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About me
I was born male and my gender confusion started around 30, fueled by my mental health struggles and trauma from a volatile childhood. I explored nonbinary identities and joined online communities to understand my dysphoria. My Hindu faith was crucial, helping me see my true self as a man who simply rejects rigid gender norms. I realized my discomfort wasn't about being the wrong gender, but about not wanting to be confined by stereotypes. I'm now at peace, living comfortably as a cisgender man who presents androgynously without any desire to transition.
My detransition story
My journey with gender has been complicated, but I’ve come to a place of peace with it now. I never fully transitioned medically or socially, but I spent a lot of time thinking about it and trying to figure out where I fit.
I was born male, and for a long time, I thought I might have gender dysphoria. I had fantasies about wearing loose, gender-neutral clothing that leaned feminine. I hated the idea of having to be "the man of the house" and all the expectations that came with that. I think a lot of my discomfort came from my upbringing. My parents had an arranged marriage and their relationship was really volatile—a lot of anger and some physical violence that left me with what I think is PTSD. They were hot and cold with me and my brother, and that environment made it hard to feel secure in myself.
I also have bipolar 2 disorder, OCD, and OCPD, and I only recently started to consider that my gender confusion might have been a trigger for my depressive episodes. I’m a millennial, so I felt a bit late to the game in exploring this. For a while, I thought I might be nonbinary. Internally, I felt like a "perceiving light-mind blob in the void," not really male or female. I would have been happy to pass as androgynous or a feminine man while still being able to present as male when I wanted to.
A big part of my life has been my Hindu faith. It gave me a framework to understand myself that felt deeper than modern gender labels. I found a lot of comfort in scripture that describes the divine as neither male nor female, and that we can connect with that energy in any form we need. It made me realize that my feelings weren't about being a different gender, but about not wanting to be confined by gender norms at all. I told my mom, who kept asking if I was trying to be a woman, that I just care so little about gender norms that I end up looking androgynous by accident. I like it that way.
I joined some online communities, like detransition spaces and askAGP, because I was trying to understand my mild dysphoria and crossdressing fantasies. But I eventually realized I wasn't trans or autogynephilic; I'm just a man who is comfortable being nonconforming. I think a lot of the push to transition, especially for others I saw online, comes from a place of spiritual bankruptcy and buying into a Western media psyop about gender roles. I saw a lot of people, especially MTF immigrants, getting into bad relationships because they were so desperate to be seen as female in a straight relationship, and it seemed like they were just trading one set of problems for another.
I don’t regret exploring my gender because it led me to a better understanding of myself. But I’m glad I didn’t medically transition. I think my dysphoria was more related to my mental health conditions and trauma than to being born in the wrong body. I benefited from realizing that I could reject gender norms without changing who I am fundamentally. I’m comfortable now as a cishet man who just doesn’t conform to stereotypes.
Here is a timeline of my journey based on my experiences:
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| Throughout childhood | Grew up in a volatile home with parental anger and violence, which I believe gave me PTSD. |
| Early adulthood | Diagnosed with bipolar 2 disorder, OCD, and OCPD. |
| Around 30 | Began experiencing mild gender dysphoria and fantasies about feminine-leaning, gender-neutral clothing. Started exploring nonbinary identities online. |
| 30 | Joined online detransition and AGP communities to understand my feelings. |
| 30 | Through my Hindu faith, realized I was a nonconforming man, not trans or nonbinary. Stopped identifying with gender dysphoria. |
| Present (30) | Comfortably living as a cisgender, heterosexual man who rejects rigid gender norms. |
Top Comments by /u/HonestlySyrup:
is rivet from ratchet and clank your idea of a normal woman?
i don't know why there is such trouble accepting the lived experience of cisgendered people is different from trans people, or even from dysphoric people who never transition. people want safe spaces to be able to discuss things that make them feel vulnerable. women feel uncomfortable talking about the sex drives and manipulative behaviors of men when there are LARPers among them. put a MtF in front of a tv that airs Dateline 24/7 and count she'll be howling "not ALL men" after a few episodes.
wait till you yap about how arabs started the african slave trade, or that lgbtq+ activist support for palestine is a feint for anti-semitism. reddit doesn't like these topics either
i also "LOVE" the fact there are literal nazi and pedo subs operating in high numbers, but me speaking my mind was crossing the line
they're honeypots. palantir is collecting kompromat
in hinduism, when you fully understand the scripture it causes ego death. then you "rebuild" your ego with a mix of your preferred legendary figures. their personalities have been documented in scripture over thousands of years as a guidebook. the concept of "kinning" isn't much different from sanskrit "bhava".
identify as men or non-binary, regardless of whether or not they were in costume, and regardless of how they presented
i have seen pansexual / polyamorous people go as "any pronouns" because i think they're willing to play "any" gender role in a potential relationship (romantic or otherwise honestly, there are still 'gender roles' in platonic relationships).
pan women i know present a lil lesbian i guess? and i mainly hear them talk about their "anchor" relationships with other poly girls so im guessing like one of them will be "he/him" and the other will be "she/her"?? i dunno maybe im reading into it
by the commenter's own logic , the "saved" trans kid is still an "idiot who gets sterilized" but just doesnt experience regret. thats not the right way to look at it, but if suicides are lowered and detransitioners are able to lead meaningful, happy, and healthy lives i think there is a net social benefit. there are nuanced gender issues and other social issues parallel to this but shouldnt be misconstrued with clinical outlook. there is a cold "data oriented" way to look at this where the hopeful outcome is "more people are able to lead more meaningful lives". unfortunately handling more than 2-3 nuances causes people to implode these days
i guess someone will eventually come along and have to look at depression / suicide rates before and after transitioning became socially accepted - specifically comparing rates among untransitioned / closeted people before the social acceptance and rates among the detransitioned. if detransitioned people are able to still find healthy lives and depression / suicide rates among the gender dysphoric is down then it is overall a good thing.
i find it strange that people are afraid of being shunned for trying to study this. like all you gotta do sometimes is just nod while people are screaming nonsense in your face and then get back to your business. just study this shit and people who want to yell and scream will eventually not have the energy to continue yelling and screaming
disconnected from femininity
you're disconnected from what media forces down women's collective throats since an early age. it's intentional patriarchy to keep women in a small dark world. the men get their own set of propaganda. the trans identity is a symptom of this spiritual bankruptcy.
i've noticed international MtF immigrants seek safety in america end up getting into relationships with closeted bi "american" men who appear to be chasers IMO. they don't even care if the men are abusive because they are so drawn "straight" relationship with a chaser who sees them as female. they bought into the western media psyop rather than wherever they came from.
one of my favorite quotes from the tamilveda / thiruvaimozhi (sacred mouth verses) that proves to me modern gender ideology is a symptom of rampant spiritual bankruptcy
2953 சொல்லீர் என் அம்மானை என் ஆவி ஆவிதனை
எல்லை இல் சீர் என் கருமாணிக்கச் சுடரை
நல்ல அமுதம் பெறற்கு அரிய வீடும் ஆய்
அல்லி மலர் விரை ஒத்து ஆண் அல்லன் பெண் அலனே (9)
2953 He is the soul inside my soul.
He is bright like a dark diamond
and he has endless fame.
He is sweet nectar.
He is moksha that is hard to attain.
He is the fragrance of alli flowers.
He is neither male nor female.
2954 ஆண் அல்லன் பெண் அல்லன் அல்லா அலியும் அல்லன்
காணலும் ஆகான் உளன் அல்லன் இல்லை அல்லன்
பேணுங்கால் பேணும் உரு ஆகும் அல்லனும் ஆம்
கோணை பெரிது உடைத்து எம் பெம்மானைக் கூறுதலே (10)
2954 He is not a male, not a female,
and he is not an ali, who is neither.
No one can see him.
He neither is, nor is not.
When a devotee wishes to see him
he will appear in the form that the devotee wishes
or he may not be there.
To describe the dear lord is very hard.
A commentary on a sanskrit hymn "Daya Satikam" dedicated to the Hindu Goddess Devi shows the validity of modern gender theory in some aspects:
This stotra is unique in several respects. In the history of religious literature, Vedanta Desika is the first poet-devotee to sing a whole hymn in praise of the Lord’s Daya (mercy, grace, sympathy and compassion are some of the meanings which that term connotes). In fact, Daya has been personified as Daya Devi and made a Consort of the Lord. The other Consorts, Lakshmi, Bhu Devi and Nila Devi are all dear to the Lord because they are reflections of Daya Devi. (36). Among all the auspicious attributes (kalyana-gunas) of the Lord, Daya is the Empress (30, 101). But for Daya’s presence, all the other gunas will virtually be dosha-s (faults) in the Lord so far as we are concerned (15), as they will all help Him only to punish us for our sins. The Lord Himself dons Daya as a protecting armour against our sins which assail Him. (28). The two chief aspects of the Lord’s supreme glory, jagat-vyaapaara and releasing souls from samsara, for which He is praised by the Vedas, are really Daya Devi’s achievements (68). Daya is defined as the Lord’s wish (iccha) to protect those in distress (71).
im in the whole "have gender dysphoria as a man, but am not trans" thing, so different from your experience completely, but hoping you still value my opinion:
Do I carry on living as trans forever, feeling stressed and burdened all the while?
this sounds awful and I don't think anyone would recommend this
Do I find some middle-ground nonbinary identity that will hit most of the boxes for me, even if its not perfect?
i lost a lot of weight during covid and my face started looking more like my mom's, and i started wearing my hair long and when i brush it it's feminine. my mom (orthodox hindu) keeps asking me "are you trying to be a woman"? and i told her "i'm literally not trying anything, you should just see me as someone who cares so little about gender norms that i'm accidentally androgynous". i like it this way. a white friend of mine who i think is bi was saying how he thinks indian women are beautiful and i told him "i sorta look like an indian woman with a beard xD" and he got flustered LOL. i am not into men but i thought it was funny