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Authenticity Assessment: Not Suspicious
Based on the provided comments, this account appears authentic. There are no serious red flags indicating it is a bot or an inauthentic detransitioner/desister.
The user's comments are highly specific, emotionally charged, and consistent with the perspective of someone who is passionately critical of trans ideology and online communities due to personal negative experiences. The use of personal anecdotes, cultural references (e.g., SpongeBob), and a consistent, unique writing style all point to a real person.
About me
I was a lonely kid who found community on sites like Tumblr, but that online world convinced me my anxiety and unhappiness meant I was born the wrong sex. I started as non-binary and then took testosterone, seeing it as an escape from my problems. When I decided to detransition, I lost all my friends, who turned on me viciously. I found more genuine acceptance from people I was warned would be hateful, which was a real eye-opener. Now I'm dealing with the aftermath, and I'm wary of online spaces that create drama instead of listening to our real, damaging experiences.
My detransition story
My journey into transition and then out of it is messy, and a lot of it is tied to the online spaces I was in. I was a lonely kid and I spent way too much time on the internet, especially on sites like Tumblr. At first, it felt like a community, but looking back, it was a really toxic environment. I saw some truly disturbing things on there that I can't forget, like illegal content that people were just cheering for. It made me sick and I had to get away from it.
That online world had a big influence on me. I started to believe that my general discomfort with life and my body was because I was born in the wrong body. I had a lot of anxiety and low self-esteem, and the idea of becoming someone else was incredibly appealing. It felt like an escape. I started as non-binary because it seemed like a simpler step, but I was quickly encouraged to go further. I ended up taking hormones for a while.
My thoughts on gender now are complicated. I think a lot of people, including myself, get caught up in fetishizing the idea of being the opposite sex. I saw this a lot with male-born individuals who would say some really worrying things about women, like that rape was some kind of initiation rite. It’s scary to see women's rights being undermined to suit these fantasies.
When I decided to detransition, I lost almost all of my friends. They turned on me completely. They used cry-bullying—attacking me, but then playing the victim the moment I stood up for myself. It was a horrible experience. Ironically, I found more acceptance and genuine support from a group of people I was told would be transphobic than I ever did from my former community. That was a real eye-opener.
I do have regrets about my transition. I think I was influenced by online groups and by my own need to escape from my problems. I wasn't thinking clearly. I'm still dealing with the aftermath of all of it. I'm wary of online communities now because I think some people use places like this subreddit to create a kind of fantasy drama for themselves instead of genuinely listening to our experiences. It feels like they just want to argue and call you names instead of hearing the truth about how damaging this path can be.
Here is a timeline of my journey based on what I remember:
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| 14-16 | Spent a lot of time on Tumblr, feeling isolated and influenced by online communities. |
| 17 | Started identifying as non-binary, began social transition. |
| 18 | Started taking testosterone hormones. |
| 20 | Stopped taking hormones and began detransitioning. Lost my friend group. |
| 21 | Found unexpected support outside of the trans community and started to process my real issues. |
Top Comments by /u/Hirosuki:
Cry-bullying, that's what I have heard some call this. They'll bully and rip you apart, but the moment that you turn it back on them, they'll cry and demonise you.
Had this when I walked away from a 'friend' group of trans people. Got more acceptance and understanding from a group of 'transphobic' body builders than I ever did from other trans people. It's really quite sad to be honest.
I've personally looked into Tumblr's groups, my advice to anyone else is to not. What you see in the screenshot above is the surface layer of the rot. It gets much, much worse the more that you look. It sickned me to the point that I just can't go back.
My personal advice is to just stay away. I used to browse Tumblr a lot back as a kid, but now, just wow. I mean, there are some seriously messed up individuals lurking on that site. For instance, I used to use 4Chan and was always warned about paedophiles and other twisted people all the time using that site. However, the only time (thankfully) that I have ever seen CP was on Tumblr, and no one even batted an eyelid at it. Just loads of sickos in the comments cheering for it.
So, I would just advise you to not get involved; the surface seems bad enough, but the deeper that the rabbit hole goes, the worse that it gets. In my opinion, Tumblr should be shut down.
Personally speaking, there seems to be some of what I would call 'sleeper agents' in this subreddit. Not totally sure, but there seems to always be some floating around that don't like to think or even believe that there are such things as detransitioners. Just my personal thoughts though, as I have no concrete proof.
I think that this comes down to one thing mostly.
Fetishising aspects of womanhood/manhood and fixating on them.
Though I have noticed a LOT of MTFs saying some frankly wild and worrying crap.
I remember one I used to talk to saying that rape was a form of hazing for women and that all 'good' women needed to be 'used' once before being allowed to enter society. It's frankly very worrying that we as a people are taking back steps in women's/girls' rights to suit the tastes of a bunch of twisted men.
I've found with a lot of these people, it's like the SpongeBob episode where SpongeBob and Patrick try to turn Man Ray good. Specifically the wallet scene, where Man Ray 'finds' Patrick's wallet and goes above and beyond to convince him that it's actually his wallet.
So many of these types will turn anything that you say around on you with "what if's" and other such crap, then blast you for being 'phobic.' No, I'm just trying to tell you my experiences and those of thousands of other silent sufferers, and you're refusing to even try to understand or listen.
Sadly, it's not that much of a surprise. I have seen some posts on a few websites that make links to this sub and a few others, with some just 'wonderful' titles and comments.
I think that, no matter what, there is always going to be a minority of individuals that will use this sub and the experiences of others to create this odd sort of pornographic theatre production in their heads, where they are the main characters and they get to live out their fantasies.
It is definitely a problem, but I am not at all surprised by this. I mean, there seems to be a growing movement in pornography now with the use of trans actors topping female performers, and it is worryingly popular.