You’re absolutely right about this topic, and it’s very obvious to everyone, except the addicts themselves, that this is a HUGE problem. It’s extremely common to see porn/sex/fetish addicts in the T community, but it is, of course, flat out denied by said addicts. Porn addiction is VERY rampant in the trans women community, as is trans women’s now socially acceptable lesbian conversion therapy fetish.

A truly horrifying amount of TW drool over sharing ideas amongst each other of raping a lesbian with their “girl cock” until she turns straight, and I’ll admit that once I actually cried when I read a particularly horrifying conversation therapy fantasy story that some TW wrote last year. The depravities and crimes they want to literally force upon women with their very male genitals is truly, completely terrifying. SO many trans women have this disgusting obsession with misogyny and sexual assault. But the trans community, instead of facing this problem head on and openly condemning it, followed by working on putting a stop to this widespread homophobic/misogynistic rape culture among their members, instead just sends people death threats for daring to point out these horrible assault fetishizations of women. And ofc, they all pull out the classic “This literally never happens” or “Suck my giant girl dick and die, TERF.”

Funny, “cis 🙄” men have been well known throughout history for fetishizing lesbians, raping women, and obsessing over getting their dicks sucked, too. Hmm…I wonder what the connection is?

“Radfem” in this day and age basically just means you’re a woman who doesn’t think biological men have a place in women’s locker rooms/bathrooms(aka, single sex spaces where women/girls are getting partially to fully nude), women’s prisons and rape recovery centers, or that you don’t agree with trans women harassing and coercing lesbians into straight sex.

A lot of detrans females follow this route because it’s simply common sense to be against these misogynistic/homophobic things, and we’ve gotten sick of seeing it being highly praised and encouraged in the trans community. Even if you’re not a feminist but you agree that women/girls deserve to spaces away from men, you’ll be automatically labeled as a “radfem”.

Best not to get squirrelly about the label, and just accept that it means you’re a good person who doesn’t think that women/girls and lesbians exist just to satisfy men in skirts or be forced to non-consensually be a prop in their perverse fantasies of bathroom “gender euphoria” 🤷‍♀️

This argument has always bothered me, even while I was transitioning, so thank you for bringing this topic up!

A female getting breast implants to make her natural breasts, that she grew from going through natural female puberty, even bigger has absolutely NOTHING to do with an imagined gender identity or a need for validation of what sex we already are. It’s simply about trying to fix an insecurity that a huge majority of women develop over time, all because of centuries and centuries worth of body shaming and hyper sexualization from men.

Women/girls do not have to identify into our own sex class. To claim that anyone who’s accepting of their sex; aka, not having gender dysphoria and having mental breakdowns about what’s between your legs, still means we’re “choosing an identity” that matches our “assigned’ gender“, is absolute lunacy.

Waxing, getting acrylic nails done, or even buying makeup(yes I have seen this argument 💀) is not “gender affirming care”. Reconstruct surgery after a woman survived breast cancer is not “gender affirming care”. Men getting a corrective procedure for their receding hairline is not “gender affirming care”.

At this point, the trans community might even start saying that women daring to use pads or tampons during our period is “gender affirming care” that we’re opting into. I can’t believe we’re backsliding so badly as a society, to the point that in 2024, there’s actually grown ass adults teaching elementary school students that women can impregnate other women, and that men can get pregnant and give birth. It’s all crazy talk and straight up LIES, and yet the masses are praising and encouraging this behavior.

Straight up banning gay men from LGBT events, all because they’re regular boring homosexuals who aren’t exciting enough with their lack of gender dysphoria. This is straight up homophobia, and yet anyone who calls this out will be accused of homophobia ourselves?? Sickening.

I’m so sorry you had to experience that from your ex, but I’m not very shocked to hear of it. This is becoming a very common problem that women are facing, and I’m saddened to see how many are settling because they’re either scared of being labeled a “transphobe”, or they’re scared of their partner physically abusing them. I’m SO glad you had the bravery to get away from him, and I hope sincerely hope you’re doing better now and are in a safer environment 💗💗

Thank you for sharing your story with me. You’re incredibly inspiring and are SO strong, to have gone through such a traumatizing, frightening relationship but come out such a strong woman despite it all.

I really hope this huge looming issue porn/rape obsession will die out, but I’ll admit that I’m pretty skeptical it’ll end anytime soon. Women are getting raped and impregnated by men in women’s single sex prisons, and instead of putting the man to a male prison like he should’ve been to begin with, they just transfer him over to a different women’s prison. It can be so frightening to be female in today’s society, and I genuinely never thought something so backwards and horrific like this could be legally happening to women in the 2020’s. But we have to keep fighting against this evil ideology and just keep hoping. They may seem like an impossible threat at times, but women make up half the population and we outnumber them by far. Women around the world aren’t going to keep putting up with our children, sisters and ourselves getting sexualized, degraded and assaulted for much longer.

I hope you’re having an amazing day, thank you for talking so openly with me! We need more strong women like you, who don’t condone the terrible actions of these TW just because they’re a minority or because it’s the less troublesome path to take.

Wishing you the very best 💗

There absolutely IS scientific studies that prove that an unfortunately large portion of trans people have trauma and/or mental health issues that led them to identifying as transgender. The majority of the trans people with trauma responses, in MANY studies, were females who were sexually assaulted by a man, and afterwards tried to escape their femininity (and women’s vastly higher risk of being SAd) by identifying as a man. Even those who didn’t realize their trans identity was a trauma response said so, so many obvious things that pointed to their transness being a defensive maneuver.

And with the mental illness part, it was frequently noted in different studies that bipolar disorder, multiple personality disorder, and narcissistic personality disorder were present among trans patients. And, of course, autism is VERY common in the trans community. It’s well known that a large portion of autistic people have trouble understanding basic concepts. Like, for example, gender, and how there’s only two genders (female and male). History of SA, mental illness issues and neurodivergence is all very common in that community, but I’m absolutely not surprised that your trans friend denied your valid points and tried to say there’s absolutely no proof(when there very much is).

These are the same type of people who eagerly spread medical misinformation, encourage medical malpractice and child endangerment, lie and say that puberty blockers have absolutely zero negative effects on the child’s health/growth+mental development, lie by claiming women can impregnate men and that men can get pregnant and give birth, that trans women can menstruate (despite being male and having naturally having absolutely zero of the female reproductive organs and female hormones/chromosomes required to ovulate), that lesbians(homosexual females) have penises or are attracted to penis/biological males, that gay men(homosexual males) are attracted to biological females/vagina, etc…The T community is full of rampant liars, misogynists and homophobes, despite their claims of love and inclusivity for all.

So yeah, you’re absolutely correct and your friend is in the wrong, but I’m sure they’re secretly aware of that, deep down. Please don’t let them gaslight you into thinking you’re crazy about noticing obvious patterns in certain groups of people 💗 (And I did NOT mean to type that much, I’m so sorry for the accidental essay 😭)

That has absolutely nothing to do with “gendered souls” being real. That’s your brain literally just unconsciously analyzing the bone structure and behavior of the person in front of you. Females have evolved to be especially good at this, for obvious reasons. Please stop with this souls nonsense, there’s no such thing as gendered feelings or gendered souls or gendered hearts 💀😭

That estrogen packaging is absolutely disgusting and points to horrific grooming motivations. I don’t use that word casually, and this genuinely seems like they are trying to target minors and fetishize their transition. Thank goodness you stopped ordering that stuff 😮‍💨

Being a male or a female isn’t a state of feeling or emotion, you just are or you aren’t. You saying you “know you’re a man” makes me really confused as to why you’re actually here, since your mindset is still VERY consistent with the way the leftist trans community + TRAs view sex, “gendered feelings” and gender stereotypes. Saying you might try out “being a woman” by wearing female clothing…Weird. Being female isn’t about what clothes you wear, never has been never will be.

And can we please not encourage or idolize the use of puberty blockers in this group?…

That’s so amazing that you can get that procedure!! I’m so jealous, testosterone absolutely ruined my singing voice, and now I cannot “sing” any higher or lower than my talking voice pitch level 😪

Good luck on your surgery, I wish you an easy recovery!! 💕