This story is from the comments by /u/Hardwired-666 that are listed below, summarised with AI.
User Authenticity Assessment: Not Suspicious
Based on the provided comments, there are no serious red flags indicating that the "Hardwired-666" account is inauthentic, a bot, or not a real detransitioner/desister.
The user's comments display a high degree of consistency, personal detail, and nuanced engagement with complex topics over a sustained period. They share a detailed personal history of gender dysphoria, desistance, and the reasoning behind their views. Their passion and strong criticism of transgender healthcare and ideology are consistent with the genuine anger and trauma that can be present in individuals who feel harmed by their experiences. The account behaves like a real person with a deeply held, consistent worldview.
About me
I’m a masculine female who, from age five, felt a deep discomfort with being a girl and became convinced I was a boy inside. My family’s refusal to affirm me as male was painful then, but it saved me from medical intervention I now believe I would have regretted. I’ve realized my distress was a mental discomfort rooted in internalized stereotypes and not an innate identity. I accept that I am female and always will be, and while a low level of dysphoria remains, it is manageable. I now live honestly as a masculine woman, free from the exhausting idea that I had to become a man to be myself.
My detransition story
My journey with gender started when I was very young, around five years old. I created a boy version of myself in my head and became obsessed with the idea that he was the real me. I started referring to my body as if it were male and tried my best to fit into the male social role, which felt natural to me because I had always been masculine in my behavior and preferred boys' clothes and toys. The female role made me deeply uncomfortable.
This feeling of being a boy stuck with me for years. I remember fighting with my mom to let me go topless while swimming, insisting I was a boy, and feeling a rush of joy when she gave in. But that happiness was always temporary. The distress would always return when I was reminded that my body was female and I didn't have a penis. This was a deep, persistent discomfort that I now understand was gender dysphoria.
As I got older, especially during my teen years, the intensity of these feelings lessened a bit. I was no longer constantly obsessed with being a boy, but the underlying discomfort was always there. When I discovered the concept of being transgender as a teenager, it felt like an answer. I jumped on that idea quickly, seeing it as a way to finally become who I felt I was supposed to be. I wanted to socially transition and be seen as a boy.
However, I was never able to medically transition. My family was not affirming; when I told my mom I was a boy, she said "no you're not." At the time, that was incredibly painful and sad. But now, looking back, I see that this lack of affirmation and the inaccessibility of medical intervention actually saved me. It forced me to confront my biological reality. I started to realize that no matter what I did, I could never actually become male. My body would never function like a male body; the best I could hope for was to look like one, which felt like playing pretend.
This realization was a major turning point for me. I began to understand that my desire to be male was rooted in a mental discomfort, not in some innate "male brain." I started to question the whole idea of "gender identity." I came to accept that I am female and always will be, even though a part of my brain still sometimes expects me to become a man. The dysphoria is still there as a kind of background noise—a weirdness and occasional discomfort, especially in social situations—but it's manageable. It's a disappointment that I can't be male, but it's a disappointment I can live with.
A huge part of my journey involved unpacking my internalized ideas about gender roles and sexism. I realized that a lot of my distress was tied to society's expectations of what it means to be a woman. I had to learn to separate my female body from those stereotypes. I still dress and act in a very masculine way; I just don't try to hide my sex anymore. I'm honest about being female with people I get close to because trying to live a lie was exhausting and complicated my life in ways I didn't want.
I also believe that my being autistic played a role. I think autistic people often don't pick up on social cues in the same way, which might make us more likely to be gender non-conforming because we don't absorb societal gender norms as easily. This isn't because gendered behaviors are innate, but because they are socially constructed, and our brains interact with those constructions differently.
I have serious regrets about the time I spent identifying as trans. I feel like I wasted years of my life believing I was a boy trapped in a girl's body when I could have been working on real solutions for my discomfort. I am deeply skeptical of the current push for medical transition, especially for children, because the long-term data on its effectiveness and safety is so poor. I believe most kids with gender identity issues grow out of them, and affirming them as the opposite sex can prevent that natural process. I needed to go through my natural puberty to overcome my issues.
My thoughts on gender are that it is largely a social construct. The only real, immutable difference between men and women is biological sex. "Man" and "woman" are just words for adult human males and females. I don't believe in an innate "gender identity." I see gender dysphoria as a mental disorder that can have various causes and can change in intensity over a person's life. It is not a life sentence, and medical transition is not a cure-all; it's an experimental treatment with serious risks.
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| 5 | First remember creating a male identity and insisting I was a boy. |
| 5+ | Fought to be treated as a boy, including wanting to go topless. |
| Teen Years | Intensity of dysphoria lessened. Discovered concept of being transgender. |
| Teen Years | Wanted to socially transition; family was not affirming. |
| 22 (Present) | Have desisted. No longer identify as trans. Accept being female, though dysphoria persists as manageable discomfort. |
Top Reddit Comments by /u/Hardwired-666:
There's definitely trans women who live in this world as women, who may have dicks.
No there aren't. They live in the world pretending to be women, but they aren't actually living as a woman. There's more to living as a woman than current social perception.
And you really can't "meet people in the middle here" because once you change the definition of "woman" to include some men, you open the door to all men who wish to be considered women, including Jessica Yaniv. There's just no objective way to distinguish him from so-called "true transwomen". Presence or absence of predatory behaviour doesn't cut. The line has to be drawn at biology, otherwise either the line doesn't exist at all, or all masculine women are excluded, and both are problematic.
I wouldn't want Kim Petras to have to be in the men's room, she's a trans woman who definitely moves through life as womanly as any.
No he doesn't, he moves through life as a highly feminized man. I'm able to recognize this, because I'm not a sexist. Try it.
I'm saying socially they move through the world as women. Google Kim Petras, really look at her, and tell me she doesn't know what misogyny feels like.
I did google pictures of him. It doesn't matter what he looks like, he's still a man. It's all makeup and feminine clothing anyway. And no, he does not know really know what misogyny feels like, at least not in the way actual women do. Misogyny, for one thing, is defining women by femininity, and insisting that his feminine appearance puts him in that category. Do you know how fucking dysphoria-inducing that is?? It may not be for you, but for some of us, it really fucking is.
And I only questioned you because your flair says desisted, which I thought meant something different than detransitioned.
Well I didn't medically transition, but I did socially transition. That's what desisted means. It's obviously not the same, but it is a transition, and I still wasted years believing I was a boy trapped in a girl's body when I could've been finding real solutions to my gender dysphoria.
I don't think they're all phonies who need to just love themselves. I don't think they're all boogeymen here to take over female spaces and whatnot.
I don't think either of those things, either. But it doesn't change the fact that men aren't women, no matter how feminine they are.
they still get to experience and empathize with the natal experience
But they can't, and many don't. Pretending otherwise doesn't help anything. There's so much more to the experience of a woman than what you look like and how feminine you are.
The thing you need to understand is that many women do not accept, and feel offended by, the redefining of "woman" to some meaningless at best, sexist at worst, mumbo jumbo and making it about some magical, innate "womanliness" that men can just "feel on the inside" as opposed to a class one is born into.
The only real difference between men and women is our biological sex, which is immutable. Literally the only thing that makes me a woman and not a man is being biologically female, and the fact that I am female is something that I have spent a lifetime coming to terms with and am still working on. I don't have any innate drive to "identify or be seen as a woman/girl" and I never have. I've wanted to be and be seen as boy/man for most of my life, and I'm still working on fixing that. I've tried identifying as trans, mostly because at the time I believed the narrative that people who wish the were/feel like they should be the opposite sex are truly the opposite sex "on the inside" and there's no way around that but it didn't help me and only made things worse because, NEWSFLASH, I'm not male and can't ever be, and so reaffirming that I was truly "meant to be" is just not helpful at all. I also don't want the trans life and was and still am very frustrated that there was hardly ever any talk about this, the fact that spending your life trying to live as something you're biologically not FUCKING SUCKS and so I now believe we should be finding real treatments for this mental health disorder rather than encouraging playing pretend. No "transwoman" could ever possibly have that experience or feel that way, since THEY ALREADY ARE FUCKING MALE but choose to try to "live as female" which is so much the opposite of my experience, so NO, they do NOT share any "gender identity" with me or experience the same bullshit I do for being female and the very notion is absurd.
Also, I think it's really awful and entitled that trans people protested this event and shut it down. It's the mindset of "if I'm not allowed at the party, then the party shouldn't happen" which is so fucking selfish and immature, and it's especially awful and selfish and entitled that they were protesting the existence of an event designed for people with the experience of living in a female body, which is a real fucking thing and comes with its own legitimate issues that women have been fighting to solve for FUCKING CENTURIES and was, and is, a battle that was forced on them BECAUSE OF THE CLASS THEY WERE BORN INTO, and not something one just chooses to live through or can identify into, to finally be able to attend a music festival free of male violence. There was absolutely no problem with the existence of such a festival(especially since they used the honour system, so GNC women wouldn't get accused of being men and pushed out, and so the trans crowd couldn't use them as pawns in their anti-woman crusade like they normally do with bathrooms and such) and people need to wake the fuck up and realize that reversing the rights that an oppressed group fought for and denying that same group the right to even define themselves is what's hateful
That's what I think of this as a desisted person.
It's really interesting how, in their attempts to get rid of the "gender binary," they've created yet another binary: men and non-men. It really makes wonder if these people are just completely fucking dense, or if it's their goal to erase women.
Also, as you pointed out in the video, if you say that a transman can be a lesbian, they will call you transphobic. So it would seem their new definition is either against their own ideology, or is just as "exclusionary" and "gatekeepy" as the old one.
I wonder who started this whole fiasco, then?
Maybe if men would've just respected women's boundaries from the beginning, and women didn't at all have to worry about men coming into their spaces, we wouldn't be in this miss.
But what astounds me here is the people who seem to think that redefining "woman" to mean "anyone who 'looks like' a woman," which is quite subjective, by the way, will actually make this better. No. It's making this a thousand times worse.
It sounds like your doctor is having trouble processing the evidence that her religion, the one that she's medicalizing physically healthy patients over, is fundamentally flawed.
“You decided you wanted to be a man as firmly as You’re deciding now that you want to be a woman”
It seems she doesn't understand how a person can be firm about wanting to be the opposite sex, and then change their mind later and want to accept their physical reality. "But but but... if you want to be the opposite sex, that means you have an opposite sex gender identity, and gender identity is a fixed, intrinsic part of everyone... that's what we're supposed to believe, because if we don't, we could lose our licence."
This is what happens when ideology sweeps into medicine.
Sorry for your experience. You're making a healthy decision to do what's best for you, to become okay with your natural body rather than risk your health for cosmetic changes, and your doctor should be understanding of that and realize that people change their perspectives on things and change their minds about what they want all the time.
The hypocrisy is clear. Gender feelings are only valid when you consider yourself trans. Any other feelings are wrong, apparently.
It's because the nature of trans ideology is not just about any individual person - it literally makes assertions about everyone on the planet. The whole premise rests on everyone having a "true inner sex," your "gender identity" that is supposed to be "who you truly are" and remains constant throughout your life.
But this idea is bullshit, and our existence is direct evidence of that. That's why it bothers them when we talk about our experience - we directly show that trans ideology simple does not reflect the reality of human nature. But many trans people's identities rest on trans ideology. They know deep down that it's really unstable, and that's incredibly uncomfortable for them, and so they lash out at anything that even remotely threatens it. It's why many activists work tirelessly to hide our existence, and why the one's who actually do acknowledge us require we use very specific words to describe our existence(saying we were never "truly trans" in the first place).
I don't believe in "non-binary" or even "true trans," as in someone truly being something "on the inside," for that matter and think we're all just male and female people(defined in the biological sense) and "gender identity" is a meaningless concept that only complicates things and reinforces stereotypes, but "non-binary" honestly is just term people have recently made up that has no clear meaning other than "not fully a man or a woman" but the definitions of "man" and "woman" have been twisted to the point of being virtually meaningless, and under these knew definitions I really don't even know anymore what a man is or what a woman is, and I really don't see how anyone could, so how could anyone know what being a man, being a woman, or not being fully either is? "Non-binary" is not socially defined, so there's really know clear image of it, so how could anyone really identify with it?
Now, did you actually feel "connected to womanhood" before? If so, why did you start identifying as non-binary? And what did it feel like? What kinds of things strengthened or weakened the feeling? Are there things that give you a similar feeling? If so, I would suggest looking there for how to get it back.
Finally, why do you feel the need to "feel like" anything? Why can't you just... be? You're just you, you have your biological sex, which can't be changed, and although it can affect certain aspects of your life, and your experiences, it doesn't say anything about who you are as a person. It's just there, and the only thing it determines is the way your body functions and your role in reproduction(not child-rearing, just conception).
That's transitioning, and it's not harmless. Research suggests that makes it harder for kids overcome their gender identity issues, and I can personally testify that I needed to not be affirmed and to go through my natural puberty to overcome mine. If I had been put on blockers, I really don't think I would have.
Please, please at least post-pone your surgery. If you're already having doubts, it would be very foolish not to listen to them.
You can always get the surgery later, but you can't go back and undo it. Once your breasts are gone, they're gone, and you can't ever have them back.
If you're having feelings that you like your breasts then having them be gone forever is not a good thing for you. You would very likely regret it. Don't do it. You shouldn't do anything as extreme as cutting off your healthy breasts if you're not absolutely certain this is the best thing for you.