Also...how is that an appropriate thought for a 13 year old girl? I know that we all develop at different rates etc but why did they not question the fact that a 13 year old child is asking about things she shouldn't have very much comprehension nor idea about yet? Let alone thinking about making changes to herself to ACHIEVE these physical processes?

Never mind how laughably out-of-touch your 13 year old self was...the fact that they didn't delve into why you were having thoughts that were quite sexually advanced and graphic just blows my mind, really.

That being said, I had similar levels of childlike (and mentally ill) cluelessness when I started transition. It really is absurd that we were not just allowed to go down this path, but encouraged to.

They called it dead naming for a reason. The reason it's called deadnaming is because your son is dead. So my son Xavier is dead. Killed by the woke mind virus.

I'm glad he mentioned it as I was going to say it myself - "deadnaming" is called that because people do try to kill their former selves. This speaks to the concept that a lot of "trans people" deeply dislike themselves and try to rebuild a new version of themselves using transition as a medium. It's not that people are "born in the wrong body" and thus they're just trying to "live authentically", it's that they have zero self esteem and a bunch of self hatred to boot and so they'd rather kill that version of themselves and try become someone or something else instead of trying to overcome the reasons why they feel so negatively about themselves.

My observation and subsequent opinion is this;

It differs quite substantially for MTF's vs FTM's. The MTF's are more often than not AGP, and what tends to happen with this group of people is they create a sex based persona of the "ideal woman" based entirely on what they find attractive as straight males and then proceed to become that persona, and in doing so they have to kill their male identity as the two can't really coexist as they're at odds.

For FTM's it often stems from a place of trauma, internalised misogyny and internalised homophobia which leads to a deep sense of self hatred and very low self esteem. The new identity doesn't come from a place of sexual desire but from a place of wanting to be anything other than female due to all the negative feelings attached to being seen as female by others. A lot of non-AGP MTF's actually follow this line of thinking also. The idea is to kill that former self that is viewed negatively or in a way you just don't like in favour of a new identity based on ideals and how you wish to be perceived by others.

I don't believe we often think about this on a conscious level whilst we're undergoing these changes, in my experience it's a very sub-conscious thing rather than an overtly thought out "plan of action". It only becomes clear to us what was actually happening after we've snapped out of it and developed the mental clarity that comes with maturity and age.

Of course these are just trends I've noticed and so there will always be outliers.

People are no longer encouraged to learn to love themselves, they're encouraged to change themselves into something that they find easier to love.

They always hit back with the;- "You can't identify as (insert oppressed race) because they're oppressed!" yet they'll proudly proclaim themselves to be a staunch 3rd wave feminist and proceed to bang on and on about women being "oppressed under patriarchy", so why then can a man identify as a woman if women are oppressed by men? The level of mental gymnastics that they have to do to ignore or justify that is astronomical.

"You'll never understand the struggles of x y or z oppressed class!" yet, a man can understand what it's like to be a woman merely because he "identifies" as one? The fact that Western society decided to actually listen to these aggressively stupid nutjobs really does blow my mind.

nobody seems to actually be concerned for the potential fetus but instead they’re worried about confirming the trans woman’s feelings

I once had to argue with an MTF about this issue. This person seemed to have absolutely no concern for the unborn baby, despite being made aware of the insane number of potential things that could (and likely would) go wrong during such a ridiculous and dystopian procedure. Nothing I said mattered, he just wanted to experience pregnancy because "it was important to him" and that is all that mattered. The level of selfishness, self indulgence and straight up narcissism exhibited by some of these people can be absolutely off the charts.

This is less about fetishing childbirth specifically and more a case of fetishing everything associated with women, and childbirth is the ultimate female only thing, so a lot of them do fixate on it as a "goal" or a "wish". I've said it before, but if it were a "woman thing" to walk around with an eye-patch and a peg leg they'd fetishise that, too. If it's associated with women they're drawn to it.

"Why do they have to make it their whole personality?"

First of all, the irony? Secondly, detransitioners don't make it "their whole personality" for fun, we're outspoken and relentless because we know what it's like to suffer through the dysphoria and delusions that lead (some) people to transition and we'd like to help prevent others from going down that same path to self destruction. If it takes "making detransition my whole personality" to plant seeds of rationality and sense into the head of a young dysphoric gay male then that's what I'll do.

"I tolerate the detransgenders"

Who are you to tolerate anyone? No one needs your permission for anything, especially not when it comes to this topic. The phrase "the lunatics are running the asylum" springs to mind. We don't need the permission of anyone to announce our existence and speak on this topic, because frankly, a bit of sanity wouldn't go a miss these days and we certainly won't be getting it from the "trans community".

I'm going to have to be the arsehole here as I don't feel like it's being addressed hardly at all: You have children.

Transitioning now AFTER making the decision to have children would be the most self indulgent and unfair thing to do. When you're young, single and childless you have a lot more freedom to do whatever you want to yourself as it's only you who has to suffer the consequences. Conversely, when you make the decision to bring children into this world they then depend on you, and warping their reality by attempting to morph into their 2nd mother all because you like "feminine decore" and "womens clothing" is frankly unjustifiable, in my opinion.

As males, we have no idea what it is to "feel like a woman" because we aren't women. Women are women and men are men, none of us "feel" like what we are, we just ARE what we are. We can convince and delude ourselves that we "feel like the opposite sex" by thinking things like "I like dresses and pink, therefore I feel like a woman" but that's simply not true. A woman who likes trucks, football and fast cars is no more a man than you are a woman for liking feminine activities and the colour pink.

You "feel like a woman" because you associate pink, feminine mannerisms and "girly things" with women because that's how women typically are, but those things aren't limited to women nor are women limited to them.

It's very easy to build up a false sense of self, especially if you've done it since childhood, but that doesn't mean it's an innate "gender soul" nor does it give anyone a free pass to transition as though it's "medically necessary" and thus above reproach.

I have a strong urge to behave and act like a woman, dress like a woman, and embrace feminine energy and emotions. I love girly things, pink color, feminine decor

Behave and act like a woman? What does that mean to you?

I hope you don't take offense to this suggestion, but I'd strongly urge you to look into the phenomenon of autogynephilia as in my (relatively experienced) opinion it could be something you're experiencing/suffering from.

it's really difficult for me to see myself as a man.

You don't have to see yourself as man, you just are one and that's it. You don't need to have a strong male identity or walk around in tartan shirts and chop wood with an axe. You are just you and you have your likes and dislikes, but neither of those things make you a man or a woman - they're just simply facets of your personality.

I do apologise if this comes across as coarse or aggressive but I couldn't not express my opinion on this topic.

Are you serious? The person in question is claiming to have PERIOD CRAMPS despite not having a uterus to actually contract to cause said cramps. If you "have a lot of women in your life" then you owe it to them to cut through bullshit like this and defend them when men try and muscle in on their struggles, just like the person in the screenshot is doing.

It doesn't matter how much oestrogen you take, the male body isn't going to start behaving as though it's a menstruating female. Breast growth happens to a male body, sure, but period cramps do not. This is a very clear example of someone with a fetish who's enjoying the idea of "going through female struggles". I'm sure next he'll be complaining about how often he gets catcalled in the street and how scared he is walking down dark alleys on his own at night.

This likely will "smell like terf fantasy" for someone who zealously believes trans ideology, though it would be obvious to anyone with a fully functioning brain that OP is actually suffering, but the fact that that didn't occur to you and instead your knee-jerk reaction was to assume it was "terf fantasy" is very telling.

If you're right and it is "terf fantasy", then what? Boo-hoo, a "terf" made a post, but if you're wrong then you've just rubbed salt in an absolutely mighty wound all for the sake of making sure you're parroting "the right opinion". All I know is that a decent person would have erred on the side of caution and kept their thoughts to themselves on this one.

I get hormonal cycles mirroring an ovarian and menstrual cycle

You do, do you? Your estrogen and progesterone suddenly drop despite taking the same dose every day? That's a miraculous feat of the body, to be able to ignore the consistent dosage of hormones you're force-feeding it...

I mean, it's not like estrogen based birth control is specifically designed to trick the body into not going through the menstrual cycle or anything.

A very (very) significant portion of "trans" women are autogynephilic, and so a lot of the material you see from them will be coming directly from their autogynephilia. It's a very powerful thing, as most kinks/fetishes are, and so it does prompt quite intense sexual behaviour.

Sure, not all of them are AGP but we need not delude ourselves here, the majority of this sexualised behaviour undoubtedly comes from the autosexual/AGP people.