is not phobic, but holy shit do we get shat on either way.
Detrans get silenced by being called phobic, simply for existing as detrans. So is it that we're actually phobic, or just being labeled as such by the trans community so we'll shut up about our experiences?
I hear you, but I also wonder if there are better coping skills for your dysphoria that don't include ripping skin and muscle from you own limbs to fashion a non-functional phallus. That's a lot to go through with many complications and dissatisfied results to only /maybe/ help with your dysphoria.
I'm confused by this. I have been in many communities where detrans have used that language and similar language to describe their bodies. If they themselves are using this language, who are you to tell them they're wrong? They are still valid when choosing these words for themselves. (I am not repeating these words out of respect for your feelings on the matter)