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About me
I was born female and my discomfort started with puberty, when I hated the changes in my body. I was influenced by online communities to believe I was trans, and I transitioned to male with hormones and surgery. I now have serious health problems and am infertile, which I deeply regret. Through therapy, I realized my real issues were autism and trauma, not being trans. I am now learning to live as a woman again, finally addressing the root of my pain.
My detransition story
My journey with all of this is complicated, and it's taken me a long time to understand my own feelings. I was born female, and from a young age, I felt a deep discomfort with my body, especially when I hit puberty. I hated developing breasts; it felt alien and wrong. I also struggled with depression, anxiety, and very low self-esteem. I now understand that I am autistic, though I wasn't diagnosed until later, and a lot of my feelings were tied up in that. The world felt overwhelming, and being a girl felt like a performance I was failing at.
I found a lot of community online that explained these feelings as being "trans." It made sense at the time. I started identifying as non-binary first, and then later as a trans man. It felt like an escape from the pressures of being a woman. I was heavily influenced by what I saw online and by friends who were on similar paths. I think there was also an element of internalised homophobia; the idea of being a lesbian was scarier to me than the idea of being a man.
I took testosterone for several years and had top surgery. I don't want to go into graphic detail about medical detransition, but I will say that I have serious health complications from the hormones and the surgery. I am also now infertile, which is a profound loss that I wasn't properly prepared for. At the time, I was so sure it was the right path that I dismissed any risks.
My perspective on gender has completely changed. I no longer believe I was ever a man. I believe I was a woman with a lot of trauma, body dysmorphia, and social confusion, who was looking for a solution to deep-seated pain. I benefited greatly from non-affirming therapy that helped me address my underlying issues like autism, OCD, and the depression, rather than just affirming my gender identity. I've come to see my transition as a form of escapism.
I absolutely have regrets about transitioning. I regret the permanent changes to my body and the health problems I now live with. I regret not getting help for my real problems sooner.
My experience has also shaped how I see other people's transitions, especially trans lesbians. I knew two trans lesbians, one who was my flatmate. After he came out, his behaviour changed completely. He started going into graphic detail about sexual fantasies that felt like they were straight out of lesbian porn made for men. He started hitting on me, and it made me feel gross, like I was just a pawn in his fetish. It didn't feel like a genuine lesbian experience; it felt like a performance based on a male gaze. I had a similar experience with another trans lesbian who befriended me. It made me feel like my sexuality was being fetishised. It’s made me very critical of how femininity and lesbianism are sometimes reduced to a stereotype by people who were socialised as male.
I am now trying to just live as myself, a woman, without any labels. It's a difficult path, but I'm finally dealing with the root causes of my pain instead of masking them.
Here is a timeline of my journey:
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| 13 | Started puberty; felt intense discomfort and hated my developing breasts. |
| 16 | Began struggling with depression, anxiety, and low self-esteem. Found online communities discussing being trans. |
| 17 | Came out as non-binary, influenced by online friends and a desire to escape womanhood. |
| 19 | Started identifying as a trans man and began taking testosterone. |
| 21 | Underwent top surgery. |
| 23 | Realised I was autistic and began non-affirming therapy for underlying issues. |
| 24 | Stopped taking testosterone and began my detransition. |
| 25 | Understood the permanent health complications, including infertility, from my transition. |
Top Comments by /u/Historical_Pea3597:
I knew a “trans lesbian”. We met prior to transition and actually ended up living together (as flatmates) which is when they came out. I was supportive but it quickly became pretty uncomfortable - they suddenly thought it was okay to go into graphic detail about sexual fantasies (most of which was the epitome of lesbian porn directed by and for men) which bear in mind had never been a component of our friendship before. They also started overtly hitting on me (again they must’ve thought “I’ve seen this porn scenario before - lesbian flatmates always bang!”). Made me feel really gross in a way a woman has never been able to make me feel. Totally felt like a pawn in their fetish.
More recently I befriended another trans lesbian (more like befriended me) and although I’m not sure what she was like before, it was totally same vibes. Hitting on me even though they knew they had a partner and only talking about graphic sex scenarios, again from the perspective of a male gaze. I regret that I validated both of them (because they both constantly fished for it) to avoid being hurtful or a prude. Can also confidently say I never had any of those vibes or conversations with any of my lesbian or hetero cis friends before. I’m sick of my sexuality being fetishised by males in all their forms.
Porn and thirst traps are for the male gaze so trying to embody them is legit just a very male thing to do. Reducing femininity to content created for the male gaze is harmful to woman and to me just shows someone as having a male socialisation. Don’t confuse sex work with a personality.
All of your arguments are flawed and some are even hypocritical. Accusing other people of generalising whilst in the same breath saying that all trans healthcare is great and for the right reason! You also fail to answer any of the points put to you and instead, you are using commonly disputed stats that are obviously unhelpful to a decision either way and are using anecdotal examples of people running away from their inheritance as proof which is frankly just weird and stupid. I know people who’ve chosen heroin over their family, inheritance AND freedom. Find it confusing that you are detrans if you think it’s all so peachy and can’t imagine that you’ve been let down. Get off Reddit and go touch some grass. You’re not changing anyone’s mind here.
What the fuck is your problem dude. It’s so disrespectful of you to not only assume OPs experience based on a bias that you don’t believe trans healthcare is bad and find it offensive for people to have a different experience - when lots of people can attest to being poorly informed of their choices. Again (replied to you on another post) another dumb comparison from you well done. Vaccinations are largely very well understood with comprehensive literature about possible negative effects. It’s also better understood what your risks are if you choose not to take them. There are loads of long term studies and taking them is beneficial to the general public. You think you sound smart but genuinely sound laughably dumb. It’s painful reading your comments, they’re so stupid.
Get the fuck out of here with your victim blaming bullshit. There are polite and respectful ways to disagree but I reckon you’re just a troll. If you want to be back in your hug box with only one truth and narrative (that no one dare deviates from) than then go onto one of the many shitty echo chambers that have been designed for you, and not a support group for detrans people. You’re disgusting.
I couldn’t quite put my finger on it at the time but I’ve come to agree with you on why it felt so other to my experience. A combination of male socialisation and a misunderstanding of what it means to be a lesbian based on poor source material e.g. porn. One of them is now in a t4t relationship which works for them seeing as they both have the same expectations I guess.
It’s weird though as they both told me they wanted to be with a woman but as a woman and they didn’t mean in terms of genitals. I guess that also felt so other to me because I don’t think any relationship has to have traditional gender roles anyway, regardless of the sexes of the couple. I’ve seen my hetero friends both in gender conforming relationships and ones that are largely indiscernible to my relationship bar the fact it’s a man and a woman.
I’ve seen your comments on other threads and I respectfully disagreed with you but no need to be respectful seeing as you don’t feel the need to be respectful. You’re embarrassing yourself and I don’t have to and won’t further engage with you as you are clearly not very bright. 🤡
Can’t personally speak to medical detransition but I’m sure lots of others will be along soon to answer your questions!
In the meantime I’d advise scrolling through the page. There are a lot of people in the same situation as you who are further along in there journey of detransition. It should help to give you confidence that of course you’ll be able to live a normal (and even wonderful) life. You got this!